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What are soul ties?
A soul tie is an emotional bond or connection that unites you with
someone else. You can become bound to a person through your soul.
Have you found yourself tormented by thoughts about a person,
excessively wondering about them, checking on them, rehearsing times
with them? If so, you have soul ties. Have you grieved over a severed
relationship with someone you were once close to? If so, you have soul
Soul ties are formed through close friendships, through vows,
commitments and promises, and through physical intimacy. Not all soul
ties are bad. God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us
up, provide wisdom, and give godly counsel. God will strategically bring
good relationships into our lives to form healthy soul ties. “When
David had finished speaking to Saul, the soul of Jonathan was knit with
the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own life” (1 Sam. 18:1
(AMP). In contrast, Satan always brings counterfeits into our lives to
form unhealthy soul ties.
A few ways unhealthy soul ties can be formed include:
· Abusive relationships (physically, sexually, emotionally, verbally)
· Adulterous affairs
· Sex before marriage
· Obsessive entanglements with a person (giving them more authority in your life than you give to God)
· Controlling relationships
Four Indicators of Wrong Soul Ties
1. “I feel so confused.”
When you are outside the will of God in a particular relationship, you
will experience confusion. Your feelings will tell you one thing; your
spirit will tell you another. That’s where the confusion comes in. “God
is not the author of confusion but of peace” (1 Cor. 14:33, KJV). If you
are not experiencing peace in this relationship or “soul tie”, then
something is not right. That is the Holy Spirit warning you and working
to get your attention. You need to respect these warnings. They are not
to be brushed off or treated as a small thing. Honor the Holy Spirit’s
leading in your life. You should not feel confused if you are in the
will of God, and honestly, why would you want to be any other place?
When you are confused about a relationship, you can make unwise,
regretful decisions. You need to take purposeful steps in feeding your
spirit the truth of God’s Word. The truth always overrides deception.
2. “I’m just miserable.”
When we persist in doing something that we know God is not in agreement
with, we will experience a type of misery that doesn’t go away. You may
feel uneasy inside, extreme anxiety, sorrow or pain. You may feel
disgusted by what you’re doing, yet feel powerless to change your
situation. Those are all indicators that Satan is at work in your life
to destroy it. David cried out in Psalm 38:8, “I am exhausted and
completely crushed. My groans come from an anguished heart.” (NLT). If
that describes how you feel when you’re alone, I want you to know there
is hope. Psalm 23:3 says, “He restores my soul” (NIV). Those four little
words will redefine your life. God will restore your mind, your will
and your emotions.
3. “My mind is tormented.”
The mind of Christ is one that is at peace no matter what the
circumstances. When Satan has invaded our souls through wrong soul ties,
our minds will not be at rest. This is where your battle takes place.
Is your mind constantly replaying images of the past and rehearsing
previous conversations like a broken record? Do your thoughts produce
fear or make you feel unclean? Whatever is going on in your mind is
affecting your emotional state. Your feelings are indicators of what you
are thinking about. Second Corinthians 10:5 says that we are to renew
our minds by taking “captive every thought to make it obedient to
Christ” (NIV). I will be the first to admit that this is not easy, but
it is necessary. You can do this. As a Christian you can get your
thoughts under the control of your reborn spirit. How? By speaking God’s
Word out of your mouth every single time a negative thought enters your
mind. Don’t just think it, speak it. It can be as simple as saying:
“Thank You, Lord, that you restore my soul”… over and over and over. Be
persistent. There’s nothing Satan hates more than to hear you speak the
Word of God and the name of Jesus out of your mouth!
4. “I didn’t mean to disobey God…on purpose.”
If you feel like you have been dealing with a situation for far too long
and nothing seems to help you get beyond it, remember this phrase: God
will not advance your instructions beyond your last act of disobedience.
If you don’t fully obey what God is telling you to do, you will never
move beyond your current circumstances. I don’t know what that means to
you, but I know what it meant for me years ago. I was desperate to move
beyond my circumstances no matter how painful it would be.
Why would we disobey God?
· We doubt our ability to hear from God.
· It hurts too badly.
· It’s uncomfortable.
· It’s not what our flesh “wants” to do.
· We say that we are waiting for God to change us.
· We are waiting for God to change someone else.
Rather than simply obey God, I believe we try to find answers that
won’t be uncomfortable. We wait for an easier way, but we stay miserable
inside. What is God telling you to do? Be honest with yourself right
now. If God was standing in front of you right now, what do you believe
He would instruct you to do in your situation? Don’t go another day,
month, or year struggling—obey God’s instructions. Remember, partial
obedience is still disobedience. Delayed obedience is still
disobedience. Do what God is telling you to do knowing ahead of time
that it’s always for your benefit. God is not trying to hurt you. He’s
trying to help you. He sees what you don’t see. You will never regret
obeying God. Never. Your life isn’t over because a relationship is. God
wants you to let go of the past and get on a pursuit. He has big dreams
for your life.