Bored with my natural hair...

I don't know whether to shave off the side of my head that is slowly fading away due to damage from braids (similar to HairCrush aka Chime on Youtube) or to get a texturizer. Out of all my years natural (1.5 transitioning, 1.5 fully natural) I always find a way to get out of wearing my natural hair out. It is fine, coarse, and frizz-city everytime I wear it out. I can't tackle the fact that my hair is so fine with absolutely no definition.... I want dreads but I can not do the commitment so I'm in yarn braids, trying to thicken and protect my hair. I use heat (blow-drying) a lot because my hair air-drying is a TORTURE unless I braid it or band it nightly. I'm tired of that mess!!!! Ugh I know my hair and the products that work but I HATE puffs, braidsouts and twistouts have nooo definition unless I wear scalpy a* braids or twists all week then let it loose.I'm really fed-up. I'm done trying to blend it with weaves as I realize it is just as high maintenance as my natural hair. PLEASE HELP ME BEFORE I CUT ALL MY HAIR OFF AGAIN! or heat damage it, make it more fine or break off, or relax (and btw I hate my straight hair and why I wanted to go natural). I've already tried color too and it resulted in a MAJOR setback. UGHH!!!!

I haven't tried finger coils but I will def. give them a shot for my trip to ATL on the 11th... how do I keep them fresh and moisturized without them becoming frizzy? Shea butter?

Edited by wanderlust87 - Dec 23 2012 at 4:00am

thanks ladies... you don't know how much you've truly helped me except what I have on my head and embrace protective styling. I joined a 6 month protective styling challenge so that I can rebuild my hair to its full potential. I then will either cut it or wear it out ... during that 6 months I plan to get some great styles that I can wear on the weekends so that once I gain/retain more length and thickness, I will be satisfied. No cutting for me unless I have another setback during the challenge, which I shouldn't.

when I get bored with my natural hair, I do some of these:

wig it up with a half wig I found that matches my hair well

or you can try a full wig. wigs are nice because you can still treat your hair underneath and don't have to have something on your head 24/7. you can also switch up the wig styles often and experiment. if you care about others viewing you in so many diff wig styles you can try a consistent style of wigs.

also, i will try a different braid/twist pattern on my head and make up my own styles.

but the thing i do most often is wear one of my many cute crochet hats (with silk scarf underneath). i'll spice it up by leaving out some of my front to make a big puff bang. sometimes i'll twist up the puff bank to make twist bangs.

HTH!