Bootcamp for troubled kids

We need more details on his personality. How long has he been acting like this?

He has anger issues as well. He once took a sharpie and wrote the word "hate" all over his closet. He has threatened suicide a number of times. He never thinks he does anything wrong and challenges my mom when she tells him to do something.

His schoolwork is suffering and has been for along time. He's barely passing some classes and has failed others.

His friends, IDK how they act in their own homes but from what I've seen they act alright. My mom thinks maybe he's getting this from his friends though.

Yes, he's yelled at my dad before too and been disrespectful and he's been yoked up for it. It hasn't changed his behavior. He calls my grandma crying then she calls my mom and threatens to call the cops on my dad. I think my dad just gave up trying to discipline him.

My mom actually told me she doesn't want to tell my dad all that has been going on because he will tell her that he's been telling her the boy is disrespectful but she's been letting it slide. Putting the blame on her.

Edited by tropical-punch - Jan 31 2013 at 11:11pm

tropical-punch wrote: He has anger issues as well. He once took a sharpie and wrote the word "hate" all over his closet. He has threatened suicide a number of times. He never thinks he does anything wrong and challenges my mom when she tells him to do something. His schoolwork is suffering and has been for along time. He's barely passing some classes and has failed others. His friends, IDK how they act in their own homes but from what I've seen they act alright. My mom thinks maybe he's getting this from his friends though. Yes, he's yelled at my dad before too and been disrespectful and he's been yoked up for it. It hasn't changed his behavior. He calls my grandma crying then she calls my mom and threatens to call the cops on my dad. I think my dad just gave up trying to discipline him. My mom actually told me she doesn't want to tell my dad all that has been going on because he will tell her that he's been telling her the boy is disrespectful but she's been letting it slide. Putting the blame on her.

The bold indicates there needs to be some sort of counseling.

He needs to learn there are consequences for his actions, serious ones. First of all, if he threatens suicide, call the police. If he's really trying to kill himself, then that saves his life. If he's not, he needs to know that doing that is not funny nor is it ok to use that type of emotional blackmail on his parents. That is not something to just let slide. A 24 hour hold would probably be enough for him to learn to never do that again if he's just using it to scare your mom.

Second, if he's barely passing classes then his parents need to figure out an educational intervention. Especially if he won't be able to graduate on time as a result. Maybe it would be better for him to get his High School Equivalency or GED and then go to community college or trade school.

Your parents need to lay down the law about what they will and will not accept and then follow through. Nothing changes if nothing changes. Make it a requirement to go to therapy, get passing grades, work, and whatever else or else all he'll get is a blanket, some oatmeal, and a raggedy outfit from the dollar store. And if he doesn't like it, he can get the hell out.

I also think maysay gave really good advice...

To add, I'm sorry that you and your family are going through this. It's very hard to watch your baby bro/sis suffer in ways you can't help with.

^Right?

I hope he gets help while he is still young and can turn it all around.