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He believes that women are emotionally stronger than men and black women should be more resistant societal pressures ?
Hold up now

He didnt say this explicitly but ultimately I feel this is where he is going

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I agree with some of what he said. We shouldn't call the process of growing our own hair " the ugly phase".

I don't have a problem with my hair being called nappy or calling someone else's hair nappy, cuz nappy doesn't have a negative connotation to me. You would only be offended by your hair being called nappy if you think nappy is a bad thing.
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Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I agree with some of what he said. We shouldn't call the process of growing our own hair " the ugly phase".

I don't have a problem with my hair being called nappy or calling someone else's hair nappy, cuz nappy doesn't have a negative connotation to me. You would only be offended by your hair being called nappy if you think nappy is a bad thing.
 
Same here.  My status on BBM is often times, "happy to be nappy."  I'm sure some people use it in a condescending way, but the term is empowering to me.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (1) Thanks(1)   Quote sugabanana Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 24 2013 at 12:33pm
off topic uppity I wish I knew how to tie gele like your avi. I spent 3 hours trying to tie my stoopid gele. My arms were tired and my hubby was like " The wedding started at 6 and we are still in the house at 9". I even had 2 YT videos going at the sametime. Those ladies never turn around to show you where they still the ends.

Ok carry on the the thread.......
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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by ShadyLady ShadyLady wrote:

I agree with some of what he said. We shouldn't call the process of growing our own hair " the ugly phase".

I don't have a problem with my hair being called nappy or calling someone else's hair nappy, cuz nappy doesn't have a negative connotation to me. You would only be offended by your hair being called nappy if you think nappy is a bad thing.
 
Same here.  My status on BBM is often times, "happy to be nappy."  I'm sure some people use it in a condescending way, but the term is empowering to me.


i'm like that when black folks say it, but when white ppl do i feel some kinda way.

some of what he's saying is ok. other parts of it, like towards the end, i don't agree with.

i've never specifically used that phrase, but i think that for a lot of ppl "the ugly phase" isn't just how the hair looks, but the mental transformation as well. like maybe you were holding out for that 3b hair and see that you have 4b, and it makes you sad. you have this mini fro that you have no clue what to do with, don't see the light at the end of the tunnel, and you didn't think that it would be like this. and for most black women, their hair is a large part of who they are. to feel like your hair is not looking on point makes you feel ugly.

maybe that's just me. the mental aspect of going natural was the most difficult but the  most rewarding.
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Originally posted by CamiK CamiK wrote:

I don't know why folks refuse to blame the original oppressor...smh...
IA ...how bludy  uncoonlievable 
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