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ugh, i used to be one who didnt care anything about marriage and kids...sometimes didnt care for it at all...but since I hit 20 I feel like that's changing...I'd like to be in love NOW with marriage in the next 3/4 years and kids by 27/28...I promise you this was not the move for me like 3 months ago and now its heavy on my brain, im like what sorcery is this!? Disapprove
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i like being married in my 20s
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I'm straight thugging and pimping lol
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I'm 27 and single and all I'm doing is dating and playing the field however I'm dating with the intent to marry. What many women don't realize is that not every guy you meet is "the one". So if you start putting a time limit on it then you think that guy #4 is the one and you start rushing sh!t. If I know a guy and I don't match up, I cut him loose. Although it would be nice to be married by 30, sometimes when you put a time limit on it, it creates unnecessary pressure. You're spending so much time trying to get to the altar that you don't realize that all the red flags are popping up and you're ignoring them. Next thing you know, you're headed to a divorce. You just have to know who you're dating, because in my opinion the difference between a 5 year relationship with no marriage in it's future and a 2 year relationship that's headed for marriage is communication. It's important to discuss what both people want out of the relationship EARLY that way there aren't any problems like you get married then realize your hubby/wife doesn't want kids...ever.


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Originally posted by reesegurl11 reesegurl11 wrote:

So and I been together 10 years and we ain't married *shrug* we know we're meant for each other.
do you have kids?
live together?
share bills & bank accts in the same name?

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Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


wouldnt be me
my max is 5 years(while im under 30)
 
if i dont have a ring by then, bish swerve
 



This all day! I watched my mom and step mom wait on my dad (step mom has been waiting for 15 years+ for whatever deranged reason) so I told my s/o the deal. 5 years and I'm out!!!


He put a ring on it!


But honestly, I would have waited for him. He is sooo worth it.

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Originally posted by IslandSuga IslandSuga wrote:

I'm 27 and single and all I'm doing is dating and playing the field however I'm dating with the intent to marry. What many women don't realize is that not every guy you meet is "the one". So if you start putting a time limit on it then you think that guy #4 is the one and you start rushing sh!t. If I know a guy and I don't match up, I cut him loose. Although it would be nice to be married by 30, sometimes when you put a time limit on it, it creates unnecessary pressure. You're spending so much time trying to get to the altar that you don't realize that all the red flags are popping up and you're ignoring them. Next thing you know, you're headed to a divorce. You just have to know who you're dating, because in my opinion the difference between a 5 year relationship with no marriage in it's future and a 2 year relationship that's headed for marriage is communication. It's important to discuss what both people want out of the relationship EARLY that way there aren't any problems like you get married then realize your hubby/wife doesn't want kids...ever.


CHURCH! 

A lot of women end up in miserable marriages because there were too quick to get married and meet some crazy age deadline.  This was one of the reasons I end my last relationship was due the fact that he had just turned 30 and felt like he should be married. To me, it wasn't that fact that I was "the one" but he was ready and I was there. .....I "swerved" so fast. lol.... (i must use that word more often LOL)
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Yes I personally think the "I must be married in 3 years" thing is stupid but hey do what works for you
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i know a girl who got engaged after knowing dude for 30 days.  they got married (lavish azz wedding) exactly 6 months after meeting.  they said it was God's will...
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