Black women without black friends

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 maysay1 wrote:

 mrshairdo wrote:

 maysay1 wrote:

I am unique, but to me it's not about a ratchet/nonratchet dichotomy. I think "ratchet" interests/behavior/pursuits are just as valid as "nonratchet" ones.

I would love to find another 27 year old black woman with no kids, no man (and no interest in getting one), who is non-theist, a plain/modest dresser, not super social, and is interested in reading, watching movies/tv, eating good food, and just generally enjoys quiet, simple things in life.

So far it's impossible.

why does she have to not have a man or want one? or why does her wardrobe matter?

some of the best ppl are polar opposites..

Well if she has a man or is interested in getting one eventually, lots of her conversations will revolve around that. And she'll like activities that are centered around that (like going to bars, parties, clubs, etc). I'm just not interested so we wouldn't have anything to talk about/do together on that front.

Wardrobe matters because for many women fitting a certain mold matters to them...wearing whatever is most trendy, shopping, getting their hair/nails/makeup done, showing off their body, and wanting their friends to be, for lack of a better term, a "bad bitch"...none of which am I interested in.

Those are just some of the areas that influence the things people like to talk about and do...and we don't have anything in common in those areas a friendship isn't likely to work out.

You can actually find people who fit some of your "criteria" and can be your friend. I fit your bill except that I have a boyfriend and I believe in God. I don't talk about him constantly because there is no need, and I don't care if people don't  believe in God, neither I try to convince people to believe in Him (except as a joke).

I agree with you on the wardrobe issue because some girls they do look down at girls who do not wear/carry the designer crap that they enslave themselves to buy, but not all girls who are into fashion care about what their friends wear.