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I generally find Black people who don't interact with other Black people to be strange. That would include women of course. 

A lot of the time they're on that unicorn ish with statements such as "I'm the only Black person who ______ (fill in the blank). I look at the them the same way that I look at women who don't have female friends. Its like do you really think that you are that damn unique? You're the only non-rachet, really?
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Originally posted by Senior Detective Senior Detective wrote:

Cream, yall best bet is to move to one of them cities in pty's thread where the good blk ppl are


Economically, SA is great. Socially, it sucks.
We are considering moving to the Houston or Dallas area. I just bought a house 5 yrs ago and need to at least break even.

It may sound ridiculous, but it's like moving to New Hampshire and being expected to have a passel of Black friends.

Unless you've lived in San Antonio,(not being from), you really can't begin to understand.

I have yet to meet a Black person that is not from here that didn't say San Antonio is "different" and that they have a hard time meeting like minded folks.

But the economy is good.
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but you didn't say your sister doesn't have black friends
she does
she doesn't have black friends in her current city
that's different
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Originally posted by Cream1970 Cream1970 wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

I think it's just hard to make friends period, no matter the color.

I am just not interested in 90% of the things most  late 20's black women are interested in.


I don't know why that's so difficult to grasp.
My cousin loved acid rock as a teen. Painted his nails Black and work all Black.

Of course, there are other Black folks that love acid Rock. What was his chances of meeting them, and of the ones that he met, making a connection that could lead to friendship?

Law of Averages, he was going to have far more White friends than Black ones. Guess for some folks, he wasn't supposed to hang around folks he shared common interests with, but seek and befriend ones that he didn't.


Yep, it's more important to make friends based on who are similar interests--or there WILL be tension eventually. Been there, done that.
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they weird and are more annoying than white women
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I am unique, but to me it's not about a ratchet/nonratchet dichotomy. I think "ratchet" interests/behavior/pursuits are just as valid as "nonratchet" ones.

I would love to find another 27 year old black woman with no kids, no man (and no interest in getting one), who is non-theist, a plain/modest dresser, not super social, and is interested in reading, watching movies/tv, eating good food, and just generally enjoys quiet, simple things in life.

So far it's impossible.
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Originally posted by joileprincess joileprincess wrote:

I generally find Black people who don't interact with other Black people to be strange. That would include women of course. 

A lot of the time they're on that unicorn ish with statements such as "I'm the only Black person who ______ (fill in the blank). I look at the them the same way that I look at women who don't have female friends. Its like do you really think that you are that damn unique? You're the only non-rachet, really?


I agree with this too. Especially in the workplace, I miss interacting with other Black people who are similar to me.
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

but you didn't say your sister doesn't have black friends
she does
she doesn't have black friends in her current city
that's different


You're right. That's exactly what I said. Location and common interests directly affect who you befriend. You can't befriend people you don't meet and why force friendships with people that you can't relate to?

That's all I was trying to say.

I don't know any Black people that purposely not have Black friends. I don't think it's a conscious choice. They just clicked with who they clicked with.

It's likely some people who purposely avoid friendships with their own race. I just don't know any.
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Originally posted by Cream1970 Cream1970 wrote:

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

but you didn't say your sister doesn't have black friends
she does
she doesn't have black friends in her current city
that's different


You're right. That's exactly what I said. Location and common interests directly affect who you befriend. You can't befriend people you don't meet and why force friendships with people that you can't relate to?

That's all I was trying to say.

I don't know any Black people that purposely not have Black friends. I don't think it's a conscious choice. They just clicked with who they clicked with.

It's likely some people who purposely avoid friendships with their own race. I just don't know any.

those are the people i think this thread is discussing
circumstances and happenstance can make it hard to have friends who are black

but i know im talking about people who purposely do not associate w/negroes

but the OP lives in the Caribbean--idk how a black person could avoid black people there
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I understand living in a place where you don't relate to the ppl around you, even the ones who look like you.
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