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Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


I have had a comment made to me that was similar but it wasn't about race

it's strange how others plan your life for you

meh

I don't know what else to type because I didn't see a question in the OP and I am tired right now

this.... 
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it's natural... if you make a non obvious choice then people will wonder why, especially if the why isn't obvious

If this white person isn't obviously "exceptional" or has the same stats as a black guy then people will assume you have a preference for negative reasons

I'm sure you do it to your friends too for different reasons/markers

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a family member told me my husband isn't black

he is black and dominican
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I was married to a Dominican (not a different race), but i still got flak from "regular Black" people.

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Unless he is a coon Dominican then he is cool.
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Originally posted by mangachan mangachan wrote:

This isn't a "black men ain't sh!t" thread and if you you have an issue with IRR click the red X you troll.

To people who have or are dating interracially, have you had the feeling that people have automatically assume that you have sworn off black men?  My bf isn't black and I just really get the feeling that people assume I don't like and wouldn't ever date black men.  He's the first person I've dated so it's not even like I can just say "it's okay, I've dated black men before cool your jets!"  Now this isn't something that is ever explicitly said out loud but in reading between the lines, it's just this weird feeling whenever the topic comes up.

Oddly enough, this assumption is coming from black women in my life.  The black men in my life don't say much about it and one of them is glad I'm dating a white guy (he's a misanthropic recluse though so idk if he counts).  When discussing this issue I have gotten several responses of the following nature:


1) It's a fellow black woman who does have the "black men ain't sh!t" outlook, roast black men and complain about how none actually approach me or said black woman anyway.

2) They state they aren't surprised I'm dating someone not black.  The implication can only mean "black men ain't sh!t" or I'm some type of black people hating uncle Tom.  Both assumptions are stupid.

3) "Why can't you find somebody black?!"  This is a response garnered from female family members who's only prior contribution to my romantic interactions include the warnings not to have sex or end up with a crackhead.  Thoughts?


Like always say in these IR threads - leave the flippin country. It's the only real way to be .. free. The WORLD is your oyster and you are worried about what these backward folks think of your love life!

The wholllllle rest of the world (at least 95% of it and I have visited 48 countries so far) does not give a rat's a** who you choose to be with. It's the AA community that will mainly mess you over if you do something 'out of order'. You gotta 'conform'.

My ONLY regret about moving to Europe ... is that I didn't do it 20 years ago.

Either leave ... or you will have to stomach these AA folks trailing behind you trying to tell you who you can or cannot be with .. for the rest of your life. I am not kidding.

There's no end to it. So grow a thick skin.

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I get that too SL and my husband is black and caribbean 
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Ive found that 99.9% of ppl do not care at least not enough to say anything to my face.

I've seen ppl feel the need to defend it by stating how they have a long history of dating within. They usually project their own insecurities/ discomfort about the relationship on to others. Dunno if this applies to OP but ya...

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thats a bit harsh becky

Black to black relationships, is one of the only areas left where AAs have unity, that whites didn't intentionally erode with institutional racism so AAs have a right to be sensitive about it

It isn't out of ignorance it is out of awareness 




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thats true GKisses... it's a matter of perspective

The majority in her life probably don't comment 
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