Black women who date interracially...

This isn't a "black men ain't sh!t" thread and if you you have an issue with IRR click the red X you troll.

To people who have or are dating interracially, have you had the feeling that people have automatically assume that you have sworn off black men?  My bf isn't black and I just really get the feeling that people assume I don't like and wouldn't ever date black men.  He's the first person I've dated so it's not even like I can just say "it's okay, I've dated black men before cool your jets!"  Now this isn't something that is ever explicitly said out loud but in reading between the lines, it's just this weird feeling whenever the topic comes up.

Oddly enough, this assumption is coming from black women in my life.  The black men in my life don't say much about it and one of them is glad I'm dating a white guy (he's a misanthropic recluse though so idk if he counts).  When discussing this issue I have gotten several responses of the following nature:


1) It's a fellow black woman who does have the "black men ain't sh!t" outlook, roast black men and complain about how none actually approach me or said black woman anyway.

2) They state they aren't surprised I'm dating someone not black.  The implication can only mean "black men ain't sh!t" or I'm some type of black people hating uncle Tom.  Both assumptions are stupid.

3) "Why can't you find somebody black?!"  This is a response garnered from female family members who's only prior contribution to my romantic interactions include the warnings not to have sex or end up with a crackhead.  Thoughts?

I married interracially.  My experience of other peoples' reactions has been less "black men ain't sh*t" and more of "you know you're still black."

My sister married a doofy ass white dude(he looks exactly like shaggy from scooby doo). When she brought him home, she received a lot of side-eyes, not because of his race since she swore off Black men (until she got bored with her marriage) but because of his looks. My other sister dated a cute white guy, he was "hood" and no one ever questioned it or said anything. My brother's fiancé is Bosnian but he has never had "type".

It's cooning pure and simple.

it's natural... if you make a non obvious choice then people will wonder why, especially if the why isn't obvious