BLACK WOMEN WAKE THE F UP!

I read a book about changing your habits (Shout out to Tatee, she suggested it to me). And the basic premise of the book was why changing your own habits was so hard and why it seems people are making their life harder by keeping their own bad habits. (It was a very psychology filled book).  I suggest the book, it was good for me

Edited by _ConcreteRose_ - Mar 06 2013 at 2:46pm

_ConcreteRose_ wrote: I read a book about changing your habits (Shout out to Tatee, she suggested it to me). And the basic premise of the book was why changing your own habits was so hard and why it seems people are making their life harder by keeping their own bad habits. (It was a very psychology filled book).  I suggest the book, it was good for me Two things from the book stood out to me. The first thing is, scaring/shaming people into change doesn't work Invoking a negative emotion to inspire change will work for a while, but our brains don't like to be sad/mad for too long so it kinda pushes it into the back of our mind after a while (paraphrasing of course). The second thing is that surrounding yourself with individuals who have the good habits you want will inspire long lasting change. (and they used many examlpes including weight loss retreats and rehabbing criminals).  This book kinda changed the way I 'dieted' for the better So not saying everything in the book is true, but it definitely worked for me. So all Im saying is, shaming doesn't work and if you are really upset about what's happening in our community, be one of those people who have the good habits they can surround themself with

shaming works if you have the whole family/community is doing it. 

so, OP, you tried this approach out in the streets? how did that workout  for you?

or are you a person that just bitches about a problem and does nothing about it IRL.

If you want to have a constructive convo, then fine, by all means let's have that. I think that there can be a great discussion...BHM has had some good ones, and hopefully the ideas that come out of it will generate some great ideas that we can try out IRL and result in some real life successes.

 the tone of your OP was not conducive to having that convo and turned a lot of ppl off. why would anyone want to listen to you when your tone is condescending? if you want to have a convo, then change the tone.

nitabug wrote: oneluv wrote: This thread was to identify a problem, have an intellectual discussion, and hopefully discuss ways we call all change the destructive path black people are on. good luck on that when you only ask women to wake up and allow the men to stay sleep.

Hmmm I see both sides.

Yes black sons need to be raised better with an expectation of higher standards and a family oriented mindset. But black girls need to be raised not to foolishly lay down with anything that "hollas" at them - or at the very least, bring condoms to the table.