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Originally posted by texasmami0117 texasmami0117 wrote:

are we talkin bout a baby doll or barbie?

It's a baby doll. About the size of a newborn baby. The lady who gave it to her is in her 60's and never had children. I don't believe there was any ill intent behind it. It's not someone I work very closely with and she saw me and asked how my daughter was. Then later, she brought me a doll to give to her.
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Originally posted by texasmami0117 texasmami0117 wrote:

my daughter has one white barbie. i wont accept anymore white or mixed barbies or white baby dolls. i remember that thread about changing a blk barbie's hair to natural hair. i need to do that.

ETA: my daughter is 2. i just want her to see her own beauty before accepting anyone else's. unlike my childhood.

I agree with the bolded. I truly want my daughter to understand her black beauty. I always tell her how much I love her brown skin. So sometimes, when we cuddle, she says "Mommy, I love your brown skin; it's just like mine".
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Originally posted by newin2009 newin2009 wrote:

Originally posted by texasmami0117 texasmami0117 wrote:

my daughter has one white barbie. i wont accept anymore white or mixed barbies or white baby dolls. i remember that thread about changing a blk barbie's hair to natural hair. i need to do that.

ETA: my daughter is 2. i just want her to see her own beauty before accepting anyone else's. unlike my childhood.

I agree with the bolded. I truly want my daughter to understand her black beauty. I always tell her how much I love her brown skin. So sometimes, when we cuddle, she says "Mommy, I love your brown skin; it's just like mine".
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Originally posted by Lady ICE Lady ICE wrote:

my daughter has gotten a few white dolls as gifts from others..and i give them to her. they are gifts. however if its family, i tell them blk/spanish dolls only. thats what our family is. no big deal. kids tend to like the newest one the most...just cause its new. it wont change anything. if you continue to teach her about her own. at least thats how we roll. Heart

I appreciate your post! It makes me feel better about my decision to go ahead and give her the doll. I do always teach my daughter, on her level of understanding how beautiful us brown skin, black people are. She has some understanding of it.

And I'm positive she loves the white doll because it's new. I bought her an indoor golf set today. She has yet to even ask about the doll today.
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Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

i would ask her why it's her favorite doll

If her reasons are not racism, propaganda or inferiority/superiority etc driven, then I'd leave it alone

I would've asked the white lady why a white doll for a black child in a light easy manner just to see what her reaction was

I asked her the other day why the doll is her favorite. She says because she has a bottle and pink clothes. My daughter's favorite color is pink. I also asked her how is the doll different from her other dolls, and said its because this "baby" is small and soft and has a headband. My daughter does understand that she has brown skin, but she doesn't really understand the concept of different races. When I asked her what color the doll was, she said pink.
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Originally posted by sexyandfamous sexyandfamous wrote:

I don't think she had any ill intentions when she purchased the white doll. It is everywhere and perhaps it was cheaper than a black doll - or on sale.
Any new toy is a child's new favorite toy. If months pass and she gets new toys yet the white doll is still her favorite - then you could ask her why. But right now it is just a shiny brand new doll.

I am mixed, so when I have kids, I will probably get black and white dolls for my kid to play with.

I don't believe there were any ill intentions either. I have a lot of mixed race cousins, nieces, and nephews. I love them all. I do want my daughter to appreciate and love her brown skin above all else. My issue is that I don't want to become too militant about it, which is why I sought BHM's opinion on this matter, and to see what other parents lean towards.
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Originally posted by tatee tatee wrote:

she gave your daughter a white doll because in her mind white is superior and why wouldnt anyone want the better doll.  its up to you to know better.

She's an older white lady, about 60 - 65 years old, from London. I don't believe there were any ill intentions.
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Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

No white dolls.
Most of my kids toys will be educational or like things to get them active though.

Typically, I don't lean towards buying dolls. 75% of her toys are educational. Usually, when I purchase toys for other kids, I go with something educational. However, as my daughter gets older, she's been more interested in dolls. She used to only ask for books and puzzles.
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Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

i'll let her play with dolls from any color.  I had a huge barbie and barbie accessory collection.  I had the white, latina, and black barbies.  i always identified the black dolls as the ones being me when I played pretend and the other color dolls were just my sidekicks, friends, co-workers, etc...i'd rather have my kid be well adjusted and comfortable with anything while still understanding who she is.  having a few white dolls didn't stop my Kenya doll from being my favorite.

I appreciate your insight!
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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

I get it from my momma tho lol. She wouldn't/won't even bring a calendar in the house with a Cauc. person on it.

I don't have kids, but my imaginary kids can't have them.


yep.
my god daughter is not allowed to play with white dolls.
she's gotten a couple as gifts but after having a stern talk with her mom, she never received them.
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