and blessings, Family.
I was just out with my daughter a second ago, doting on her as I usually do. There's no secret that I fawn over her and perhaps spoil my child. But, she's deserving of it as she's a stellar student (honor roll, friendship award, top reader of her class, etc.), well-behaved and responsive.
I was out at lunch with her and these women were all amazed at how attentive I was to her, how I ate off her plate, how I made sure each thing was right for her and that none of it seemed like a chore. It almost made me feel sad that there exists this void of dedicated fatherhood to our children out there EVEN STILL -- I know it well as a product of a single parent home. However, I've devoted myself to breaking the cycle. Sure, I may not be part of the traditional (and perhaps ideal) family unit but we're raising a well-adjusted and fully loved child.
Then when I take her to work, all the women are shocked at my ability to parent and still juggle everything else. I don't know...I want to believe that men bringing children into this world are willing to step up, be men and break this pervasive cycle of dysfunction that is tearing apart whole communities. But I realize for each good deed I attempt and/or complete, I have to remember that I'm just one man and I do not represent the whole.
But when a dad (especially a single one) is an attentive parent, do you find it that amazing? I swear I'm not a good parent for the accolades, but I just want to do the right thing by this little girl. She's really the engine that keeps my car running so to speak.
Talk about it.