I had a simular experience only we had been friends for over 30 years.
- she dissappeared for months/years whenever she is close to a guy/married because they are having problems (I know this) but when they work everything out and are happy again .. thats when she wants to call and catch up and be in a good mood again.
- but since a couple of years have passed - when I wanted to talk to her all that time about what's happening in my life .. she is was not available.
Yes, we havde unresolved things if you try to talk about it ... she is evasive or in denial etc .. so nothing ever gets resolved. She justs wants to forget whatever it was and move on and be happy friends again. Other stuff like this on and off .. and it's been over 30 years. I think she just wants to keep me around as a friend ... so I can play the backdrop to her life or something. WERIOD.
So eventually I got closer to other folks that DO stay in touch whether either one of us is having a hard time or having a good time - because to me 'that's what friends are for'.
The last incident was a few years ago when she mysteriously appeared asking to borrow 30k to get away from the rotten SOB she married.
Meanwhile I had had 2 surgeries in and out of the hospital and her a*** was no where to be found! I was p***ed. She said other stuff too that just GRADDED my nerves. Stuff that she did 20 years earlier that I realized I had never gotten over really.
That's when I knew it was over.
I have refused all of her emails (we live in different countries BTW) because I am done with her.
My advice is cut your loses .. she is not a real friend.
I call this kind of bff .. a bff of convenience. She is only around ... when it is convenient for her to be around you.
When it is inconvenient .. she will be no where to be found.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Jul 24 2013 at 11:55am