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    Posted: Apr 26 2013 at 11:55am
I feel silly for even feeling some type of way but ill explain.....

So my bf n I have been together for 6 months. Recently he got me an interview at 
his job n I'm thankful to have been hired. When me n him first met, he explained 
to me a situation that he had with a girl that works there as well. Basically he 
says it was a night out with him, her, n a group of friends. At the end of the 
night when they were both drunk, he goes back to her place n proceeds to smash. 
As far as he tells me that's all it was, "a one night stand" n they don't 
speak/think about that part of their lil journey anymore. Now whenever they do 
speak according to him, it's business only. Mind u their little tryst was maybe 
a week no more than two before I came along. 

I understand that it was before me and no one can predict the future so I know 
he didn't do it intentionally. My thing is now that I'm going to be working 
there in an office setting with gossiping ass females and nosey ppl in general 
it kinda bothers me. I'm never the type to act up in my workplace so that isn't 
a concern of mine but the fact that I have to work around someone who had him 
the same way that I do now on a regular basis irks me. Im all about being focused 
and getting my money but somehow for whatever reason, this situation still has me 
feeling uncomfortable. 

I'm still new at the job n I'm being trained by said girls cousin. Messy I know. 


Andddd last night he worked an overnight shift with the same girl n went to work 
with only sweatpants, NO drawers  no lie -_-

So now ladies any advice or input on my awkward situation would be 
appreciated...
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Do your work and keep it moving. There really isn't anything you can do about it LOL
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Thats kind of awkward that u and ur bf work in the same place. You know how they say you shoulnt date ur co-worker, well u technically are. Only time will tell if they are having an affair. At least he told u what happened and was honest, and u didnt find out or would've found out through ur "gossiping" co-workers.
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I agree with BB. Does the girl know who you are?
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IA w/ BB.  What really is there to do but be professional, and KIM.  Why did you accept the job there knowing what you know?  You purposely did this to yourself, lol


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She had him ONCE. You have been with him for six months!
I get why you are upset, but this insecurity will get to you and start showing on your attitude and personality and the girl will think you are weak.
I would be cool, just be nice to everyone, and if someone comes up to you to tell about their thing, just say that he already told you but it was nothing.
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (3) Thanks(3)   Quote iluvmihair Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Apr 27 2013 at 5:22am
Wait.. who wore no draws?? Shocked Him or ole girl? Either way, thats kinda suspect...

Where yall work at?LOL Not the name, but what type of place?

I would just be cool, real cool and nice to everybody. I would NOT be touchy feel-y with my man either, bc to me, that's showing weakness to (i.e. I want errbody to KNOW this is my man!). Be confident! Obviously when he met u, he saw u as commitment worthy, and if either of them wanted that from each other, I think it would've been clear. Good luck and keep us posted. Wink
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That's what I meant when I wrote to be cool; iluvmihair put it in better words.
You should not be touchy feely with him because then everyone will know you are trying to claim him at the workspace and honestly that will seem as insecurity.

Be professional with everyone and be cool.
Depending of what kind of job he does and if he has done that before (go to work in sweatpants, no underwear), then it might be ok.
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Originally posted by Tbaby Tbaby wrote:

IA w/ BB.  What really is there to do but be professional, and KIM.  Why did you accept the job there knowing what you know?  You purposely did this to yourself, lol



i agree. at this point, there is nothing you can do but do your job, not engage in any crazy. you knew the situation before he recommended the job.  the situation seems like it could be a recipe for drama. hopefully it wont be.

anywho, good luck!

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