I agree. I think it's amaaazing that so many posters think .. he's just a normal guy.
Talk about low expectations. I think the best part of this guy is 'how he looks' .. but that is not enough to sustain a relationship long term.
Do you still wanna be smelling his funky farts 30 years from now?
I think personal hygiene etc and how each person keeps themselves up is an INTEGRAL part of the relationship. I would never let a guy see me changing my tampon for goodness sakes.
That and .... GEESH his finances being screwy? Oh heck no. I don't stay with men that don't know how manage their money. No future in it. I mean if you get married YOU WILL INHERIT half of his debt!!! And you are stuck with a guy with bad spending habits .. so he will continue to drive y'all to the poor house. Noooo. And you said he will not retire well? Hey, he is who he is because he has no incentive to change if you will tolerate this.
Think of the kids you might have? Geesh! You already see how he is handling the batch of kids that he already has! That will be a messed up household. Kids model what they see!
I think he knows you enough to know that you won't leave him so he can be any old way around you. He knows you think you are lucky to have him and that you believe .. you can do any better for yourself. You are kindof his doormat really.
What it you found out that after all this... he was cheating on you too? Would that be enough? I mean ... what is your cutoff point?
Lastly you said 'He gets angry very easily and thinks everything should go how he wants it'.
Ummm now this major
. Major because this one those traits that's a precurser to mental/physical abuse. So honestly, I'll bet other stuff is going on .. along these lines .. that you are keeping secret. Think about it.
You need to grow a backbone now before things get worse and .. move on.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Mar 16 2013 at 9:08am