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btw I dont think its ideal to be envious of anything/anyone...period...

If you want a relationship...prepare for it mentally and emotionally... put yourself in a position for one but leave the envy part out..

Envy will get you in trouble....

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Chile don't let it get you down, hell ask one of your gf if they know anyone who might be a good match for you.

Domonique brags to anyone one who will listen that her man is the greatest but I found out the reason she wasn't drinking with us last week because she was on antibiotics that she was on to cure whatever was ailing her sick vagina since her perfect man decided to leave her a gift. 

They still living together in bliss ConfusedConfusedConfused....

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Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


btw I dont think its ideal to be envious of anything/anyone...pe<b style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">riod...
<b style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">
<b style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">If you want a relationship...prepare for it mentally and emotionally... put yourself in a position for one but leave the envy part out..

Envy will get you in trouble....



I'm only human sometimes we feel some negative emotions...

But it definitely doesn't make me a bad friend, I don't try to sabotage anything and we talk normally. Just can't help that feeling at the pit of my stomach sometimes you know.

And like Derri said, I'm trying to focus on other things like my career etc but sometimes my brain sabotages me and goes back there!
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Originally posted by iliveforbhm iliveforbhm wrote:

I need to leave this site it's true what they say BHM leaves you bald headed, fat, lonely, and depressed.
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Originally posted by bg bg wrote:

why is it a 'comfort' to know that your 'friend' may be in a bad relationship LOL sounds like something you tell yourself to feel better about being without a companion...which is pretty sad

cheer up OP and continue to work on yourself, get out and meet new people and do new things...when the time is right it will happen...fret not

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Haha! I know right!!!

I'm definitely trying not to fret and do different things etc. I don't like focusing on age but I'm not far from 30! I'm not saying I want to be married, I just want to at least be in a stable relationship. I'm sure it's not unnatural to feel that way! & it's bad that sometimes it comes out as envy.
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When we see things, and other people with things that we perceive as desirable, we realize that it is an option, and we start to desire the experience of it too.
That's the nature of being a human.

Just think the thoughts that match your desires, instead of thinking thoughts that would trouble you if they materialized.
Such as, 'it seems that will never be me!' etc.

Maybe instead, give a good thought about the experience, and then put out a thought that matches your desires for yourself.


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Originally posted by sistagal sistagal wrote:

Originally posted by ModelessDiva ModelessDiva wrote:


btw I dont think its ideal to be envious of anything/anyone...pe<b style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">riod...
<b style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">
<b style="font-size: 12px; line-height: 1.4;">If you want a relationship...prepare for it mentally and emotionally... put yourself in a position for one but leave the envy part out..

Envy will get you in trouble....



I'm only human sometimes we feel some negative emotions...

But it definitely doesn't make me a bad friend, I don't try to sabotage anything and we talk normally. Just can't help that feeling at the pit of my stomach sometimes you know.

And like Derri said, I'm trying to focus on other things like my career etc but sometimes my brain sabotages me and goes back there!

ah..i see... well i wish you the bestEmbarrassed



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Originally posted by Derri Derri wrote:

When we see things, and other people with things, we realize that it is an option, and we start to desire the experience of it.
That's the nature of being a human.
Just think the thoughts that match your desires, instead of thinking thoughts that would trouble you if they materialized.
Such as, 'it seems that will never be me!' etc.

Maybe instead, give a good thought about the experience, and then put out a thought that matches your desires for yourself.


Thanks for the great advice Derri. I definitely need to move away from the negative feeling.
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Anytime sistagal.

Yes, move away from the negative thinking that leads to negative feelings, which leads to negative actions, which leads to negative experiences.
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I think it is okay to occasionally have that 'I wish I wasn't single' and it's a good thing that you recognize that feeling and want to change that feeling into a positive one.

You might have to take a little break from hanging around the friend that is making you feel negative while you work on those feelings. Do you have any single friends? Maybe you can talk to her or him and go out more and hey, you might meet someone.

Think of the positives you have going on in your life and enjoy this 'single lady' time in your life.Smile
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