BC or Not

I'm so confused on what i should do ? I havent had an relaxer since january of last year bt i havent did anything to start my natrual hair journey . Basically im stuck & confused , Ugh  . this is confusing !

Hey love ,

So how is your hair feeling at the moment? Is it dry, brittle, mushy? Work that out first then if your having any issues resolve them with the necessary tools and products.

Then with that at out of the way what do YOU want for your hair really? It's easy to say I will be natural but not understanding why or for what reasons you are deciding to take that route is something to consider. Everyone wants the best for their and to be happy so I suggest looking into hair forums, youtube, friends who are already natural, anything that is natural hair related to get a better perspective on things. You may then decide it's not for you and decide to go back relaxed but make sure you take the right steps to prepare for all the chemicals again and there are plenty of outlets also catered to the relaxed/texlaxed heads out there.

Whatever you decide it's all on you in the end lifes to short you gotta do YOU, always!

BC'ing is such a personal thing too!

I never did a BC to be honest. From '05 - '10 I was a back to back weave/flw head. Around '06, I stopped relaxing, not because I was considering wearing my hair out, but because it was just a hassle to relax my hair if I was just going to hide it again. So, by default, I went natural. And it wasn't until 2010 that I decided to really start taking care of my hair. At that point, I was around BSL, but half my hair was old, relaxed scraggly ends and the other half was thicker healthy natural hair.

I was too chicken to cut off all the relaxed ends. So, it wasn't until now actually that I 100% got rid of the ends (I went through a texlax phase too which I finally got rid of after taking my marley twists out today) and am now at grazing APL.

Ultimately, it's up to what you're comfy with. I wore short hair my whole life until I was introduced to the world of extensions in college. And now the idea of having anything less than APL is unappealing.

But if managing two textures gets to be too much - especially if the relaxed ends look dramatically thinner than the natural portion of your hair - it might be better to chop them off.

I'm completely natural now but my friend is having the same dilemma you are.

I Bc'd after 6 months of growth but I didn't have the nerve to wear it out until now (16 months of growth). I wore wigs until I felt comfortable. This is still my first time wearing my hair short(my first week actually), its shoulder length and I have it have it flat ironed right now. I'm a little nervous about figuring out natural styles once its in its curly state that will last about a week and look good for work. I've done wash and gos on the weekend but I don't know how long they will actually last. I'm kind of excited to see how things go.