This Mother's day is going to be very uneasy for a good friend of mine, she just found out that she has cancer. Her children bought her a plane ticket to visit for Mothers day weekend so that they can spend time together. She hasnt said anything yet and would prefer to tell them in person.
a) Tell them before you got in town, via phone or email
b) When you get there, which may alter the mood or festivities
c) wait til after the festivities while you are there
d) wait til you get back home, then tell them
Think about both view points, for her as the Mom and for them as the Children.
****Her daughter just found out that her husband is being deployed so its already a bit high stressed.