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that sounds terrible. i like to tag team and take turns with chores.
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if i stay with my current s/o then in getting married at 21 no doubt.
if not im hoping 24,if not 29 is my panic age, i will not be single at30.
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Originally posted by Babydoll9163 Babydoll9163 wrote:



Willingly entering single motherhood? Let us know how that works out Sleepy

With proper planning, like with everything else, she'll be fine.

Originally posted by Babydoll9163 Babydoll9163 wrote:

It's not so much about "could you" as "should you"

She should if that is what she wants to do. I don't see anything wrong with it. If you are sh*tty and irresponsible, you will be sh*tty and irresponsible with or with out another parent.


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I'm 26 now and I'm currently in my first official relationship. I was always in panic mode since college because things in the relationship department just never really happened for me. I was always longing for a relationship, wanting to be out and about on my own, etc. Once I stopped obsessing about life and all the things I wanted to be doing and focused on what I should be doing, everything started to fall into place (things are still falling Wink). Also I stopped obsessing about relationships and started to not take dating seriously (recently i had a plan to only date to get my experience up. I'm kind of a late bloomer ya'll) the relationship just came out of nowhere. Anywho, I made a list of 30 things to do by 30 and getting married is on the list. Now if it doesn't happen until 31, 32, 33 that's all good as well. Now I'm getting ready to graduate with my masters, move out and get my own spot, and get that salary with benefits. A new chapter is opening and I can't wait to see what happens!


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Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:


She should if that is what she wants to do. I don't see anything wrong with it. If you are sh*tty and irresponsible, you will be sh*tty and irresponsible with or with out another parent.


I know single motherhood is a touchy subject round these parts, but I think being a parent means being selfless. And I think it's pretty selfish to start kids off with a deficit like not having two parents on purpose.

And yes, we know single parents can raise healthy children but lets not pretend like it's a walk in the park. Even the most responsible, stable single parents say they need an extra pair of eyes, hands, etc.

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It's not touchy to me, I just don't get the other side. I don't think I'd be a single parent by breeding. But I wouldn't knock anyone with a network or proper planning.

Most single parenting gone bad has to do with improper planning and mistakes...they never wanted to be a single parent to begin with.

I have yet to meet someone who has planned out donors, adoption, etc, and has the same problems as those who just have 'oops' babies or dissolved relationships.


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I don't know any women who wen the donor route, so I can't speak for their experience. But my research on the children who are the product of donors is they have a lot of psychological issues. One of which is a constant fear that the men they date could be a relative of theirs.

I don't think it's terrible for any woman to want a child or seek sperm donation to have one. I'm just saying the first step to being a good parent is considering how your decisions will affect your child.

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Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

I would urge any woman not to panic, because that's when your thinking and vision get cloudy. And the decisions get stranger and more illogical with each passing day

Lawd I need to send this to a friend of mine. Shes panicking and acting desperate. I think the men can smell it Ouch
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I started panicking around 23/24 and got over it last year.  I'm 27 now.  I don't see the point in freaking out over something you don't have complete control over.  My ideal is to be in a healthy long-lasting marriage and have children, but if I can't have that, I'd rather not settle.  Fortuneately and unfortuneately, I have had the opportunity to witness what happens when women put arbitrary timelines ahead of their happiness and its some scary stuff.  I don't want to find myself in that situation.

I have come to terms that not everyone gets married, and being unmarried is not the worst thing in the world that can happen to a woman.  I also realized that I don't want to be one of those women whose happiness is directly correlated to her relationship status.  I have loads of other things going for me other than my romantic life, so saying I can't be content inspite of having a loving family, great friends, and a promising career is just silly.

So at this point I don't have any imaginary age in which I will freak out.  I've just decided to live my life and deal with issues as they come.  Hopefully it all works out the way I would like.
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Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

I started panicking around 23/24 and got over it last year.  I'm 27 now.  I don't see the point in freaking out over something you don't have complete control over.  My ideal is to be in a healthy long-lasting marriage and have children, but if I can't have that, I'd rather not settle.  Fortuneately and unfortuneately, I have had the opportunity to witness what happens when women put arbitrary timelines ahead of their happiness and its some scary stuff.  I don't want to find myself in that situation.

I have come to terms that not everyone gets married, and being unmarried is not the worst thing in the world that can happen to a woman.  I also realized that I don't want to be one of those women whose happiness is directly correlated to her relationship status.  I have loads of other things going for me other than my romantic life, so saying I can't be content inspite of having a loving family, great friends, and a promising career is just silly.

So at this point I don't have any imaginary age in which I will freak out.  I've just decided to live my life and deal with issues as they come.  Hopefully it all works out the way I would like.
What would happen when they do but arbitrary timelines??
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