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Originally posted by melly melly wrote:

I believe that things happen when their supposed to happen, not when you want it to happen.

True. 

Anyways I am not ready to marry I am too selfish. I couldn't do what I did last night if I was married or in a serious relationship LOL


Edited by keepgrowing - Nov 17 2012 at 11:27am
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Originally posted by melly melly wrote:

I believe that things happen when their supposed to happen, not when you want it to happen.
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Originally posted by Tbaby Tbaby wrote:

Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Alright ladies, lets be completely real here.
If you're already married, at what age did you think you were going to get married and what age did you end up getting married?


I thought I'd be married by 26 and have kids by 28.  Met a great guy at 27, but I left him to join the armyLOL

Around 30 I started to really worry about not ever finding a good man.  At 34-35 I was making moves to adopt or do foster care, and buy a house.  Figured marriage wasn't going to happen and accepted it.

Met future husband at 36, got married, now have 2 kids, a house, and a great career.  God gave me all that I wished for, but on His time schedule, not mine.



Thanks for this...My mom keeps reminding me everyday that if it's going to happen it'll happen.

I had already started looking into sperm donors....actually found a site where people donate eggs and sperm for free. Signed up and I had guys contacting me.    I know it sounds desperate but I am.  About the kid thing and not the husband thing.   I'm trying to figure out how to find peace with not having kids and a family, when it's something I wanted so bad.  I've tried to throw myself into my career and I'm having terrible luck with that.   No career, kids or husband.  I'm trying to figure out what I will devote the rest of my life to. 
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Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

 
Originally posted by used2braid used2braid wrote:

Alright ladies, lets be completely real here.
If you're already married, at what age did you think you were going to get married and what age did you end up getting married?

I thought I was gonna get married early 20s, ended up getting married early 20s.
I was never worried cuz I found him early when I was in my teens.  I've always had a man ready to marry me anyway.  If he were to die tomorrow, I'm sure I'd be married within 2 yrs


hmmm interesting...in your opinion Bunny, what about you makes your likelihood of getting married higher than some other women?
I've got a lot of the positive attributes that men are looking for.  not gonna list them, but if you've seen the threads here u can put them together
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Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

I wish people would stop acting like its abnormal to want a mate.
It's natural.

Wanting a man/marriage and never getting it by 30ish+ is sad as fck, imho. You either make bad decisions or have horrible social skills.

I mean come on, 10+years of failingConfused That is sad. & to be fearful that it isn't going to happen 10 years later from setting the goal. Sadder
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They won't listen.  They see no flaws in their faults.  They think its supposed to be that way
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Post Options Post Options   Thanks (0) Thanks(0)   Quote Flowing-Ice Quote  Post ReplyReply Direct Link To This Post Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 12:37pm
Originally posted by melly melly wrote:

I believe that things happen when their supposed to happen, not when you want it to happen.


errr. meh. 
i'm sure if some women didn't see their ultimate goal is having sex w/ every man they can... some women would be married earlier. 
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Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Wanting a man/marriage and never getting it by 30ish+ is sad as fck, imho. You either make bad decisions or have horrible social skills.

I mean come on, 10+years of failingConfused That is sad. & to be fearful that it isn't going to happen 10 years later from setting the goal. Sadder


I'm pretty sure every woman in this thread knows a man that will date/marry her. It's not so much about checking it off the list as it is finding someone of quality whom you're attracted to, with a similar intellect, ambition, life goals etc. etc.
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Idk babydoll, after 10+ years and a billion ppl in the world, you haven't found quality? Seems like an excuse.

Edited by nitabug - Nov 17 2012 at 12:43pm
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Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

They won't listen.  They see no flaws in their faults.  They think its supposed to be that way

I think I am just going to stick with this.
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