@sexyandfamous: that's the point I've reached. I'm planning to move back to mine for a while. Things aren't getting any better partly my fault as I haven't spoken to him about anything but he's making things so blatantly obvious that somethings wrong that I'll have to speak to him and move out at the same time!
A few things have developed. I'm a sister that wears a weave sometimes and rocks a huge 'fro when it's not weaved. When I met him, I had a weave on. Over the years he's been very vocal about how he doesn't like weaves and he prefers natural hair. Every woman that comes on the tv with a weave or if he sees one socially - he'll make a rude comment about how horrible it looks - he'll even say it about mine.
When I take my hair out of the weave - he makes no comment. None. Zero. Every stranger in the street stops me and tells me how the luv my 'fro. Compliments from everyone - but him? Nothing.
Aaaaanyways, the other night we got into again about this weave thing. I tried to tell him on a deep level that it's not just about weaves it's about how I like to look and feel sometimes. I said when I met you I had a weave and you never said you didn't like it - he chimes up I never said I did like it! This makes me think that fundamentally you don't like....me?? I was then trying to tell him more about how I feel about it then I realised he wasn't even listening......he'd tuned into what was on the tv.
The night before I went to bed in tears. We're like ships in the night. So the next morning he gets up and I realise its a rare day off for him - I thought great - now's my chance to tell him how I feel. Only for him to tell me his son is coming back from abroad and he's going to buy xyz to cook reh reh reh. So off he went to get stuff for his sons homecoming. Well that's fine. I can't wait to see him either....
The other day I asked him what he wants for dinner - back came the answer 'im not bothered'.
What I did cook he criticised even though every meal I cook is cooked with love.
Tonight he goes up to bed - not even a 'dog goodnight'.
I'm at a loss as to what I have done to receive this opprobrium!
We've not been intimate in over 6 weeks. He's not the cheating kind but...you never know although I doubt it.
On the plus side ish - he cooked up a storm in the kitchen and made me a nice meal although we never said two words to each other while eating it. Odd...
Maybe this is the end of the road....