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 Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 5:34pm |
^^^ Agree. I'm only fairly close with my cousins. We kinda grew apart, but we're all still cool. And I have my chosen family-- some are even bhm ladies-- my friends. We're ride or die. It's just that mom is a whole "nother" level. 
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 5:46pm |
 dreamz wrote:
CherryCola wrote:
juicygyrl wrote:
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Im an only child, and it was all good until I lost my parents . I really wished I had a sibling(s) to weather both of the storms with me. This is why I want so badly to start and have a large family. |
This is why I would like my baby to have a sibling. My husband only wants one child, and I fear my baby being alone once we are gone. Me being the youngest of 8 siblings we are very close, I feel sad my baby will not have that sibling bond that I share with my brothers and sisters. I mean my baby has tons of cousins but there is no bond like a sibling bond. |
"No bond like a sibling bond?" What about the many people who are estranged from their siblings?
Also:
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Also, here's an interesting book about the dark side of siblings:
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You could use a little empathy. |
Why? I'm just pointing out that just because you have siblings does not alway guarantee that they will have a bond or be close. What's wrong with that?
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 7:13pm |
one my college roommates was not only an only child but an only grandchild.....
she was/is the most giving person i ever met. she was not spoiled at all. she LOVED being around lots of people though.
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 8:16pm |
goodm3 wrote:
one my college roommates was not only an only child but an only grandchild.....
she was/is the most giving person i ever met. she was not spoiled at all. she LOVED being around lots of people though. |
Thank you, goodm.
Some only children can be spoiled and some can be very giving. I've always wondered why people assume that only children are suppose to be spoiled. Anybody can be spoiled, whether you have one sibling or ten siblings. In fact, people claim the youngest child can be spoiled, but I've never believed that. My mother is the youngest of 7 siblings and she is a very giving person as well.
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 8:28pm |
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You could use a little empathy. |
this^
Is this something you are passionate about OP?
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 8:39pm |
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You could use a little empathy. |
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Is this something you are passionate about OP? |
No. I was just wondering if only children are still a rarity.
However, why did you say I could use a little empathy? What did I say that's considered lacking empathy?
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A lady at work who is pushing 70is the sole carer for her 96 year old mother. She only has one child and that child only has one child. All divorced / widowed / too young to be married.
4 people in the whole damn family. She says caring for her mother is a burden, but the next generation will have the same burden...
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 9:10pm |
JamCaygirl wrote:
A lady at work who is pushing 70is the sole carer for her 96 year old mother. She only has one child and that child only has one child. All divorced / widowed / too young to be married.
4 people in the whole damn family. She says caring for her mother is a burden, but the next generation will have the same burden...
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You could have several siblings and the burden could still be on one sibling. Apparently, it's quite common.
Check out these forums:
There's even books about this very topic:
"They're Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy." Francine Russo
Edited by CherryCola - Jan 28 2013 at 9:14pm
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Posted: Jan 28 2013 at 9:18pm |
I'm super late but I'm an only child!!!!!!!
(My father had two children prior to him and my mom getting married but I wasn't raised with them)
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