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^^^ Agree. I'm only fairly close with my cousins. We kinda grew apart, but we're all still cool. And I have my chosen family-- some are even bhm ladies-- my friends. We're ride or die.

It's just that mom is a whole "nother" level.
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Originally posted by dreamz dreamz wrote:

Originally posted by CherryCola CherryCola wrote:

Originally posted by juicygyrl juicygyrl wrote:

Originally posted by Qualified Qualified wrote:

Im an only child, and it was all good until I lost my parents . I really wished I had a sibling(s) to weather both of the storms with me. This is why I want so badly to start and have a large family.
  
 

 

This is why I would like my baby to have a sibling. My husband only wants one child, and I fear my baby being alone once we are gone. Me being the youngest of 8 siblings we are very close, I feel sad my baby will not have that sibling bond that I share with my brothers and sisters. I mean my baby has tons of cousins but there is no bond like a sibling bond.

 

"No bond like a sibling bond?"  What about the many people who are estranged from their siblings?

 

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Siblings commit 10 percent of the murders in the American family.

Children who are abused by their sibling(s) can become aggressive bullies.

Bullying starts in many American homes.

Each year, siblings abuse 19 million children…in their own home.

The linkage between bullying and sibling abuse has been grossly overlooked."

Source: Siblingsbully.com


 

Also, here's an interesting book about the dark side of siblings:

 


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You could use a little empathy.
 
Why? I'm just pointing out that just because you have siblings does not alway guarantee that they will have a bond or be close.  What's wrong with that?
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one my college roommates was not only an only child but an only grandchild.....

she was/is the most giving person i ever met. she was not spoiled at all. she LOVED being around lots of people though. 
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Originally posted by goodm3 goodm3 wrote:

one my college roommates was not only an only child but an only grandchild.....

she was/is the most giving person i ever met. she was not spoiled at all. she LOVED being around lots of people though. 
 
Thank you, goodm.
 
Some only children can be spoiled and some can be very giving.  I've always wondered why people assume that only children are suppose to be spoiled.  Anybody can be spoiled, whether you have one sibling or ten siblings.  In fact, people claim the youngest child can be spoiled, but I've never believed that.  My mother is the youngest of 7 siblings and she is a very giving person as well.
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Originally posted by apple_sauce apple_sauce wrote:

Originally posted by nekamarie83 nekamarie83 wrote:

I enjoy my only child life. I can admit that I'm spoiled (first grand child too) and expect to get my way at times. In my favor, I'm VERY generous and thoughtful. I really care about people.

However, I have wondered about feeling lonely when my mom isn't here anymore. We're so close and I know I'd miss her SO much…
This is all of me exactly
Sweet!! It's a good life
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Originally posted by dreamz dreamz wrote:




You could use a little empathy.
this^

Is this something you are passionate about OP?
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Originally posted by _ConcreteRose_ _ConcreteRose_ wrote:

Originally posted by dreamz dreamz wrote:




You could use a little empathy.
this^

Is this something you are passionate about OP?
 
No.  I was just wondering if only children are still a rarity.
 
However, why did you say I could use a little empathy?  What did I say that's considered lacking empathy?
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A lady at work who is pushing 70is the sole carer for her 96 year old mother. She only has one child and that child only has one child. All divorced / widowed / too young to be married.

4 people in the whole damn family. She says caring for her mother is a burden, but the next generation will have the same burden...
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Originally posted by JamCaygirl JamCaygirl wrote:

A lady at work who is pushing 70is the sole carer for her 96 year old mother. She only has one child and that child only has one child. All divorced / widowed / too young to be married.

4 people in the whole damn family. She says caring for her mother is a burden, but the next generation will have the same burden...
 
You could have several siblings and the burden could still be on one sibling.  Apparently, it's quite common.
 
Check out these forums:
 
 
Caring.com.......Link: http://www.caring.com/questions/my-s...hers-revocable

Boomers-with-elderly-parents.com......Link:
https://www.google.com/url?q=http://...DkEIubFuFgJt4w

Healthboards Alzheimer's Disease & Dementia section......Link:
http://www.healthboards.com/boards/a...s-useless.html

Mikegamble.websitetoolbox.com.....Aging parents and elder care support group. Stroll down to you see "When Your Siblings Won't Help? Link:
http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j...mLn6dWwWMu1ySw
 
 
 
There's even books about this very topic:

"They're Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy." Francine Russo



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I'm super late but I'm an only child!!!!!!!

(My father had two children prior to him and my mom getting married but I wasn't raised with them)
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