Anyone here an only child?

juicygyrl wrote:

Qualified wrote:

Im an only child, and it was all good until I lost my parents . I really wished I had a sibling(s) to weather both of the storms with me. This is why I want so badly to start and have a large family.

This is why I would like my baby to have a sibling. My husband only wants one child, and I fear my baby being alone once we are gone. Me being the youngest of 8 siblings we are very close, I feel sad my baby will not have that sibling bond that I share with my brothers and sisters. I mean my baby has tons of cousins but there is no bond like a sibling bond.

"No bond like a sibling bond?" What about the many people who are estranged from their siblings?

Also:

"Nearly 2 million children use a weapon as a means of resolving a physical confrontation with a sibling.

Siblings commit 10 percent of the murders in the American family.

Children who are abused by their sibling(s) can become aggressive bullies.

Bullying starts in many American homes.

Each year, siblings abuse 19 million children…in their own home.

The linkage between bullying and sibling abuse has been grossly overlooked."

Source: Siblingsbully.com

Also, here's an interesting book about the dark side of siblings:

"Cain's Legacy: Liberating Siblings from a Lifetime of Rage, Shame, Secrecy, and Regret." Jeanne Safer

Here's a quote from Cain's Legacy: "Bonds between brothers and sisters are among the longest lasting and most emotionally significant of human relationships. But while 45 percent of adults struggle with serious sibling strife, few discuss it openly. Even fewer resolve it to their satisfaction."

Edited by CherryCola - Jan 28 2013 at 4:55pm

juicygyrl wrote:

Qualified wrote:

Im an only child, and it was all good until I lost my parents . I really wished I had a sibling(s) to weather both of the storms with me. This is why I want so badly to start and have a large family.

This is why I would like my baby to have a sibling. My husband only wants one child, and I fear my baby being alone once we are gone.

But you could have 5 siblings for your baby and he could still be "alone." Siblings are human as well, and they can die (young or old). Siblings don't usually die together, so one of your children will be the last sibling left on this earth.....minus siblings.

And if you and your siblings are so close, then won't your baby have his aunts, uncles and cousins? Surely, your close siblings won't shun your baby.

I enjoy my only child life. I can admit that I'm spoiled (first grand child too) and expect to get my way at times. In my favor, I'm VERY generous and thoughtful. I really care about people.

However, I have wondered about feeling lonely when my mom isn't here anymore. We're so close and I know I'd miss her SO much…

juicygyrl wrote:

Qualified wrote:

Im an only child, and it was all good until I lost my parents . I really wished I had a sibling(s) to weather both of the storms with me. This is why I want so badly to start and have a large family.

This is why I would like my baby to have a sibling. My husband only wants one child, and I fear my baby being alone once we are gone. Me being the youngest of 8 siblings we are very close, I feel sad my baby will not have that sibling bond that I share with my brothers and sisters. I mean my baby has tons of cousins but there is no bond like a sibling bond.

My mother's co-worker was in the hospital with a staph infection and nearly died. Her parents are deceased, but she has 10 siblings. Not one sibling came to visit her. She was hurt and embarrassed.

Edited by CherryCola - Jan 28 2013 at 5:26pm

CherryCola wrote:

juicygyrl wrote:

Qualified wrote:

Im an only child, and it was all good until I lost my parents . I really wished I had a sibling(s) to weather both of the storms with me. This is why I want so badly to start and have a large family.

This is why I would like my baby to have a sibling. My husband only wants one child, and I fear my baby being alone once we are gone. Me being the youngest of 8 siblings we are very close, I feel sad my baby will not have that sibling bond that I share with my brothers and sisters. I mean my baby has tons of cousins but there is no bond like a sibling bond.

"No bond like a sibling bond?" What about the many people who are estranged from their siblings?

Also:

"Nearly 2 million children use a weapon as a means of resolving a physical confrontation with a sibling.

Siblings commit 10 percent of the murders in the American family.

Children who are abused by their sibling(s) can become aggressive bullies.

Bullying starts in many American homes.

Each year, siblings abuse 19 million children…in their own home.

The linkage between bullying and sibling abuse has been grossly overlooked."

Source: Siblingsbully.com

Also, here's an interesting book about the dark side of siblings:

"Cain's Legacy: Liberating Siblings from a Lifetime of Rage, Shame, Secrecy, and Regret." Jeanne Safer

Here's a quote from Cain's Legacy: "Bonds between brothers and sisters are among the longest lasting and most emotionally significant of human relationships. But while 45 percent of adults struggle with serious sibling strife, few discuss it openly. Even fewer resolve it to their satisfaction."<?: prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><O:P></O:P>

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You could use a little empathy.