And they say women do the most, oh my god

**Sk!TtLeS B** wrote: Girl, just remember: Remixes are for the radio.  It seems to me that he has successfully pushed just about all of his friends away, and, because he remembers how much bullsh*t you put up with through the course of your relationship. This friendship, just like the last one, will undoubtedly be one sided.

Oh yeah, he's basically isolated himself now. Gkisses, I think I understand what you mean by trying to be his friend.

Looking back, I stayed for a LOOOOOOOOOOOT of bull. I don't know where he got that I said I'd never leave him or what situation would compel me to say that, but if he had that in his head that I'm some kind of committed friend, that's probably why he did all that stupid sh*t.

'I can do this and that but she's not going anywhere.'



I even reminded this dude that there is literally no difference between what the friendship devolved to and how it is now- us not being friends. And that fact is true! We didn't talk anymore! He'd literally only call me to ask for a ride! Hell, even our mutual friends, he'd only hang out with to ditch.

This dude doesn't miss me. He misses the concept of me. He misses the availability of me even though I wasn't really available. He misses the title of friendship with me.

If there's one thing I always hated about knowing this guy, it was how complicated he made everything. Even now that I'm free of him, he has to complicate my peace and freedom.

I compiled almost everything he's done since the end of the friendship. I'm not sure if it's enough for a restraining order, but it's worth a try. They'll probably need me to feel my safety is threatened. If he comes to my job, I'll alert my managers and hide away, and that'd likely help my case.

im exhausted just reading that.

ii hate to say it but I don't think you are done.

how many events do you go to, only to be "surprised" that your other friends onvited him or let him in...

it is like I said pages back with game playing. even with your safety on the line (emotionally or physically) you still seem torn.

I am glad it's changing. but it seems like you need fo reach out to the mutual friends and them know you don't want tombe around him.

Ladybird0724 wrote: yes, he's hurting, but he needs help that you can't give him. you need to look out for YOUR needs...what is best for you in this situation? is it to stay and try to help him? or do you need to let go? really evaluate your choices, but keep in mind that your safety and wellbeing (both physically and mentally) are way more important. if you really feel as if you need to help him, then you can do something behind the scenes, indirectly. i wouldn't necessarily recommend it though, b/c you are still investing yourself in someone who is not invested in you

Thank you but I'm not helping that dude with a damn thing. That dude is hurting for the wrong reasons. As a human being I do hope he gets the help he needs.. but there is nothing I am going to do for him. He's got his life, I've got mine. I have no obligation to him and I don't know why he believes that.