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Didn't expect all of that....I don't come here often...the only advice people give here is leave him

Oh well...I guess I would of said the same thing if I was outside lookin in..

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The only people asking for advice are those in unhealthy relationships.

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Twisted Angel of course thats the only advice you'll get here. Your situation is one no one here would ever be in lol. They are better than you. So you gets no love boo. Thats how BHM works.
On another note. Work on listening to your inner voice. The way things are going in your life seems like you have it on mute. Not judging you at all for your situation btw cause we all have chosen not listen to our intuition (soul, spirit) and it has caused us ALL some sort of pain along the way. So although your life situation may not be mine. I understand how it feels to not kno what to do, being scared, regretting decisions made etc. Ive been thru hell and back..Trust me when I tell you, your spirit wants whats best for you at all times. All your "confusion" stems from not listening to that voice. It'll tell you what to do and more importantly HOW to do it. Good luck with everything
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The reason why you "didn't expect all of that" is because we were seeing the bigger picture, while you were only focusing on his mom. The woman may have been wrong with her son and etc, but he is your main problem, not her, because he doesn't even like to be around her, so she is not and will never be the issue.

People gave their opinion, this is the internet, so of course everyone will sound like a bitchy, but that is not the case in here: we gave you advice and you chose to only read what pleased you. If you still cannot see why most posters focused on a different topic than you were, there's not much we can say to you.
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Exactly. You have a thread consisting of EVERYONE telling you this relationship in its entirety and the way you deal with things is not healthy, but we're crazy because this is BHM.

Well alrighty then!
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^^^^The problem with those girls who come here to ask for advice is that they expect people to see things from their perspective.

It is good to talk to people who do not think like you, because you learn to see things from a different point of view. I think those girls who cannot handle the truth should stick to asking advice to their real life friends, that way if their friends choose to keep it real, they will see that it isn't only BHM that will see that the guy is not good for you.

As PrincessGrace has said before... "you only want to hear 25 versions of your truth"

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^^^^^^^This is the truth.

The reason why 99% of the time I say 'leave him' is because 99% of the time someone posts some terrible situation about their man here. If you post that you want to walk off a cliff I would say ‘noooooo, don’t do it!’ Hee hee!

If everyone posted that they had a perfectly happy and healthy relationship but (for example) he does lower the toilet seat so late at night you go PLOP on that cold rim hee hee! I would not say 'leave him' I would say ... well, a lot of guys do this ... you will have to work with him on that issue and that's it.

But hey, when you ask for help on some bad situation - if you only want to focus on the point you think are important ... likely this will not happen because other people pick up clues from EVERYTHING you say to form their overall opinion of the situation.

And ... where is it written that I have to give my opinion .. in a way that suits you? Maybe I do sound ‘self-righteous’ .. but SO WHAT? I_am_RIGHT, so yes, I will claim that label happily. Hee hee!

In that case .. you should have asked your own friends ... who will likely tell you EXACTLY what you want to hear.

But if you ask strangers like me I will say exactly what I think and I will say it in the way I want to say it and you have to have the MATURITY to focus on the CONTENT of what I am saying rather than focusing on the DELIVERY of the message. Duh!

Otherwise, you get to further fool yourself that your situation is okay and ignore good advice because (little whiny voice) 'I don't like the way she said it'. Ahh so? What are you ... 10 and I've gotta say it in a 'nice' way to protect you delicate sensibilities? hee hee! What are you doing on the internet then?

Get a grip lady and get over it. YOU are the one in this ridiculous situation asking for help .. not ME.

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Originally posted by Printer_Ink Printer_Ink wrote:

^^^^^^^This is the truth.

The reason why 99% of the time I say 'leave him' is because 99% of the time someone posts some terrible situation about their man here. If you post that you want to walk off a cliff I would say ‘noooooo, don’t do it!’ Hee hee!

If everyone posted that they had a perfectly happy and healthy relationship but (for example) he does lower the toilet seat so late at night you go PLOP on that cold rim hee hee! I would not say 'leave him' I would say ... well, a lot of guys do this ... you will have to work with him on that issue and that's it.

But hey, when you ask for help on some bad situation - if you only want to focus on the point you think are important ... likely this will not happen because other people pick up clues from EVERYTHING you say to form their overall opinion of the situation.

And ... where is it written that I have to give my opinion .. in a way that suits you? Maybe I do sound ‘self-righteous’ .. but SO WHAT? I_am_RIGHT, so yes, I will claim that label happily. Hee hee!

In that case .. you should have asked your own friends ... who will likely tell you EXACTLY what you want to hear. Why? Because they KNOW your history with men etc .. so they already know they are nboe gonna tell you somethinbg you don't wanna hear because they have to deal with the fallout.

But if you ask strangers like me I will say exactly what I think and I will say it in the way I want to say it and you have to have the MATURITY to focus on the CONTENT of what I am saying rather than focusing on the DELIVERY of the message. Duh!

Otherwise, you get to further fool yourself that your situation is okay and ignore good advice because (little whiny voice) 'I don't like the way she said it'. Ahh so? What are you ... 10 and I've gotta say it in a 'nice' way to protect you delicate sensibilities? hee hee! What are you doing on the internet then?

Get a grip lady and get over it. YOU are the one in this ridiculous situation asking for help .. not ME.
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Originally posted by BitterSweet85 BitterSweet85 wrote:

Twisted Angel of course thats the only advice you'll get here. Your situation is one no one here would ever be in lol. They are better than you. So you gets no love boo. Thats how BHM works.
On another note. Work on listening to your inner voice. The way things are going in your life seems like you have it on mute. Not judging you at all for your situation btw cause we all have chosen not listen to our intuition (soul, spirit) and it has caused us ALL some sort of pain along the way. So although your life situation may not be mine. I understand how it feels to not kno what to do, being scared, regretting decisions made etc. Ive been thru hell and back..Trust me when I tell you, your spirit wants whats best for you at all times. All your "confusion" stems from not listening to that voice. It'll tell you what to do and more importantly HOW to do it. Good luck with everything


Lol see how I was talking to you and everyone jumps in...lol (I don't even bother reading from women who call them selves slow hoe, and man haters and an old ass bitter 58 year old woman)...

True lol never looking for love on bhm tho especially from black women too much jealousy.. but I never treat anyone else like im better than them..

And its nice to talk it out with outsiders sometimes. I don't have any homegurls, they too ratchet over here..

Everybody concerned about my relationship when I was talking about my children's relationships with his mother...

Soon as it sounded like have a decent man


Everybody flips the script to make them feel better about themselves. You can tell by the responses who's actually in a good relationship themselves, or just a mans toy


But ty...I shouldn't of let crap getting to me...pregnancy and hormones



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Yall can argue with yaselves
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