^^^^^^^This is the truth.
The reason why 99% of the time I say 'leave him' is because 99% of the time someone posts some terrible situation about their man here. If you post that you want to walk off a cliff I would say ‘noooooo, don’t do it!’ Hee hee!
If everyone posted that they had a perfectly happy and healthy relationship but (for example) he does lower the toilet seat so late at night you go PLOP on that cold rim hee hee! I would not say 'leave him' I would say ... well, a lot of guys do this ... you will have to work with him on that issue and that's it.
But hey, when you ask for help on some bad situation - if you only want to focus on the point you think are important ... likely this will not happen because other people pick up clues from EVERYTHING you say to form their overall opinion of the situation.
And ... where is it written that I have to give my opinion .. in a way that suits you? Maybe I do sound ‘self-righteous’ .. but SO WHAT? I_am_RIGHT, so yes, I will claim that label happily. Hee hee!
In that case .. you should have asked your own friends ... who will likely tell you EXACTLY what you want to hear.
But if you ask strangers like me I will say exactly what I think and I will say it in the way I want to say it and you have to have the MATURITY to focus on the CONTENT of what I am saying rather than focusing on the DELIVERY of the message. Duh!
Otherwise, you get to further fool yourself that your situation is okay and ignore good advice because (little whiny voice) 'I don't like the way she said it'. Ahh so? What are you ... 10 and I've gotta say it in a 'nice' way to protect you delicate sensibilities? hee hee! What are you doing on the internet then?
Get a grip lady and get over it. YOU are the one in this ridiculous situation asking for help .. not ME.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Apr 27 2014 at 4:11am