Geesh woman ... having a 'ring on your finger' doesn't MEAN anything in and of itself. It is just the outward symbol of love, commitment, trust, security etc .. pretty much everything you are NOT getting from this relationship. Otherwuse ... it's just for 'show'. DUH!
Gosh how many (miserable married) women do I know that couldn't wait to brag about getting ring on their finger because they thought that made them 'somebody'.
You've gotta aim higher girlfriend.
Being happy - whether in a good relationship with someone or being in a good relationship with yourself ... is the most important thing.
In your case ... you came in here for help, sharing all the s*** you are living in and when we tell you to GET THE HECK OUTTA THERE! ... your reply is that we are taking it too far and you get to have a ring on your finger. (shrugs) SO WHAT?
This is the montra of every stupid (that's right I said it!) woman that stays in an abusive, dysfunctional relationship ... and then wants everyone to 'understand'. Hee hee! Hey! We are NEVER gonna be able to 'understand' THAT level of stupid.
You said it yourself - that you are 27 and are always taking crap from men. I am 58 and I haven't taken a 10th of the crap you have described so far in this thread from the men I have dated ... all PUT TOGETHER!!
That's because even when I was young and dumb about men ... I at least had enough self-esteem to recogize that SOMETHING was not right with the guy ... and I LEFT early on. That instead of hanging around begging for crumbs and getting knocked up. DUH! You have to have enough going on on the inside to see the red flags with these losers early on.
Or ... maybe you are used to being treated like s*** so this all seems normal/okay to you but I predict you will find no peace and (worse) ... you will mess up that innocent child in the head too.
I think YOU are the one that has it all wrong.
Edited by Printer_Ink - Apr 18 2014 at 5:45am