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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:07pm
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

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Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

At that age how is youth used as an excuse... serious question

True, but it seems ingrained but she's still young enough to change her mentality because at this age she hasn't reached the point where these white tactics will affect her the most....her career and raising her own children. t that age how is youth used as an excuse... serious question

You're right, it has been ingrained. But she's still young enough to change her mentality for when these white tactics will mean the most....in her career and raising her children. 
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:10pm
Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

At that age how is youth used as an excuse... serious question


Depends on how you've been raised... if you've been around certain types of people all your life, you will not just magically wake up one day and be enlightened.

Its a gradual process...

If she does not mix with a lot of black people, is not active in the black community, her views will be skewed a certain way....
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:10pm
and am speaking from experience...

i wish someone had taught my 23 year old self some things...
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:24pm
Maysay, I had a friend post that video to my FB wall saying "Do I sound like this?"

And Thought with school and work I really don't have the time like I used to to go to Philly. Plus I still haven't mastered my fear of I-76(hence my friend driving to the city all the time)

Honestly I'm ready to pack up and move back to Nigeria. I was just there this Christmas and I'm ready to go back. My aunt and uncle want me to come live with them once I've graduated.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:32pm
OP, there have been times in my professional life when I felt I had to dance on hot coals and have been on pins and needles.

Heck, sometimes I’ve been out right beside myself.

But never, eva, eva, eva, in my personal life, have I willingly danced with the devil.  As my daughter would say, “Nah, son!” You, on the other hand, seem to keep accepting dates with the devil and expecting angelic behavior.

So I ask you, in light of the ongoing pattern of disrespect being hurled your way by this person, what’s really going on here?

Do you:

A.     A.  Not mind being disrespected and disregarded?

B.      B. Like being a token?

C.      C.  Or are you getting something out of this “friendship” that keeps you coming back for more?

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:34pm
Only read the first post.

She is not your friend.
Drop her.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:36pm
Wow I really can't keep up with all these comments. I did NOT expect my post to gain this much feedback.

My sister and I have had talks about my parents isolating us from other Nigerians(because of their own issues) and that hindering us from forming connections and learning more about our culture. I moved here when I was 7 and these are the people I grew up around. Mostly white people that don't really like outsiders. I guess I did try to conform to something that would get me accepted. I rreally don't know what else to say to you all...
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:38pm
i had like all black friends and i still had a skewed view. 

id get into arguments with ppl cus they didnt like my comments about blk ppl and them getting on my nerves.. 
i didnt care though. id be like.. thats how i feel, dont like it? oh well... 

sometimes it just takes time and certain things to see things differently. 
ppl can teach all they want.. doesnt always work. 



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Originally posted by Nigerian_princess Nigerian_princess wrote:

Wow I really can't keep up with all these comments. I did NOT expect my post to gain this much feedback.

My sister and I have had talks about my parents isolating us from other Nigerians(because of their own issues) and that hindering us from forming connections and learning more about our culture. I moved here when I was 7 and these are the people I grew up around. Mostly white people that don't really like outsiders. I guess I did try to conform to something that would get me accepted. I rreally don't know what else to say to you all...


OP, this issue transcends race. This is about what's inside of you. That voice that says, "Hey, this is not ok."
You hear that voice, and you know that the way you are being treated by this person is out of line. Otherwise, you wouldn't have posted.
I'm glad you had a chance to vent. Heaven knows venting helps.
At 23, you're old enough to respect yourself.
Cut off this person, and anyone else who disrespects you.
Your life will be richer and fuller for it.
Good luck.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 1:11pm
Originally posted by Nigerian_princess Nigerian_princess wrote:



Honestly I'm ready to pack up and move back to Nigeria. I was just there this Christmas and I'm ready to go back. My aunt and uncle want me to come live with them once I've graduated.

Your degree will probably be worth more in Nigeria because it is from the USA... so it is not a bad idea to move backSmile

And I don't think you should bother with telling this girl why you are dropping her. She will cry white tears or worse, she will say that you are overly sensitive and will be glad that she hurt you by sending his pic.

Just block her number and move on with your life.


Edited by sexyandfamous - Jul 19 2014 at 1:17pm
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