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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:32am
Guy's she's young...

and I feel she has been around certain types of people to have made that statement

This is an opportunity to educate
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:35am
Originally posted by Nigerian_princess Nigerian_princess wrote:

To answer some questions:

My ex(the one in the engagement pic) is Asian. His new fiance is Asian as well. I'm sure mom and dad were so glad he got out of his "phase"...

The guy I was seeing during the club altercation was Haitian. Things between he and I were actually great, before he told me he has a kid in another state whom he doesn't see. Things kinda ended after that. I actually made a thread about that too. Its floating around the relationship section somewhere.

I noticed with her that when there was a time where she had a bf and I didn't, she was a lot bossier when we all hung out. She wanted to do what he did or go where he went, and because she usually drove I had no say in it. He would show up at our Girls Nights and they'd be off by themselves instead of with the group. But when I started dating Haiti, EVERYTHING was " I don't wanna go here, I don't wanna do this. Don't leave me here alone."

Regarding the picture, I feel like, if she had approached me differently about it then that would have made all the difference. Instead of a picture text sent out of the blue. I mean...seeing that was like a punch in the gut. And it ruined my whole f*cking week. In my heart of hearts I don't think she meant to hurt me, but that doesn't mean I have to take that sh*t.




She was putting you in your place. Reinforcing your inferiority complex that you are in fact "different", were not good enough no matter how you tried and he finally found someone suitable to marry, his own kind

Don't be naive and oblivious... get your head right,get pride in being black not being pseudo white (which is a delusion btw) and cut that ww off 

Don't say sh*t to her there's nothing to be said, this is about you not her 


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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:36am
OP no offense but you seem very naive on these racial tactics. You need a more diverse environment esp. with black people. You're 23, it's too not too late to save yourself. With the mentality of the people around you and the way you tolerate it, it will mess you up in the future esp. when dealing with negro head-petting whites. Evaluate yourself very well. I understand these dynamics. An environment like yours and those types of relationships subconsciously turns one into a coon. Don't be a fool. I see you're an easy target for these whites cus you're Nigerian. I won't be surprised if you're parents (based on your environment) also instilled such a mentality in you. 

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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:41am
Originally posted by JamCaygirl JamCaygirl wrote:

Guy's she's young...

and I feel she has been around certain types of people to have made that statement

This is an opportunity to educate


Exactly. That's why I posted about Gradient Lair. Perfect place to start learning about deconstructing the racism that she's internalized.

OP, moving to a new place won't change this. You have first become aware of what's really going on and then you'll likely find it easier to engage with other more positive people, especially black ones.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:46am
How old is OP? 16?
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:48am
she is 23.
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:48am
She's 23
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:55am
At that age how is youth used as an excuse... serious question
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:55am
Are all your friends white?
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Direct Link To This Post Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 12:00pm
I agree.
Originally posted by JamCaygirl JamCaygirl wrote:

Guy's she's young...

and I feel she has been around certain types of people to have made that statement

This is an opportunity to educate
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