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ThoughtCouture 
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 Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:03am |
 Nigerian_princess wrote:
How do I avoid being anyone's only black friend? Ask them for their Annual Black Friend Quota? I know that I am for as lot of people I'm friends with, but I think that because I'm the type of black that white people aren't intimidated by. And by that I mean "I don't act like I just got off the SEPTA from West Philly". <==That was something I was actually told by one of my former nurse managers. I think it was supposed to be a compliment... |
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Nigerian_princess
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:15am |
ThoughtCouture wrote:
Nigerian_princess wrote:
How do I avoid being anyone's only black friend? Ask them for their Annual Black Friend Quota? I know that I am for as lot of people I'm friends with, but I think that because I'm the type of black that white people aren't intimidated by. And by that I mean "I don't act like I just got off the SEPTA from West Philly". <==That was something I was actually told by one of my former nurse managers. I think it was supposed to be a compliment... |
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That's basically the same look I gave her. And I've been getting variations of that ever since I was young. I hate the area I live in...
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Fcgriffin
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:17am |
The type of black? Interesting. These people are content around you because you behave in a way that is appropriate to them. It's like saying you are only tolerable in their eyes. In the meanwhile they are comfortable with making you feel uncomfortable. Which is why that bish behaves the way she does. Anyways, That friend is not a friend. Time to cut her loose. Wish her luck with that baby and kim.
Nigerian_princess wrote:
How do I avoid being anyone's only black friend? Ask them for their Annual Black Friend Quota? I know that I am for as lot of people I'm friends with, but I think that because I'm the type of black that white people aren't intimidated by. And by that I mean "I don't act like I just got off the SEPTA from West Philly". <==That was something I was actually told by one of my former nurse managers. I think it was supposed to be a compliment... |
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JamCaygirl
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:41am |
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OP, I was riding with you until the last comment about "type of black"....
I know white people will say $hit like that, but don't buy into it....
when the law comes knocking we're all the same black...
and the fact that they aren't intimidated by you to me means
1 - these people are clearly stereotyping black people as people to be feared, cos you know, we're all aggressive
2 - because they are not "intimidated", they feel comfortable boldly saying offensive $hit about "just got off the SEPTA" and dressing it up as a compliment...
How old are you by the way?
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ThoughtCouture
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:42am |
Nigerian_princess wrote:
ThoughtCouture wrote:
Nigerian_princess wrote:
How do I avoid being anyone's only black friend? Ask them for their Annual Black Friend Quota? I know that I am for as lot of people I'm friends with, but I think that because I'm the type of black that white people aren't intimidated by. And by that I mean "I don't act like I just got off the SEPTA from West Philly". <==That was something I was actually told by one of my former nurse managers. I think it was supposed to be a compliment... |
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That's basically the same look I gave her. And I've been getting variations of that ever since I was young. I hate the area I live in... |
if you know this....have you also examined why you would even entertain being "friends" with these people?
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BBpants
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:47am |
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Don't do it, op....get out of this thread while you can lol
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Nigerian_princess
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:49am |
OK I shouldn't have said that I know because I really don't. That's a silly assumption to make. And I'm 23. I was trying to figure out the right way to word "type of black" but it sounds bad no matter how i tried to word it 
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afrokock
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:52am |
Nigerian_princess wrote:
OK I shouldn't have said that I know because I really don't. That's a silly assumption to make.
And I'm 23. I was trying to figure out the right way to word "type of black" but it sounds bad no matter how i tried to word it |
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Nigerian_princess
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 10:54am |
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Haha I just texted her asking if we could talk so once I update after our talk I'll be done talking about this. I didn't want it to turn into a talk about race relations, but I guess it was inevitable. I really do appreciate all the feedback I've gotten. I've become kind of a loner ever since knuckling down with school and work, so I don't have many friends to talk to about stuff like this...
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MizzAmirah
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Posted: Jul 19 2014 at 11:01am |
Cut her off. She goin' make you her baby sitter. Kuht dat bytch awf!!! 
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