Am I wrong to be so mad? *long-ish post*

rickysrose wrote: there is no exceptional black, nigerian It's a racist construct used for subjugating and sabotaging blacks don't fall for it

THIS. Nigerian, as someone who once thought their self a special magical unicorn non-black cool black person thanks to falling for that crap in her teenagehood, I can tell you, do not fall for it.

People who try to put you in that box don't see you as fully equal.
They don't see you as a sign of diversity in black people. They see you as an exception to their racist views.

sexyandfamous wrote: Nigerian_princess wrote: Honestly I'm ready to pack up and move back to Nigeria. I was just there this Christmas and I'm ready to go back. My aunt and uncle want me to come live with them once I've graduated. Your degree will probably be worth more in Nigeria because it is from the USA... so it is not a bad idea to move back And I don't think you should bother with telling this girl why you are dropping here. She will cry white tears or worse, she will say that you are overly sensitive and will be glad that she hurt you by sending his pic. Just block her number and move on with your life.

Nigerian_princess wrote: Wow I really can't keep up with all these comments. I did NOT expect my post to gain this much feedback. My sister and I have had talks about my parents isolating us from other Nigerians(because of their own issues) and that hindering us from forming connections and learning more about our culture. I moved here when I was 7 and these are the people I grew up around. Mostly white people that don't really like outsiders. I guess I did try to conform to something that would get me accepted. I rreally don't know what else to say to you all...

OP, this issue transcends race. This is about what's inside of you. That voice that says, "Hey, this is not ok."
You hear that voice, and you know that the way you are being treated by this person is out of line. Otherwise, you wouldn't have posted.
I'm glad you had a chance to vent. Heaven knows venting helps.
At 23, you're old enough to respect yourself.
Cut off this person, and anyone else who disrespects you.
Your life will be richer and fuller for it.
Good luck.

Wow I really can't keep up with all these comments. I did NOT expect my post to gain this much feedback.

My sister and I have had talks about my parents isolating us from other Nigerians(because of their own issues) and that hindering us from forming connections and learning more about our culture. I moved here when I was 7 and these are the people I grew up around. Mostly white people that don't really like outsiders. I guess I did try to conform to something that would get me accepted. I rreally don't know what else to say to you all...

OP, there have been times in my professional life when I felt I had to dance on hot coals and have been on pins and needles.

Heck, sometimes I’ve been out right beside myself.

But never, eva, eva, eva, in my personal life, have I willingly danced with the devil.  As my daughter would say, “Nah, son!” You, on the other hand, seem to keep accepting dates with the devil and expecting angelic behavior.

So I ask you, in light of the ongoing pattern of disrespect being hurled your way by this person, what’s really going on here?

Do you:

A.     A.  Not mind being disrespected and disregarded?

B.      B. Like being a token?

C.      C.  Or are you getting something out of this “friendship” that keeps you coming back for more?