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my friend is a vegan now bc of her boyfriend. it's interesting that he is a vegan because he played D1 football....and he is haitian...we like meatLOL

idk if i don't think not getting a ring is a failure per se...it is a failure if you want one...and most women do...so you have failed


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My mother freaked out in middle school when I listened to rock. She actually commented that one of the bands I listened to wore all black, and her and one of her friends called my music "demonic". 

I'm not religious but I don't ever bring it up to my family. EVERYONE (at least it seems anyway) is christian. Since I live alone I'm no longer forced to attend church services. My has asked more than once if I believe in Jesus and let me know that nothing would disappoint her more than to know I'm going to hell.

I used to read  manga but I'd pretend I didn't. There was an anime club at school - and I still wonder if I'd have like it had I joined.
I've dabbled in various things, but I'm already so damn weird and I don't feel comfortable with my family's reaction to certain things.

So I don't do anything out of the ordinary, and I try my hardest not to let any wayward opinions slip around relatives. It just wouldn't go over well.
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I used to subscribe to a lot of "alternative" thinking when i was growing up.  i kept getting told i was tryna be white so i stopped doing a lot of it during that time...some stuff has remained and come back and others i can't get back. Disapprove  

i am planning on going glutten free soon...we'll see how that works out.
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I think I have an idea why black people tend to be against these types of things, but I don't know if I really got it.
Maybe its close attachment to religion? A lot of alternative things( with the exception of veganism) tend to be looked as demonic to black people. I'm trying to figure out what else it could be without comparing us to white people.
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

So this has been on my mind a lot lately...alternative lifestyles/philosophies and how people respond to them in the black community.  

I find that in general black people are far less open to "alternative" ways of living. Whether it's in real life or online. It's like certain types of behaviors/beliefs/etc are just...not worth considering.

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-long term relationships with no intention of marriage
-being childfree
-certain food diets (veganism, raw, not eating processed foods, etc.)
-anti-consumption/consumerism
-serious frugality
-geek culture (steampunk, comics, going to cons, etc.)
-minimalism, simple living

So do you live an "alternative" lifestyle or have an "alternative" belief/life philosophy? How do other black people respond to it?

see your idea of simple living and mine differ.  religiously JW are encouraged to be simple, frugal and not huge consumers of much so I was raised on that mindset.  but your ideas of simplistic is probably seen as extreme by 75% of the US population
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geek culture (steampunk, comics, going to cons, etc.)
-minimalism, simple living


this is me^ to answer your question im not sure how other folks react to it. i be in my own world...i think my family learned to accept/tolerate my *weirdness* but i stopped caring what folks thought of me when i was like 9. life is much better.
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Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

I'll start with my own experience.

I notice here and many other places (irl and online) that not getting a ring is considered a "failure". Whether it's in articles at Clutch or on bhm...if you're in a successful long term relationship and not married you are still not winning.

I personally subscribe to the idea that romantic relationships are just like friendships. Most people don't expect friendships to last for a lifetime. We accept that people and circumstances change. I look at romantic relationships the same way.

But it's rare for me to find a black person who agrees...and almost everyone is super judgmental about it. 
I like being married, but I can see the benefits of bf/gf if kids aren't involved
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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

 

see your idea of simple living and mine differ.  religiously JW are encouraged to be simple, frugal and not huge consumers of much so I was raised on that mindset.  but your ideas of simplistic is probably seen as extreme by 75% of the US population

I definitely agree that a lot of my views are considered extreme.

But even when I've suggested frugality as a temporary stop gap measure for someone they looked at me like I had 3 heads.

Case in point...an acquaintance was talking about how she couldn't make ends meet to pay her bills and feed her kids. I suggested a meal plan (rice/beans/frozen veggies/eggs/fresh fruit that was on sale + some food from the church/food pantry and water) that would get her through the month on 30$ for her and her 2 kids. Her response? She and her kids would not be subjected to the travesty of having to eat basically the same thing every day/meal. She wouldn't even consider it.

But in general I find that's how black people respond to stuff like that.
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Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

Originally posted by maysay1 maysay1 wrote:

I'll start with my own experience.

I notice here and many other places (irl and online) that not getting a ring is considered a "failure". Whether it's in articles at Clutch or on bhm...if you're in a successful long term relationship and not married you are still not winning.

I personally subscribe to the idea that romantic relationships are just like friendships. Most people don't expect friendships to last for a lifetime. We accept that people and circumstances change. I look at romantic relationships the same way.

But it's rare for me to find a black person who agrees...and almost everyone is super judgmental about it. 
I like being married, but I can see the benefits of bf/gf if kids aren't involved

my SIL was with her now husband for 10 years before they got married.  at first they didn't want any kids. but after they decided to have one...they got married.  it helps in cases of emergencies. those little things seem unimportant but they become very important when life happens. simple things like being allowed to see your mate at the hospital.
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Ummm...I'm bisexual*. Most ppl on here and IRL feel like being bi means you're selfish and want to/would date anybody.

*I don't particularly like the label, but if I had to choose one I would fall under the bisexual category.
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