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I just woke up so I apologize for being so short.

You never stop grieving. It's a long process. I finally started to address mine and I would like to share an article that I was given.

I will send it via pm when I have put access.
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My granny stopped going to her old church that her and my grandfather got saved in before I was born. He died when I was 14, she died when I was 24. She wouldbt even fix herself a plate of dinner anymore. Lots of things changed in her. About after I was 17 she got more normal, started dating and everything. But for a while she still considered herself married. It was really hard to watch. I'll send u some positive energy. That seemed to help her.
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Sister B I am sitting here in tears right now.  I'm sending you love and hugs through the computer screen right now.   I can NOT imagine how this feels but at the same time I can imagine because I feel like after all these years together I might lay down and die if I lost my best friend. 

I don't know if it was mentioned but I think it might help to be part of a support group that isn't associated with your current friends and family.  Feeling like you're greiving is too long or not normal isn't a good thing but I think you already know that.   There are support groups locally for widows (google or yellow pages) but I saw some online forums as well.  I don't think it would be a bad thing to grieve with others in a similar situation.  Maybe just reading other stories would be good but also a place to vent your feelings when you feel like typing it out.  The most important thing is to remove the guilt of not having it all together.   An anonymous place where nobody is watching you too see how strong you are or how long its taking for you to get back to "normal".  

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Widows-Widowers/support-group


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The BHM family is always on point!   This is why I love you guys no matter what.  I read some of the posts and the support group was suggested earlierClap

I also love the idea of a pet that was suggested.  It can be very comforting to adopt an animal if you don't have any.  It helps with the "quietness". 

Best wishes lady.  You're going to be okay one day but the timeline is yours.  Retirement and your husband's passing were too close for anyone to deal with.   That is way too much change in a stable life and with that I think its amazing you can function at all.   I can see you completely enjoying yourself again one day.  There is a reason you are here and you will find it because you are an incredible personHug
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Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

Originally posted by _ConcreteRose_ _ConcreteRose_ wrote:

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I'm not normally at a loss for words, but I am right now lol

But sometimes it's best to keep it simple. I'm saying thank you, and I really mean thank you. Thank you all.
 
I wanted to die yesterday. It was the roughest day in a series of long days, but today is a new day. I know that it won't be easy, but the sense of hopelessness and lifelessness isn't as pressing as it was yesterday. I attribute that to your love and support. Reading your responses was EVERYTHING *drag queen twirl*
 
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^^  My emotional ass is crying again.  I'm so happy you're feeling good todayHeartCryLOLHug
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