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Hey BB,

Vent all you need to.

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Hi Aunt Bean,

 
I wish you were still in this area so I could give you the tighest hug ever! Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers during this time.
 
All my Love,
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Originally posted by OoDles O OoDles O wrote:

Hey BB,

Vent all you need to.

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It's tough finding one's way out of a storm.
It's also strange how loss can be the catalyst for profound introspection.
He wasn't your whole life and your life is far from over- it's only changed direction.
Best to you Dear. 
The very best to you.
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Cry Aw man..I'm so glad to see you post again but sad it's on these terms.  People grieve differently and for different lengths in time.  I've never lost anyone close to me so I'm not sure what advice to give.  From what I've observed, you're a sassy, intelligent, admirable, and spirited person.  I have no doubt that it will get better.
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You know you'll always have the support of the BHM family.  Hug  We'll cut up occasionally, but it's mostly in love.  I'm known for analyzing things pretty darn aggressively and I find that just blurting out my immediate hangups makes things easier.  "I'm your mom and I feel really strange expressing my feelings to you.  Please be patient with me."  Usually in my case, I'm explaining to people that I'm going to being briefly illogical because of some random emotional happening.  "I'm making this argument from emotion and if you argue back right now, I will yell at you.  Give me time."  It can be a little awkward at first, but people are almost always willing to work around your feelings when you explain them. Thumbs Up  We're always here to support you.  Never hesitate to ask! Heart  
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I've never experienced this type of situation or feeling, so I don't have any first hand knowledge of how to make it better.

Do what you can to take care of yourself Heart

I agree with neka, what would you tell one of your clients or loved ones to do in a similar situation? Would you refer them to support groups? see a psychiatrist to supplement in the process, meditate, read books in this area?

Since it's  understandable that you'd be too analytical in individual therapy, how about a grief support group? It seems like it could be beneficial in that you wouldn't necessarily be analyzing the CBT techniques, but instead would be surrounded by empathy, good advice, coping skills that others have used, and other anecdotal things that might really help. If it doesn't help, you can always stop

I hope your heart can soon start to heal, Ms Bean Cry
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Beatrice, I have never spoken to you before but couldn't get past the 1st three lines w/o my eyes tearing up. This ( ) seems so basic but I genuinely wish I could give you a hug. Please don't feel embarrassed to express your hurt & pain with those closest to you. Hopefully one of them will just listen and let you cry, scream, or reminisce.

I can't imagine how you're feeling as far as a life partner. However, it will be 5 years next month since I lost my Mother and there are still times when it just hits me and I'm balling. Yes, they say with time it gets easier. It hasn't been a year since your loss. You are entitled to be a different person, to feel sad, and even disoriented. If anyone has a right to be "in their feelings" its you.

When I get overwhelmed with grief, I remember the last time my Mom and I shared a good laugh. It calms me a little. Maybe this can help you too. You will be in my prayers.
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I wish you the best and may your heart heal soon. 


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