Adults only is the only way to go OR a property big enough that you never see the little wet monsters splish splashing around causing a ruckus and just being themselves and creeping me out at the buffet
Jamaica - Sandals Couples, Iberostar Grand, Grand Lido some Breezes properties are adults only. Jewels Dunns River (formerly a Sandals property) Hedo 2, Club Caribbean (budget dont recommend for you), Grand Palladium has an adults only section with its own ppol and pool bar but everything else is shared but its so HUGE you'd never notice the kids.
Have you decided on a destination yet? What exactly do you want from your vacation? All Inclusive, Meal plan? breakfast only boutique, small property or large? Villa/condo? Tours? Stay in? Are you going to be in the room and only surface for meals? Is room service a big deal or not? Butler/concierge?
Sandals Whitehouse is my heartbeattttttttttt! The best rare steak I've ever had in Ja was Sandals Ochi (idk which one- the one with the other half of the property across the road)
Dont fear the nude beach- no one's watching and honestly its 50+ YT men and women reading books sleeping swimming.
Puts on Hedo Toga/cape: Hedo 2 was sold recently and renovated BIG TIME. Hedo maxim = go to walmart picture everyone there naked that's Hedo. if Hedo is your thing (theres no longer a Hedo III please be sure to check what groups are going to be in residence during your travel dates)
Nightlife i cant help you on that LOLOL is there rum? is there music Im okay lol
Assuming your looking at trip advisor you have tolook carefully cause some reviewers are crazy, head to the forums and ask this question in OP