
Courtesy Kelli Higgins
My
baby: "Here's my sweet not so little newborn!" Kelli Higgins wrote on
her Facebook page. "His name is Latrell and weighs 112 lbs."
The
face is angelic, the lighting soft and the subject is napping
peacefully – just the way a newborn photo shoot should look. It took 13
years, but Latrell Higgins finally has his baby photos.
“Here's my sweet not so little newborn! His name is Latrell and weighs 112 lbs.,” his mom Kelli Higgins proudly announced on Facebook, where the boy’s simple wish created an online sensation.
Higgins
and her husband adopted Latrell and his sister Chanya two years ago,
welcoming the siblings to their home in Crestview, Fla. The family
already had five biological children, with a sixth one on the way, but
Higgins felt she had more love to give, especially to kids who would
have a harder time finding a home because they were older. In the past
decade, more older children have become available for adoption, experts
say.
“These children, once they get past a certain age, they
don’t find homes and they age out of foster care,” Higgins told
TODAY.com.
“They have to figure out the world on their own and
there’s no one to go back to as an adult. Where do you go for Christmas?
It’s just horrible, it’s heartbreaking.”
Then one day, social
services called: Latrell and Chanya, then 10 and 5, were looking for a
family. “Let’s just go for it,” Higgins recalled her husband saying. A
few days later, the kids moved in. The Higgins were the only ones to
submit paperwork to adopt the pair, the family found out.
The siblings are growing up happily, but wounds from the past sometimes surface unexpectedly.
The
family was sitting around the dinner table last month, when Higgins – a
professional photographer – mentioned that she was preparing for an
upcoming baby photo session. Latrell mentioned that he wished he had
baby photos of himself.
Higgins’ 12-year-old daughter asked, why
not “recreate” a newborn photo shoot just for Latrell? The family had a
good laugh thinking about him in all the newborn poses.
“I thought it was funny and that it would be a good idea,” Latrell told TODAY.com. His mom found the notion bittersweet.
“I
was very sad too because I didn’t have any photos of him either,"
Higgins said. "I think it’s really hard to have children and not know
what they looked like when they were younger.”
Higgins and Latrell went into her studio the next day, both laughing hysterically the whole time, she recalled.
While
some people have raised concerns that Latrell would be embarrassed by
the photos, he told TODAY.com that he likes the results and that
everyone he has showed the photos to thinks they are funny. Meanwhile,
positive reaction is overflowing on Higgins’ Facebook page, where the
photos have been shared thousands of times and prompted hundreds of
comments of support.
"This is such a beautiful thing to do!" one
person wrote. "I know so many people who adopted older children and
don't have ANY pictures of their infancy. What a spectacular way to
remedy that... after all, he'll always be your baby."
Higgins is particularly excited to start a conversation about adopting older kids.
“The
one reaction that is really humbling and I’m really excited about is
there have been a lot of parents that come to me telling me that they
were thinking about adopting a baby, but after seeing those photos it’s
changed their minds and they want to adopt an older child,” Higgins
said.
There were more than 104,000 children in foster care who
were waiting to be adopted in 2011, the last full year for which
government statistics are available. The median age of a child waiting
to find an adoptive home was 7, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
“Over
the last decade, I’m seeing more older children available to be adopted
and more people who are interested in adopting them,” said Gloria
Hochman, a spokeswoman for the National Adoption Center.
People
who adopt older kids tend to already have children and have experience
dealing with pre-teens and teens, she said. There’s more help available
now to families through post-adoption services, she added.
Back in
Florida, Higgins said the lesson Latrell taught her is simple: We are
never too old to want -- and deserve -- love, security and parents.