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Originally posted by BeatriceBean BeatriceBean wrote:

Treat them all the same, especially since they're all living in the same house. That type of treatment breeds resentment in a situation that I'm sure is already very difficult for everyone involved. Either help promote a healthy, happy blended family unit or stay out of it.




Originally posted by rickysrose rickysrose wrote:

life is too long and time is too short for this to even be a question

no need to alienate a child




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Originally posted by QueenBee QueenBee wrote:

Being that I raised by my stepfather.  His family treated me the same as his biological daughters.  They are my aunts, uncles, and cousins.  I received gifts and was taken on outings the same as the other kids.  They never said "Oh, I am taking Leroy's kids and QB's  has to stay home." 

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I would treat them the same. My uncle married a woman when I was much younger and he had a son and daughter(my first cousins). I was an adult when I found out that his son, which was the oldest of both, wasn't his real son. I had no clue that his wife had the son before they even met and got married. My uncle and our whole family treated him like the rest of us. He treated him like his. He raised him as his.

I don't see the point in adults going out of their way to make it a point to an innocent child that they are not blood and therefore will not be treated as such.. It takes a really nasty and petty person to act that way towards children.

OT: Since my uncle has been dead, we have discovered that he has two other daughters. One before his marriage that is in her 30's and one that was after the marriage ended and she is in her early 20's and in college. We welcomed them with open arms...

My unc was a player in his days..
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Depends on how his family treats mine.....I won't even lie....I'll be damn if I gotta buy 50-11 DS for christmas and y'all handing out Nerf guns......
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Originally posted by jonesable jonesable wrote:

Kids are easy to love.



so easy! how can one base how they treat kids based on how others treat them is baffling.  kindness and goodwill should be innate and not based on external circumstances and the behavior of others. and if my brother or sister were treating their stepchild any different from their own child, i would have to talk to them about that. it's frankly unacceptable in my family imo.


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Y'all would be surprised how nasty and petty some adults can be. I have seen it first hand. 
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Meh.....Im not obligated to do anything....and if I decide to not deal with anyone man woman or child then.....its my decision......

My sister's ex husband's family treated her kids like crap.....and they noticed it....I didn't treat his kids bad but I did dote on my own so they didn't feel it......
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blood means nothing to me… its about the relationship.. 

if they're little kids.. its hard to not like them.. so I'm pretty sure id treat them the same. 
if they're older and i don't like/care for them.. i wouldn't treat them the same. same way if it was my blood relative and i just didnt like them.. i wouldn't act like i do. 

i can/would take someone in as my own regardless of them having any relation to a fam member whatsoever.. but i wouldn't do it just cus…. there needs to be some type of relationship or bond or something that makes me like them. 


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Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

blood means nothing to me… its about the relationship.. 

if they're little kids.. its hard to not like them.. so I'm pretty sure id treat them the same. 
if they're older and i don't like/care for them.. i wouldn't treat them the same. same way if it was my blood relative and i just didnt like them.. i wouldn't act like i do. 

i can/would take someone in as my own regardless of them having any relation to a fam member whatsoever.. but i wouldn't do it just cus…. there needs to be some type of relationship or bond or something that makes me like them. 



Older as in teenager? I guess if the child was rude or disrespectful I would kind of understand but I still don't think that it is right for a grown adult to treat a child like they would treat an adult. You have to be an example. It really does take a village to raise a child.
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I do. My niece came into our family when she was 3 she is 25 now luv her to pieces matter of fact out of all my grown nieces and nephews she is the only one who calls me aunty.
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