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Petite, I agree.  I like that my 'new' nephew in law's own father is cool with it too.
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how ironic, im actually babysitting my brother's gf son right now (he's 7). It's kind of awkward because i dont know how she handles her son or how she would like her son to be handled. I try to treat him and my nephew the same but i dont give him hugs or anything because im not sure if he's comfortable with that. I usually just rub his head and give him a high five after my nephew gives me a hug
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Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

If someone in your family (sister, brother, cousin or even best friend) had children and married someone with children and they all lived together would you treat the step kids the same as the blood related children? For example if you take your niece or nephew out would you take the step siblings or leave them out? Would you buy them christmas and bday presents?? Would you buy them presents in the same price range? Do you feel families( besides the husband and wife of course) have an obligation to accept stepchildren? Is it fair to treat them differently because they aren't related to you by blood?


Yes I would treat them differently. Their step siblings betta get with the program and find someone else to treat them and not CC. I don't know them like that.Confused














lol Lemme stop playin'. I'd treat them equal because I'd be a POS if I didn't.
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Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

If someone in your family (sister, brother, cousin or even best friend) had children and married someone with children and they all lived together would you treat the step kids the same as the blood related children? For example if you take your niece or nephew out would you take the step siblings or leave them out? Would you buy them christmas and bday presents?? Would you buy them presents in the same price range? Do you feel families( besides the husband and wife of course) have an obligation to accept stepchildren? Is it fair to treat them differently because they aren't related to you by blood?


Yes I would treat them differently. Their step siblings betta get with the program and find someone else to treat them and not CC. I don't know them like that.Confused














lol Lemme stop playin'. I'd treat them equal because I'd be a POS if I didn't.



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Kids are easy to love.

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I honk it's inappropriate for an adult to go out of there way to treat a step-kid differently. It's immature and hurtful. Creates more drama and division and it should be about bringing families together no this "separate but equal" kind of thing. Do what you can do be accepting of thy child. I would only change me answer if they continue to have a you attitude after I'm trying to include them...
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I didn't find out my step dad wasn't my real father until I was around 8 years old and his family ALWAYS included us and treated us the same
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Treat them all the same, especially since they're all living in the same house. That type of treatment breeds resentment in a situation that I'm sure is already very difficult for everyone involved. Either help promote a healthy, happy blended family unit or stay out of it.
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Originally posted by Lonisha87 Lonisha87 wrote:

I didn't find out my step dad wasn't my real father until I was around 8 years old and his family ALWAYS included us and treated us the same


How it should be Heart
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life is too long and time is too short for this to even be a question

no need to alienate a child


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