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Originally posted by petiteone29 petiteone29 wrote:

Originally posted by liesnalibis liesnalibis wrote:

My brother has two small children and he and the mother recently broke up. I couldn't see myself doing for any strange kids on the same level as my niece and nephew. I didn't sign up for that. When I look at my niece and nephew they look like me and my fam. If my brother or their mom were to go out and get a ready made family they would have their own fam to coddle them and look out for them on holidays. I'm just being honest.


were they married?


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You HAVE to think about how you would feel if it were you. I had step family members who treated me different and as a child it made me feel very sad. It was so obvious I was being treated differently because one year all, the girls for Barbie and I got a knock off cheap dollar store doll. Their mom would take them to kings island but not me, I had to stay home alone. Now that I'm older I could care less about them.
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Originally posted by HowardAlumAKA HowardAlumAKA wrote:

You HAVE to think about how you would feel if it were you. I had step family members who treated me different and as a child it made me feel very sad. It was so obvious I was being treated differently because one year all, the girls for Barbie and I got a knock off cheap dollar store doll. Their mom would take them to kings island but not me, I had to stay home alone. Now that I'm older I could care less about them.



SMH. That is just nasty of them. It takes a certain type of person to treat an innocent child that way.
I wonder if the relationship that the family has with the stepchild's biological parent plays a big part in how they feel about the child.
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I agree with HowardAKA.. I was a step child and was treated differently because I wasn't blood related. I was made aware of it each time we visited my stepdad's mother.
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To b honest, I don't know if I would take my Ex's stepchildren anywhere. I would take his blood children by another woman because those r my child's siblings, but as the mom, I'm not sure if I'd take stepsibs.

But thats being the ex woman. As a family member, that's different.

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I would treat them all the same. Family is about more than blood relatives to me though.
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Can't relate but I wouldn't treat them differently. They're not my children. Then again, it also depends . If someone in my family marries someone with children of their own, I'm not going to love you automatically. With little kids, it's easier. The older they are, the harder it is to just blend in and be family too.
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a bit off topic, but I was so moved when my niece remarried (1st husband was killed in accident) and her 1st husband's father told her 2nd husband that since 2nd husband was going to be a father to his grandson (1st husband's child)  he'd like to consider him like his son . if he didn't mind. I thought that was so sweet. They're still super close to this day; taking fishing trips together and everything.  familyHeart

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I love children, and I treat all kids the same. I just know my niece and nephews don't mind when I kiss them all of the time hahaha..I think that is the only difference..my affection towards the child. It is toned down towards other children, unless they are okay with it:) 
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Originally posted by PurplePhase PurplePhase wrote:

a bit off topic, but I was so moved when my niece remarried (1st husband was killed in accident) and her 1st husband's father told her 2nd husband that since 2nd husband was going to be a father to his grandson (1st husband's child)  he'd like to consider him like his son . if he didn't mind. I thought that was so sweet. They're still super close to this day; taking fishing trips together and everything.  familyHeart


Clap Thats what Im talking about!! Do what is right for the kids. He is a good example.
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