A question for my African brothas/sistas

Flowing-Ice wrote: what's wrong with someone saying i will not accept you as african? is that offensive or something? does being an in-law make you part of the culture?

Positive K wrote: afrokock wrote: im slowly starting to lol at this thread if anything shad, you look more ghanaian than anything else I look Brazilian too apparently lol. The thing is black Americans are most likely made up of different types of African people, not just one country. But I guess on these tests they just compare your DNA to specific countries and whatever comes up closest is it. I don't believe they can trace exactly what tribe you come from.

yeah i dont think thats possible tbh

they might just circle down a region and thats about it.

narrowing down to a tribe is damn near impossible

JoliePoufiasse wrote: Flowing-Ice wrote: what's wrong with someone saying i will not accept you as african? is that offensive or something? does being an in-law make you part of the culture?   Did I say that was offensive? I was just explaining my perception of why he is not likely to be accepted when claiming his "africannness" or "blackness" As if my black skin originated in Korea.   My marriage is another story altogether. They were just plain hostile and meddling.

JoliePoufiasse wrote: MizzAmirah wrote: JoliePoufiasse wrote: mrshairdo wrote: ^^thats ice cold   It wasn't meant to offend. But as you well know, africans don't even accept each other based on tribal affiliations within the same country. Why the hell would they see a black from the diaspora as one of their own in any way, shape or form? When I say "accept you", I don't mean that they would never like you, befriend you, etc. But start talking about the whole searching for your roots and being panafricanist and all that and they'll laugh in your face. I'm just keeping it real. You do know Africa is a huge continent, right? I'm sorry you felt rejected.   I'm speaking from my own personal experience. Like I said, I did not mean to offend, I was just being honest about what I felt. and yes, I do know that Africa is a big continent, I've been there.

I have no reason to be offended. You know Africa is a big continent b/c you've been there. (Obviously not the entire continent). But from your own experience, during your soul-searching, did AfricanSSS really laugh in your face? (This is in light of your "just keeping it real"). I think you can see the point I'm trying to make here. Marriage is a delicate matter, and from the way your responses were, it seems it did not turn out the way you would have liked and felt very un-welcomed, bringing much bias and strong feelings to your response. Like I said, I'm sorry you felt regected. This can happen in ANY marriage, even within the same ethnic groups, so don't feel you and your "fellow diasporians" have been singled out by "Africans." But to each their own. My job is not to change anyone's opinions, but to also be a little logical when we over-generalize so we can see other potential POV.
I being a Nigerian-American and many others I know welcome all blacks world wide as long as you have similar values to me. For AA, some want to be associated with Africa (welcome!), and some strongly feel they aint African (for whatever reason..."fine! KIM". Life aint about hunting people down and initiating them into "your culture".

To derail no further from the OP, Positive K, folks are still waiting for your response so your African bros/sis can help you.



Edited by MizzAmirah - Nov 11 2012 at 1:33pm

Flowing-Ice wrote: EPITOME wrote: Positive K wrote: The DNA results said I'm most genetically similar to Nigerians.  yeah i figured that is what it would say. don't they tell everyone that? i figure i am most similar to ppl from Guinea. that's where they say Haitians are from and i think many ppl from Guinea acknowledge that "Fact" oh wow. i never knew that. cool.