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They're stupid. Tell them to get over it..
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Neva seen an Ethiopian man I thought was good looking and there are a gazillion around here.

Flow and Jp: yes Benin and Guinea. There couldn't have been too much variety of Africans because then the revolution wouldn't have worked as well IMO. It would have been too many different peoples and languages.
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Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by MizzAmirah MizzAmirah wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by MizzAmirah MizzAmirah wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by mrshairdo mrshairdo wrote:

^^thats ice cold
 
It wasn't meant to offend. But as you well know, africans don't even accept each other based on tribal affiliations within the same country. Why the hell would they see a black from the diaspora as one of their own in any way, shape or form? When I say "accept you", I don't mean that they would never like you, befriend you, etc. But start talking about the whole searching for your roots and being panafricanist and all that and they'll laugh in your face. I'm just keeping it real.


You do know Africa is a huge continent, right? I'm sorry you felt rejected.
 
I'm speaking from my own personal experience. Like I said, I did not mean to offend, I was just being honest about what I felt. and yes, I do know that Africa is a big continent, I've been there.


I have no reason to be offended. You know Africa is a big continent b/c you've been there. (Obviously not the entire continent). But from your own experience, during your soul-searching, did AfricanSSS really laugh in your face? (This is in light of your "just keeping it real"). I think you can see the point I'm trying to make here. Marriage is a delicate matter, and from the way your responses were, it seems it did not turn out the way you would have liked and felt very un-welcomed, bringing much bias and strong feelings to your response. Like I said, I'm sorry you felt regected. This can happen in ANY marriage, even within the same ethnic groups, so don't feel you and your "fellow diasporians" have been singled out by "Africans." But to each their own. My job is not to change anyone's opinions, but to also be a little logical when we over-generalize so we can see other potential POV.
I being a Nigerian-American and many others I know welcome all blacks world wide as long as you have similar values to me. For AA, some want to be associated with African (welcome!), and some strongly feel they aint African (for whatever reason..."fine! KIM". Life aint about hunting people down and initiating them into "your culture".

To derail no further from the OP, Positive K, folks are still waiting for your response so your African bros/sis can help you.

 
Mizz Amirah, I've already stated that I've had different experiences with Africans, some good, some not so good. My marriage is in the not so good category and i've stated that it's in a different realm because it was a marriage.
 
 My friendships, on the other end, are solid. What I'm trying to say is that, FROM MY EXPERIENCE, when I expressed panafricanist, negritude views, even my friends had a tendency to smirk, like I was getting my references from Eddie Murphy's movie, like I was on some imaginary King of Zamunda shyt, LOL. There is a bit of an attitude that caribbean culture is nothing but slavery.
Also, I should stress that most of the Africans I came in contact with are from French-speaking countries. I'm sure that makes a difference, mentality wise


As far as people "getting in touch with their roots". I have met some people who every second wanted to discuss Africa with me, talking about slavery, natural hair, culture, and what not. Yeah, I appreciate the enthusiasm but I'm sure you can see how that be get very annoying and very quick. Like I'm supposed to be some kinda African roots ambassador JUST because I'm African. Like I don't have anything else I'd like to discuss. Yes, I'm Nigerian-American..........don't neglect the American either. I dont always wanna be talking about Africa, shea butter, and natural diets. Ironically (back-tracking) I've found that the Africans I know view Caribbean blacks as "more African" in heritage and behavior than any other group of blacks. Which aint far from the truth (I went in detail in another thread earlier this year of the examples), but in short, our music is very similar, foods are too, and even accents to an extent (for some W. African anglophone countries).
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yeah there are a lot in D.C. but trust me there are a lot of them im NY that are fine fine fine.
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Originally posted by coconess coconess wrote:

Eithopian? Interesting.. I can't remember any attractive Ethiopian men.

I think Eritrean girls are sometimes really pretty. I knew these 3 girls that were gorgeous


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post up your pic and the country


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Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Neva seen an Ethiopian man I thought was good looking and there are a gazillion around here.

Flow and Jp: yes Benin and Guinea. There couldn't have been too much variety of Africans because then the revolution wouldn't have worked as well IMO. It would have been too many different peoples and languages.


For MOST nationalities, I've noticed that they're about the same amount of exceptional beauties, average beauties and in betweens, as well as uglies (or unattractives)........And I mean world wide. In MY opinion though, there are few excepts which I find a higher number of unattractive, attractive, and average looking people. This, I'll keep to myself. At least for now. 
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Originally posted by MizzAmirah MizzAmirah wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by MizzAmirah MizzAmirah wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by MizzAmirah MizzAmirah wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by mrshairdo mrshairdo wrote:

^^thats ice cold
 
It wasn't meant to offend. But as you well know, africans don't even accept each other based on tribal affiliations within the same country. Why the hell would they see a black from the diaspora as one of their own in any way, shape or form? When I say "accept you", I don't mean that they would never like you, befriend you, etc. But start talking about the whole searching for your roots and being panafricanist and all that and they'll laugh in your face. I'm just keeping it real.


You do know Africa is a huge continent, right? I'm sorry you felt rejected.
 
I'm speaking from my own personal experience. Like I said, I did not mean to offend, I was just being honest about what I felt. and yes, I do know that Africa is a big continent, I've been there.


I have no reason to be offended. You know Africa is a big continent b/c you've been there. (Obviously not the entire continent). But from your own experience, during your soul-searching, did AfricanSSS really laugh in your face? (This is in light of your "just keeping it real"). I think you can see the point I'm trying to make here. Marriage is a delicate matter, and from the way your responses were, it seems it did not turn out the way you would have liked and felt very un-welcomed, bringing much bias and strong feelings to your response. Like I said, I'm sorry you felt regected. This can happen in ANY marriage, even within the same ethnic groups, so don't feel you and your "fellow diasporians" have been singled out by "Africans." But to each their own. My job is not to change anyone's opinions, but to also be a little logical when we over-generalize so we can see other potential POV.
I being a Nigerian-American and many others I know welcome all blacks world wide as long as you have similar values to me. For AA, some want to be associated with African (welcome!), and some strongly feel they aint African (for whatever reason..."fine! KIM". Life aint about hunting people down and initiating them into "your culture".

To derail no further from the OP, Positive K, folks are still waiting for your response so your African bros/sis can help you.

 
Mizz Amirah, I've already stated that I've had different experiences with Africans, some good, some not so good. My marriage is in the not so good category and i've stated that it's in a different realm because it was a marriage.
 
 My friendships, on the other end, are solid. What I'm trying to say is that, FROM MY EXPERIENCE, when I expressed panafricanist, negritude views, even my friends had a tendency to smirk, like I was getting my references from Eddie Murphy's movie, like I was on some imaginary King of Zamunda shyt, LOL. There is a bit of an attitude that caribbean culture is nothing but slavery.
Also, I should stress that most of the Africans I came in contact with are from French-speaking countries. I'm sure that makes a difference, mentality wise


As far as people "getting in touch with their roots". I have met some people who every second wanted to discuss Africa with me, talking about slavery, natural hair, culture, and what not. Yeah, I appreciate the enthusiasm but I'm sure you can see how that be get very annoying and very quick. Like I'm supposed to be some kinda African roots ambassador JUST because I'm African. Like I don't have anything else I'd like to discuss. Yes, I'm Nigerian-American..........don't neglect the American either. I dont always wanna be talking about Africa, shea butter, and natural diets. Ironically (back-tracking) I've found that the Africans I know view Caribbean blacks as "more African" in heritage and behavior than any other group of blacks. Which aint far from the truth (I went in detail in another thread earlier this year of the examples), but in short, our music is very similar, foods are too, and even accents to an extent (for some W. African anglophone countries).
 
LOL, that wasn't me. I can definitely see how annoying that would be. And besides, I'm very proud of my west indian culture. It's just that I've had an interest in worldwide black history since I was a teenager. So when the subject does come up, for whatever reason, I get the smirks. It's not necessarily mean or anything but I read between the lines. If you travel to Africa (some parts of) and want to somewhat connect with your roots, you can get an amused reaction. It's like, give me the cash already, you white woman in blackface, lol.
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Originally posted by *Belle*Femme* *Belle*Femme* wrote:



yeah there are a lot in D.C. but trust me there are a lot of them im NY that are fine fine fine.


Yeah. Not my type. Think their features translate better in women.
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