Black Hair Media Forum : Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ Sat, 25 May 2013 15:58:30 +0000 Sat, 22 Dec 2012 19:39:52 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 10.15 360 Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=352464 <![CDATA[Black Hair Media Forum]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com//forum_images/BHM_Logo_v5_Forum.jpg http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : It&#039;s not an infatuation with...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017965.html#10017965 Author: nitabug
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 7:39pm

It's not an infatuation with myself. If it happens, it's because I didn't give a fck about his status for the most part.]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 19:39:52 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017965.html#10017965 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I don&#039;t know why I thought...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017411.html#10017411 Author: femmefatale85
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Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 5:25pm

I don't know why I thought this was about the movie Taken...cause Liam Neeson is a boss

But I think some women see a man in a relationship and want that same relationship. Idk my grandma told me if I went after taken men, I didn't respect myself. I can't explain the behavior of others.
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 17:25:36 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017411.html#10017411 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : It just seems to take so much...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017124.html#10017124 Author: alynxx
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Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 4:24pm

It just seems to take so much energy, but I will say that self-esteem and envy has a lot to do with it.]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 16:24:50 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017124.html#10017124 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I&#039;ve never wanted a taken...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017121.html#10017121 Author: yaya24
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 4:23pm

I've never wanted a taken man..

Can't stand thirsty ass broads & egotistical men that want someone who is already in a relationship.
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 16:23:48 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10017121.html#10017121 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I&#039;ve never wanted a taken...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016854.html#10016854 Author: uppitynegroid
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Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 2:47pm

I've never wanted a taken man.  Ever.

]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:47:32 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016854.html#10016854 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : The problem is men&#039;s fuzzy...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016827.html#10016827 Author: ms_wonderland
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Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 2:33pm

The problem is men's fuzzy idea of what single is in the first place...it's almost like everyone is taken b/c there's always a girl who thinks she's his main thang.  It is really hard to meet guys with no strings attached...People need to stop carrying on these years off and on relationships with their exes.

But i agree with Melikey and Purp.  You got a defect going on if you're into that.
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:33:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016827.html#10016827 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : macyscorner wrote: I don&#039;t...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016818.html#10016818 Author: HeyBeautiful18
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 2:29pm

Originally posted by macyscorner macyscorner wrote:

I don't stick around if I know the person is taken.
can't relate.




]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:29:29 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016818.html#10016818 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : For some, I think its a self esteem...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016728.html#10016728 Author: ShadyLady
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 1:47pm

For some, I think its a self esteem thing. No matter how cocky they TRY to portray, they clearly don't feel worthy enough to have their own.

It's probably like, "Oh, he's willing to disrespect his girlfriend/wife with me, so maybe I really am pretty/sexy/wanted."

Some people think any attention is good attention.]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 13:47:05 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016728.html#10016728 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I dont like sharing, period. why...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016618.html#10016618 Author: nala52808
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 1:11pm

I dont like sharing, period. why i gotta share his emotions and his dack too? plus, there's like a 0.5 percent chance he's ever gon put a ring on it, so i wouldnt winning no how.
Like Melikey said, there must be some kind of hoe gene, because a normal self-respecting woman would not go out her way to get a taken man.]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 13:11:41 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016618.html#10016618 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : Gkisses wrote: James...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016569.html#10016569 Author: alynxx
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 12:57pm

Originally posted by Gkisses Gkisses wrote:

Originally posted by James Avery James Avery wrote:

Originally posted by macyscorner macyscorner wrote:


I don't stick around if I know the person is taken.
can't relate.




wword


cold-blooded.LOL
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:57:00 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016569.html#10016569 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I can&#039;t relate but I...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016158.html#10016158 Author: MissinCali
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 11:10am

I can't relate but I think it's because they are hors d'oeuvres :0)]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 11:10:39 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016158.html#10016158 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : James Avery wrote: macyscorner...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016054.html#10016054 Author: Gkisses
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 10:39am

Originally posted by James Avery James Avery wrote:

Originally posted by macyscorner macyscorner wrote:


I don't stick around if I know the person is taken.
can't relate.




wword
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:39:23 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016054.html#10016054 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : macyscorner wrote:I don&#039;t...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016044.html#10016044 Author: James Avery
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 10:36am

Originally posted by macyscorner macyscorner wrote:


I don't stick around if I know the person is taken.
can't relate.


]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 10:36:14 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10016044.html#10016044 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : alynxx wrote: PurrPoZe wrote: ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015981.html#10015981 Author: melikey
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:59am

Originally posted by alynxx alynxx wrote:


Originally posted by PurrPoZe PurrPoZe wrote:

Originally posted by melikey melikey wrote:

I honestly think there is a heux gene that some women have and some don't. Taken men have always been a turn off for me. I can't relate.


I was gonna say lack of morals or self control but this is better


Also has a link to your upbringing and self-esteem. We all talk about self-esteem,  but for some people that is so hard to build/uphold so they end up falling for cute guy that peeps at them sideways.




I agree about the self worth/ self esteem thing. if you don't hold yourself in high regard the bar is really low, like a simple smile means love, a dinner date means committed, and having unprotected sex means wife. It's such a shame.]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:59:28 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015981.html#10015981 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : yep same thing happened to me....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015977.html#10015977 Author: eanaj5
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:54am

yep same thing happened to me. i gave him my number, we literally talked for 24 hours, then my best friend came to my job to tell me he had a gf. that sh*t was dead in 2 min. i dont play that.]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:54:06 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015977.html#10015977 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : Cream1970 wrote: I love...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015975.html#10015975 Author: alynxx
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:53am

Originally posted by Cream1970 Cream1970 wrote:


 LOL  I love this!
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:53:43 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015975.html#10015975 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : eanaj5 wrote: alynxx...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015973.html#10015973 Author: alynxx
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:52am

Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

Originally posted by alynxx alynxx wrote:

Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

lmao, alynxx u aint sh*t! LOL
i cant personally give any advice. I dont approach men and dismiss the ones who approach me with foolishness.
I was lied to once tho Ermm


LOL

No but seriously though, I have been thru something almost similar but my friends and fam are much like BHM and kept it real with me. They said "that guy is not interested in you and only wants sex at most". My ego took a real bruising, but I knew they were right! Took a while to get thru, but I watched his actions and then when it was confirmed that he still had a gf quickly backed out of that situation. Ouch




dude try to come at you while he had a chick and didn't tell you about her?


Yes but I suspected this so I  decided to fall back...while trying to confirm the situation. It eventually came out one day when he was drunk and told someone who told me the score. Also found out he was a male heaux that would hit anything in a skirt so I should not have been flattered that he liked me. LOL I learned the game fast.
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:52:31 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015973.html#10015973 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I have always believed that married...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015970.html#10015970 Author: ThatGurlD
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:50am

I have always believed that married men have a confidence, a security, that single men don't.  They can carry themselves like they're NOT looking which is attractive; especially to women who are used to being ogled or sexually harassed.  Men who are taken are forced to talk in their relationships so they tend to be better at it.  I could go on but I'm sure you get my drift.  ]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:50:53 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015970.html#10015970 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : We want what we can&#039;t have.We...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015968.html#10015968 Author: Jess
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:49am

We want what we can't have.
We want what others desire.
We accept the love we think we deserve.
We don't want the actual relationships, but we want the idea of someone others lust after to lust after us...somehow creating this ego stroking monster.
We don't actual want the guy.  We just see this as a competition.
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:49:54 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015968.html#10015968 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : afrokock wrote:men go through...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015965.html#10015965 Author: alynxx
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:49am

Originally posted by afrokock afrokock wrote:

men go through this as well

but from a guy's perspective its more so of what does she see in him, then they go through the checklist of why they are better than that dude and then they start acting on it ..

then they start looking at the woman and how she is a certain type of way often not realising that her man could be just bringing out those better qualities out of her and that she might be a totally diff person with someone else.

its often an ego thing


Yes the old ego can turn even the most level headed people into fools...LOL

Thanks for chiming in for the guys!
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:49:11 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015965.html#10015965 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : alynxx wrote: eanaj5...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015962.html#10015962 Author: eanaj5
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:47am

Originally posted by alynxx alynxx wrote:

Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

lmao, alynxx u aint sh*t! LOL
i cant personally give any advice. I dont approach men and dismiss the ones who approach me with foolishness.
I was lied to once tho Ermm


LOL

No but seriously though, I have been thru something almost similar but my friends and fam are much like BHM and kept it real with me. They said "that guy is not interested in you and only wants sex at most". My ego took a real bruising, but I knew they were right! Took a while to get thru, but I watched his actions and then when it was confirmed that he still had a gf quickly backed out of that situation. Ouch




dude try to come at you while he had a chick and didnt tell you about her?
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:47:33 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015962.html#10015962 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015958.html#10015958 Author: Cream1970
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:47am

]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:47:15 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015958.html#10015958 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : PurrPoZe wrote: melikey...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015959.html#10015959 Author: alynxx
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:47am

Originally posted by PurrPoZe PurrPoZe wrote:

Originally posted by melikey melikey wrote:

I honestly think there is a heux gene that some women have and some don't. Taken men have always been a turn off for me. I can't relate.


I was gonna say lack of morals or self control but this is better


Also has a link to your upbringing and self-esteem. We all talk about self-esteem,  but for some people that is so hard to build/uphold so they end up falling for cute guy that peeps at them sideways.


]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:47:06 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015959.html#10015959 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : This reminds me of a pic I saw...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015956.html#10015956 Author: Cream1970
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:46am

This reminds me of a pic I saw on FB. BRB

]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:46:18 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015956.html#10015956 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I don&#039;t stick around if...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015954.html#10015954 Author: macyscorner
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:46am

I don't stick around if I know the person is taken.
can't relate.

Edited by macyscorner - Dec 22 2012 at 9:46am]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:46:01 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015954.html#10015954 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : men go through this as well but...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015953.html#10015953 Author: afrokock
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:45am

men go through this as well

but from a guy's perspective its more so of what does she see in him, then they go through the checklist of why they are better than that dude and then they start acting on it ..

then they start looking at the woman and how she is a certain type of way often not realising that her man could be just bringing out those better qualities out of her and that she might be a totally diff person with someone else.

its often an ego thing ]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:45:32 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015953.html#10015953 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : melikey wrote:I honestly think...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015950.html#10015950 Author: PurrPoZe
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:45am

Originally posted by melikey melikey wrote:

I honestly think there is a heux gene that some women have and some don't. Taken men have always been a turn off for me. I can't relate.


I was gonna say lack of morals or self control but this is better]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:45:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015950.html#10015950 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : eanaj5 wrote:lmao, alynxx...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015952.html#10015952 Author: alynxx
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:45am

Originally posted by eanaj5 eanaj5 wrote:

lmao, alynxx u aint sh*t! LOL
i cant personally give any advice. I dont approach men and dismiss the ones who approach me with foolishness.
I was lied to once tho Ermm


LOL

No but seriously though, I have been thru something almost similar but my friends and fam are much like BHM and kept it real with me. They said "that guy is not interested in you and only wants sex at most". My ego took a real bruising, but I knew they were right! Took a while to get thru, but I watched his actions and then when it was confirmed that he still had a gf quickly backed out of that situation. Ouch



]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:45:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015952.html#10015952 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : I honestly think there is a heux...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015949.html#10015949 Author: melikey
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:43am

I honestly think there is a heux gene that some women have and some don't. Taken men have always been a turn off for me. I can't relate.]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:43:43 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015949.html#10015949 <![CDATA[Spinoff: Why women get infatuated with taken men : lmao, alynxx u aint sh*t!i cant...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015944.html#10015944 Author: eanaj5
Subject: 352464
Posted: Dec 22 2012 at 9:39am

lmao, alynxx u aint sh*t! LOL
i cant personally give any advice. I dont approach men and dismiss the ones who approach me with foolishness.
I was lied to once tho Ermm
]]> Sat, 22 Dec 2012 09:39:29 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/spinoff-why-women-get-infatuated-with-taken-men_topic352464_post10015944.html#10015944