Black Hair Media Forum : Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ Wed, 19 Jun 2013 16:46:43 +0000 Tue, 06 Nov 2012 07:17:16 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 10.15 360 Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=350484 <![CDATA[Black Hair Media Forum]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com//forum_images/BHM_Logo_v5_Forum.jpg http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : Yes it works for finding the man...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9905669.html#9905669 Author: foxyroy19
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 06 2012 at 7:17am

Yes it works for finding the man of your dreams.]]> Tue, 06 Nov 2012 07:17:16 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9905669.html#9905669 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : sbrownie84 wrote:does this...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9905188.html#9905188 Author: StylingArabella
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 11:07pm

Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:

does this also work for relationships with men too?


Doubt it LOL!
]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 23:07:05 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9905188.html#9905188 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : For the record. The other side...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904839.html#9904839 Author: SeducTress
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 8:48pm

For the record. The other side of this argument is this theory is first world privileged. Has anyone willed positive outcomes within the deep terrain of mother earth?

That's the part I'm still trying to come to terms with. 
]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 20:48:30 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904839.html#9904839 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : You know...when I was 18 I was...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904823.html#9904823 Author: SeducTress
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 8:44pm

You know...when I was 18 I was pretty determined to experiment with this theory.

I read a ton of books, articles, etc etc

Then decided to let my light bill be my test subjectLOL

It was due by the end of the month. I started this "test" towards the beginning.

I went in it head first.

Throughout the day I would periodically chant and focus on thankfulness on paying the bill. 

The bill was 93 bucks. ( approximately....I may be off a couple dollars thanks to my memory)

The days started getting longer the closer the time drew near to settle my debt. 

But I was focused maaaaaaan. Kept on chanting whenever a negative thought attempted to pop in my mind.

Literally, the day my light bill was due I received a check in the mail for the exact amount. I bullsh*t you not. If I'm lying I'm flying!!!!

To this day I'm still amazed by that experience.

Naturally, due to age and life, I've grown a bit...cynical? So I tend to lean on that ole familiar spirit of worry. Something about that elusive innocent faith I had as a "child"....I had no worries when I did it because...well....I had no horrible outcomes to draw a scary mental parallel.

Sigh. I'm trying to nail down that adult version of living /feeling carefree. So sadCryLOL


Edited by SeducTress - Nov 05 2012 at 8:45pm]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 20:44:52 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904823.html#9904823 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : does this also work for relationships...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904627.html#9904627 Author: sbrownie84
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 7:24pm

does this also work for relationships with men too?]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 19:24:00 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904627.html#9904627 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : thanking everyone for their feedback....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904626.html#9904626 Author: sbrownie84
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 7:22pm

thanking everyone for their feedback. a work in progress it is]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 19:22:12 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904626.html#9904626 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : this thread is what I needed....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904355.html#9904355 Author: Ladybird0724
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 5:21pm

this thread is what I needed. when I put my mind to it, I know I can attract things into my life. i'm going to try a couple of things....i'm going to try to attract a new first. idk what kind, but I'm positive that's one of my next steps in life. now that I think about it, I attracted my current job. i meditated on it, and made a vision board and envisioned myself doing it....I just think it has run its course.
]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 17:21:34 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904355.html#9904355 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : StylingArabella wrote:I truly...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904336.html#9904336 Author: foxyroy19
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 5:12pm

Originally posted by StylingArabella StylingArabella wrote:

I truly believe this to be true. It is one thing to try to convince yourself that a positive out come will happen and a completely different thing to truly feel deep in your bones that you can/will achieve something.

There are just times when something clicks and I am positive that I will get what I want in life, no two ways about it. Then there are times that I have this phony dialogue of "Just think positive, it could happen...I feel like it will happen if it's for me (worse thing in the world to say IMO)". Those are the times I come up dry and end up having to fall back on that ol' sad defeated  "It just wasn't meant to be, something bad could have happened if I would have received it Ermm"...oh please. So for instance, those who wanted to get out of debt, find a better job, restore their marriage, get a scholarship weren't meant to have those things? What the hell does that even mean lol!

When I am in a REAL state of positive mind my thought process tends to be "I better prepare my life for this huge change that's coming forth, I am so excited, what is the first thing I have to have set in place when this _____ happens? I better figure that out so I can be prepared". Something "supernatural" happens, it's like everything starts lining up perfect and then suddenly I have what I wanted. I'm not talking about small things either. For instance I used to drive past our townhouse for 3 months and I wanted it cause it had a wrap around porch and an excellent school district. I used to tell the family that we would live there soon. It was not for sale either. I started picturing how I would decorate the porch, my husband bar be queing in the big back yard while the kids hung out, my picking out white furniture for my master bathroom. All this while I didn't even see the inside of the place. Low in behold the place went on sale and not only was it a steal, but we had no challenges in getting it! There is something to the laws of attraction ya'll. 
 
 
Speak what is NOT as if it IS.  People need to realize the importance of positive self talk.  Positive communication to others and Positive acts of Kindness.  You can speak things into existence GOOD or BAD.
 
Great Testimonial by StylingARA!!!ClapClap
 
 
]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 17:12:57 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904336.html#9904336 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : sbrownie84 wrote:well when...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904320.html#9904320 Author: foxyroy19
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 5:07pm

Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:

well when i think of a postive outcome of a situation. something negative happens always

 
 
When there is a negative your response to the situation is still find the positive.  If you think of negative as a defeat then the positive thinking mantra will not help you in life.
]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 17:07:13 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904320.html#9904320 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : I truly believe this to be true....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904239.html#9904239 Author: StylingArabella
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 4:26pm

I truly believe this to be true. It is one thing to try to convince yourself that a positive out come will happen and a completely different thing to truly feel deep in your bones that you can/will achieve something.

There are just times when something clicks and I am positive that I will get what I want in life, no two ways about it. Then there are times that I have this phony dialogue of "Just think positive, it could happen...I feel like it will happen if it's for me (worse thing in the world to say IMO)". Those are the times I come up dry and end up having to fall back on that ol' sad defeated  "It just wasn't meant to be, something bad could have happened if I would have received it Ermm"...oh please. So for instance, those who wanted to get out of debt, find a better job, restore their marriage, get a scholarship weren't meant to have those things? What the hell does that even mean lol!

When I am in a REAL state of positive mind my thought process tends to be "I better prepare my life for this huge change that's coming forth, I am so excited, what is the first thing I have to have set in place when this _____ happens? I better figure that out so I can be prepared". Something "supernatural" happens, it's like everything starts lining up perfect and then suddenly I have what I wanted. I'm not talking about small things either. For instance I used to drive past our townhouse for 3 months and I wanted it cause it had a wrap around porch and an excellent school district. I used to tell the family that we would live there soon. It was not for sale either. I started picturing how I would decorate the porch, my husband bar be queing in the big back yard while the kids hung out, my picking out white furniture for my master bathroom. All this while I didn't even see the inside of the place. Low in behold the place went on sale and not only was it a steal, but we had no challenges in getting it! There is something to the laws of attraction ya'll. ]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 16:26:02 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9904239.html#9904239 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : People say I am the most positive...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903537.html#9903537 Author: herwoman
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 11:41am

People say I am the most positive person they know. I can say positive things all day but I really want my thoughts and mind to be there as well. I am getting there but its something I have to work at and I just want it to BE.]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 11:41:59 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903537.html#9903537 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : I noticed that there are times...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903502.html#9903502 Author: rickysrose
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 11:14am

I noticed that there are times when I think I'm thinking positively

But in reality I'm convinced on a negative outcome with the possibility of a positive outcome instead of the other way around

Or you focus on what you don't want to happen rather than what you do

Or focus on how, which confirms you don't have it, which is counter productive

Reversing negative self talk is a process ... It's not so easy to objectively evaluate what you truly believe


]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 11:14:34 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903502.html#9903502 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : sbrownie84 wrote:well when...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903407.html#9903407 Author: Harmonii
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 10:11am

Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:

well when i think of a postive outcome of a situation. something negative happens always



Same with me]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 10:11:31 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903407.html#9903407 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : if you are interested: http:...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903324.html#9903324 Author: tatee
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 9:03am

if you are interested: http://forum.blackhairmedia.com/as-a-man-thinketh-james-allen_topic346628.html

Edited by tatee - Nov 05 2012 at 9:04am]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 09:03:52 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903324.html#9903324 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : What are you trying to accomplish?Try...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903296.html#9903296 Author: _ConcreteRose_
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 8:25am

What are you trying to accomplish?
Try meditation or hypnosis. 
It's similar to affirmations because you focus on what you want, just takes it a step further. With meditation you clear your mind of everything and then you can have a mantra or idea that you repeat.  This mantra can be what you want to achieve. This was pretty effective for me. (loss 20 lbs when I started meditating). You can literally do it for like only 5 minutes in the morning and it will help. Hypnosis was meh for me. It works on some occasions and doesn't work on others. It's just like meditation, except someone else is guiding it.

But it's not really magic. You still have to work for what you want. But it does help.
]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 08:25:35 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903296.html#9903296 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : bump ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903292.html#9903292 Author: sbrownie84
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 05 2012 at 8:16am

bump

]]> Mon, 05 Nov 2012 08:16:52 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9903292.html#9903292 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : sbrownie84 wrote:well when...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902866.html#9902866 Author: RedFoxx
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 04 2012 at 9:46pm

Originally posted by sbrownie84 sbrownie84 wrote:

well when i think of a postive outcome of a situation. something negative happens always


yeah...i realized fairly recently that i need to stop being fixated on a particular or specific outcome and really free up that energy so it can be available to me in every moment..]]> Sun, 04 Nov 2012 21:46:54 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902866.html#9902866 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : Florida never ceases to amaze...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902841.html#9902841 Author: ThatGurlD
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 04 2012 at 9:29pm

Florida never ceases to amaze me  Rick Scott is the devil.]]> Sun, 04 Nov 2012 21:29:21 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902841.html#9902841 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : I don&#039;t knock anybody that...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902840.html#9902840 Author: noneyons
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 04 2012 at 9:28pm

I don't knock anybody that does it because I tried it, read all the LOA books on the market and everything but it was just too inconsistent for me. 

Setting goals, working toward them and going with the flow of life saved me from the roller coaster ride. 
]]> Sun, 04 Nov 2012 21:28:28 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902840.html#9902840 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : well when i think of a postive...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902830.html#9902830 Author: sbrownie84
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 04 2012 at 9:23pm

well when i think of a postive outcome of a situation. something negative happens always

]]> Sun, 04 Nov 2012 21:23:11 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902830.html#9902830 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : Yessssss this one of my favorite...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902789.html#9902789 Author: BoutThatLife
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 04 2012 at 9:04pm

Yessssss this one of my favorite subjects

When u stick to it, it shows u amazing results. Remember, the universe is comprised of energy. Energy is everything. You can choose to give your power momentum to positive or negative energy. ]]> Sun, 04 Nov 2012 21:04:42 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902789.html#9902789 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : ive not been able to stick to...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902744.html#9902744 Author: LovesHim
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 04 2012 at 8:54pm

ive not been able to stick to it completely...... but when i do i find that it works in my favor ]]> Sun, 04 Nov 2012 20:54:47 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902744.html#9902744 <![CDATA[Positive thinking/the secret/affirmations : anyone feel like talking about...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902725.html#9902725 Author: sbrownie84
Subject: 350484
Posted: Nov 04 2012 at 8:49pm

anyone feel like talking about it. i have been trying to follow this strategy and i am often disappointed. any comments.]]> Sun, 04 Nov 2012 20:49:55 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/positive-thinking-the-secret-affirmations_topic350484_post9902725.html#9902725