Black Hair Media Forum : I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ Thu, 20 Jun 2013 06:40:03 +0000 Fri, 28 Dec 2012 17:48:49 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 10.15 360 Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=352681 <![CDATA[Black Hair Media Forum]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com//forum_images/BHM_Logo_v5_Forum.jpg http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : I just saw this video and she...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032381.html#10032381 Author: sunshine321511
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 5:48pm

I just saw this video and she is YOUNG... she dont know any better....she was in love...
 
But I have learned, when its over...its over.  Dont stroke no neygro's ego by calling, crying, etc.  When he see this video all he is going to do is FEEL GOOD. 
 
I always tell people ....cry at home between you and GOD.  Brush your shoulders off and keep it moving, the best revenge is success, looking better appearance wise, get a "BETTER" man and live your life and be happy.  Don't call their friends, family, do go to "their" regular hangout spots, allow yourself to heal but move on emotionally.
 
All this video did was make him feel good and for the REST OF HIS LIFE, he gonna talk about her and how she was trippin off him....no sir....NOT ME...
 
 
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 17:48:49 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032381.html#10032381 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : laceyfront wrote:some things...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032134.html#10032134 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:45pm

Originally posted by laceyfront laceyfront wrote:

some things should be private
 
But you cannot define for everyone what should be kept private and what shouldn't be. It's up to the individual to do that. Some people simply do better expressing their emotions than holding them in. Others need to mull it over privately. Basically, folks are different. Like I said before, if everyone was "hard", there would be no artists, psychologists, actors, paintors etc... We would all be computer chips
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:45:18 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032134.html#10032134 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : I&#039;ve grieved over the net...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032123.html#10032123 Author: Random Thoughts
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:43pm

I've grieved over the net before. I was on this one poetry site going out like a sucka in front of all these strangers. Made me feel better though. This was in HS. ]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:43:27 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032123.html#10032123 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : indiecat wrote: JoliePoufiasse...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032120.html#10032120 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:42pm

Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:

people only do to you what you let them


 
I don't believe that. Honestly. There are manipulators out there, charismatic people who just know how to pull the wool over your eyes or capitalize on your weaknesses. It isn't always what you let them do, even though it often is.

i understand that, but it seems these things have happened to her more than once. 

I've been in her situation before, it didn't stop until i stopped. i realized i had power and said no more. if someone was trying to use me, i cut them out fast. it seems like she stuck around too long.

 
Indie, I think the two sentences in bold kind of contradict each other. Rare is the person who learns an important lesson immediately (I'm not talking about a don't stick your hand in a fire and not expect to get burned type of visceral situation). It's usually a process. Like you said, it stopped when you stopped. Could have been the first time around if you're lucky, could have been the 10th time if you are especially hard headed. But we don't know that she's been doing this for years and years or that she will keep doing it for years more. All I see is a girl in pain who is airing out her feelings. If it helps, her cope, why not...
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:42:10 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032120.html#10032120 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : some things should be private ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032109.html#10032109 Author: laceyfront
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:40pm

some things should be private]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:40:37 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032109.html#10032109 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : sistagal wrote: SamoneLenior...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032092.html#10032092 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:37pm

Originally posted by sistagal sistagal wrote:

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


[QUOTE=indiecat]
people only repeatedly do to you what you let them






This is somewhat true. When you look back you do see the signs. Sometimes in a bid to give love a chance you do give the benefit of the doubt to less deserving individuals. & some people are just soooo damn convincing until it's too late[/QUOTE]
 
Exactly. And frankly, how else would we learn anything in life if we had never been burned now and again? This is how one develops maturity, we've all been there. The difference is how you typically express yourself and what are the best ways for you to process pain and transcend it.
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:37:46 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032092.html#10032092 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : SamoneLenior wrote: indiecat...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032077.html#10032077 Author: sistagal
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:34pm

Originally posted by SamoneLenior SamoneLenior wrote:


Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:


people only repeatedly do to you what you let them






This is somewhat true. When you look back you do see the signs. Sometimes in a bid to give love a chance you do give the benefit of the doubt to less deserving individuals. & some people are just soooo damn convincing until it's too late]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:34:39 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032077.html#10032077 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : JoliePoufiasse wrote: ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032075.html#10032075 Author: indiecat
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:34pm

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:

people only do to you what you let them


 
I don't believe that. Honestly. There are manipulators out there, charismatic people who just know how to pull the wool over your eyes or capitalize on your weaknesses. It isn't always what you let them do, even though it often is.

i understand that, but it seems these things have happened to her more than once. 

I've been in her situation before, it didn't stop until i stopped. i realized i had power and said no more. if someone was trying to use me, i cut them out fast. it seems like she stuck around too long.

]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:34:00 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032075.html#10032075 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : SweetNovember* wrote:I mean...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032060.html#10032060 Author: sistagal
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:31pm

Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

I mean she could have called him up and told him that if she felt the
need to get it off her chest. Nobody's gonna turn me into a blubbering
fool on youtube.





I don't think it matters how you do it. Whether you call him up. Text him. Cry on a friend's shoulder. Cry in the supermarket. Write a book. Or make a YouTube video.

Hurt is hurt. & I feel for her because I've been there. I didn't make a video about it but hey why not if she wanted to. At least she let it out. People take to YouTube all the time and talk about how they fall in love or how to fall in love, make boyfriend tags & etc. I guess raw emotion is too much...]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:31:19 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032060.html#10032060 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : indiecat wrote: people only...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032056.html#10032056 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:31pm

Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:

people only do to you what you let them


 
I don't believe that. Honestly. There are manipulators out there, charismatic people who just know how to pull the wool over your eyes or capitalize on your weaknesses. It isn't always what you let them do, even though it often is.
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:31:07 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032056.html#10032056 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : indiecat wrote: people only...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032053.html#10032053 Author: SamoneLenior
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:30pm

Originally posted by indiecat indiecat wrote:

people only repeatedly do to you what you let them


]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:30:28 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032053.html#10032053 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : SweetNovember* wrote:I do...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032046.html#10032046 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:29pm

Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

I do feel for her. I just think that by doing this she's giving him to much credit when he ain't sh*t anyway.
 
She could be doing that. But she also could be doing what she needs to do to make HERSELF feel better. And if the latter is the case, I couldn't care less about him. Sometimes people need to feel that they share a similar experience with someone else and that they're not freaks for feeling that way.
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:29:14 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032046.html#10032046 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : people only do to you what you...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032047.html#10032047 Author: indiecat
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:29pm

people only do to you what you let them




Edited by indiecat - Dec 28 2012 at 4:29pm]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:29:05 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032047.html#10032047 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : sistagal wrote:Aaawwww I...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032016.html#10032016 Author: keepgrowing
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:22pm

Originally posted by sistagal sistagal wrote:

Aaawwww I know EXACTLY how she feels & I just want to give her a huge hug, popcorn & a glass of rum.

Men suck sometimes! Hope she found someone better

Hug
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:22:28 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032016.html#10032016 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : I do feel for her. I just think...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032013.html#10032013 Author: SweetNovember*
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:21pm

I do feel for her. I just think that by doing this she's giving him to much credit when he ain't sh*t anyway.]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:21:47 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032013.html#10032013 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : SweetNovember* wrote: ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032003.html#10032003 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:19pm

Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

^^^^ Lol. With all the different cultures we may have as black people, that is something I have noticed in every single one. If the emotion that is being felt is sadness, we always feel the need to conceal it, for fear of being labelled weak. I wonder why that is. We have no problem with joy, anger, amusement, disdain... But sadness and to some extent fear??? Don't you dare. It's like only white women are allowed to openly express that.


Well the thing is the dude she's crying over don't even give a damn and like I said this happens to most people in life. I mean come on, most people wouldn't get on youtube crying like that even if someone died so is it that serious? And girl don't even try to act like a white woman wouldn't get clowned for going on youtube like that. That ish would have gone viral. LOL
 
I wouldn't feel like making a video like this on youtube if it were me either, but it's not me. Different people have different sensibilities. That's why you have artists and nuclear scientists. A white woman might get clowned by some but would also get a lot of supportive comments to console her as well. Whereas with black people, someone like this always gets clowned. That's just my observation. I see this in all black people, no matter the culture. Must have something to do with our hard knock life in this world. In some ways, it's a good thing and in other ways, it's like we're constantly repressing, which probably doesn't help with high blood pressure


But she is getting support though, in this thread, plus she got lots of love on her page.
 
I haven't seen her page. My observation wasn't really about her specifically. It was about black people in general and their aversion to showing any kind of weakness, even when it's normal. There are and will continue to be a lot more clowning of that type of behaviour than support with black folks. It's like we bought into the notion that we must be rocks at all times


Edited by JoliePoufiasse - Dec 28 2012 at 4:20pm]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:19:27 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10032003.html#10032003 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : SweetNovember* wrote:I mean...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031995.html#10031995 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:17pm

Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

I mean she could have called him up and told him that if she felt the need to get it off her chest. Nobody's gonna turn me into a blubbering fool on youtube.
 
LOL, that's my point. YOU. Maybe that's not in your character and that's fine. But some people are just naturally more sensitive than others. Like someone said earlier, this might have been therapeutic for her. Different folk, different strokes.
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:17:20 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031995.html#10031995 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : JoliePoufiasse wrote: ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031993.html#10031993 Author: SweetNovember*
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:16pm

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

^^^^ Lol. With all the different cultures we may have as black people, that is something I have noticed in every single one. If the emotion that is being felt is sadness, we always feel the need to conceal it, for fear of being labelled weak. I wonder why that is. We have no problem with joy, anger, amusement, disdain... But sadness and to some extent fear??? Don't you dare. It's like only white women are allowed to openly express that.


Well the thing is the dude she's crying over don't even give a damn and like I said this happens to most people in life. I mean come on, most people wouldn't get on youtube crying like that even if someone died so is it that serious? And girl don't even try to act like a white woman wouldn't get clowned for going on youtube like that. That ish would have gone viral. LOL
 
I wouldn't feel like making a video like this on youtube if it were me either, but it's not me. Different people have different sensibilities. That's why you have artists and nuclear scientists. A white woman might get clowned by some but would also get a lot of supportive comments to console her as well. Whereas with black people, someone like this always gets clowned. That's just my observation. I see this in all black people, no matter the culture. Must have something to do with our hard knock life in this world. In some ways, it's a good thing and in other ways, it's like we're constantly repressing, which probably doesn't help with high blood pressure


But she is getting support though, in this thread, plus she got lots of love on her page.
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:16:45 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031993.html#10031993 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : crying in public walmart was enough...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031988.html#10031988 Author: SamoneLenior
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:15pm


crying in public walmart was enough for me.....to put some ish like that on youtube....nope
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:15:52 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031988.html#10031988 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : I mean she could have called him...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031982.html#10031982 Author: SweetNovember*
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:14pm

I mean she could have called him up and told him that if she felt the need to get it off her chest. Nobody's gonna turn me into a blubbering fool on youtube.]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:14:55 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031982.html#10031982 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : sistagal wrote:Aaawwww...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031980.html#10031980 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:14pm

Originally posted by sistagal sistagal wrote:

Aaawwww I know EXACTLY how she feels & I just want to give her a huge hug, popcorn & a glass of rum.

Men suck sometimes! Hope she found someone better
 
There you go! See, we have the right to show vulnerability too. We're women too.


Edited by JoliePoufiasse - Dec 28 2012 at 4:15pm]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:14:51 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031980.html#10031980 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : Aaawwww I know EXACTLY how she...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031964.html#10031964 Author: sistagal
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:12pm

Aaawwww I know EXACTLY how she feels & I just want to give her a huge hug, popcorn & a glass of rum.

Men suck sometimes! Hope she found someone better ]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:12:54 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031964.html#10031964 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : EPITOME wrote: JoliePoufiasse...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031941.html#10031941 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:09pm

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

^^^^ Lol. With all the different cultures we may have as black people, that is something I have noticed in every single one. If the emotion that is being felt is sadness, we always feel the need to conceal it, for fear of being labelled weak. I wonder why that is. We have no problem with joy, anger, amusement, disdain... But sadness and to some extent fear??? Don't you dare. It's like only white women are allowed to openly express that.

sadness is a way of life for black people...if we cried every damn time ...well...here are some white girl tears for ya
 

 
LOL. I see enough of that as it is. It'd be nice to see black girl tears that are acknowledged as a normal part of life, though
 
And I hate the eyeliner tear tracks


Edited by JoliePoufiasse - Dec 28 2012 at 4:10pm]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:09:13 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031941.html#10031941 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : SweetNovember* wrote: ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031936.html#10031936 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:08pm

Originally posted by SweetNovember* SweetNovember* wrote:

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

^^^^ Lol. With all the different cultures we may have as black people, that is something I have noticed in every single one. If the emotion that is being felt is sadness, we always feel the need to conceal it, for fear of being labelled weak. I wonder why that is. We have no problem with joy, anger, amusement, disdain... But sadness and to some extent fear??? Don't you dare. It's like only white women are allowed to openly express that.


Well the thing is the dude she's crying over don't even give a damn and like I said this happens to most people in life. I mean come on, most people wouldn't get on youtube crying like that even if someone died so is it that serious? And girl don't even try to act like a white woman wouldn't get clowned for going on youtube like that. That ish would have gone viral. LOL
 
I wouldn't feel like making a video like this on youtube if it were me either, but it's not me. Different people have different sensibilities. That's why you have artists and nuclear scientists. A white woman might get clowned by some but would also get a lot of supportive comments to console her as well. Whereas with black people, someone like this always gets clowned. That's just my observation. I see this in all black people, no matter the culture. Must have something to do with our hard knock life in this world. In some ways, it's a good thing and in other ways, it's like we're constantly repressing, which probably doesn't help with high blood pressure
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:08:12 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031936.html#10031936 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : She could&#039;ve cried to her...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031931.html#10031931 Author: femmefatale85
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:06pm

She could've cried to her mama...not to complete strangers on the internet, that seems like a cry for attention to me

no one is asking her to conceal her damn feelings

im not sure if you're a troll or not so that's all i'll say
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:06:15 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031931.html#10031931 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : JoliePoufiasse wrote: ^^^^...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031925.html#10031925 Author: EPITOME
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:04pm

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

^^^^ Lol. With all the different cultures we may have as black people, that is something I have noticed in every single one. If the emotion that is being felt is sadness, we always feel the need to conceal it, for fear of being labelled weak. I wonder why that is. We have no problem with joy, anger, amusement, disdain... But sadness and to some extent fear??? Don't you dare. It's like only white women are allowed to openly express that.

sadness is a way of life for black people...if we cried every damn time ...well...here are some white girl tears for ya
 

]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:04:35 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031925.html#10031925 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : JoliePoufiasse wrote: ^^^^...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031920.html#10031920 Author: SweetNovember*
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 4:03pm

Originally posted by JoliePoufiasse JoliePoufiasse wrote:

^^^^ Lol. With all the different cultures we may have as black people, that is something I have noticed in every single one. If the emotion that is being felt is sadness, we always feel the need to conceal it, for fear of being labelled weak. I wonder why that is. We have no problem with joy, anger, amusement, disdain... But sadness and to some extent fear??? Don't you dare. It's like only white women are allowed to openly express that.


Well the thing is the dude she's crying over don't even give a damn and like I said this happens to most people in life. I mean come on, most people wouldn't get on youtube crying like that even if someone died so is it that serious? And girl don't even try to act like a white woman wouldn't get clowned for going on youtube like that. That ish would have gone viral. LOL
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 16:03:22 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031920.html#10031920 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : ^^^^ Lol. With all the different...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031899.html#10031899 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 3:58pm

^^^^ Lol. With all the different cultures we may have as black people, that is something I have noticed in every single one. If the emotion that is being felt is sadness, we always feel the need to conceal it, for fear of being labelled weak. I wonder why that is. We have no problem with joy, anger, amusement, disdain... But sadness and to some extent fear??? Don't you dare. It's like only white women are allowed to openly express that.

Edited by JoliePoufiasse - Dec 28 2012 at 3:59pm]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 15:58:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031899.html#10031899 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : people really want attentionshe...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031876.html#10031876 Author: femmefatale85
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 3:52pm

people really want attention

she needs to eat her feelings like every other crying woman
]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 15:52:48 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031876.html#10031876 <![CDATA[I wouldn't even give a nucka the satisfaction... : Lol, black people in general...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031812.html#10031812 Author: JoliePoufiasse
Subject: 352681
Posted: Dec 28 2012 at 3:39pm

Lol, black people in general have such a disdain for openly sensitive folk. Let her air her grief out anyway she wants it. It's not like she said anything that will forever tarnish her. She's probably echoing the sentiment that most of us have had at one point in time and she's young. *Shrug*]]> Fri, 28 Dec 2012 15:39:59 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-wouldnt-even-give-a-nucka-the-satisfaction_topic352681_post10031812.html#10031812