Black Hair Media Forum : I BC and I think I Regret It http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ Fri, 24 May 2013 09:32:48 +0000 Tue, 06 Nov 2012 09:21:49 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 10.15 360 Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=335873 <![CDATA[Black Hair Media Forum]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com//forum_images/BHM_Logo_v5_Forum.jpg http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : So sorry about that. Just make...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9905808.html#9905808 Author: KunoichiNindroid
Subject: 335873
Posted: Nov 06 2012 at 9:21am

So sorry about that. Just make sure you look after your new natural hair and give it a chance before getting all bent out over it. You'll be proud of yourself a couple years from now. Also don't stress yourself too much about getting a beautiful curl pattern. Not everyone has the same curl pattern. You might end up doing your hair damage you never intended on by manipulating it and experimenting with products so much. Use what you know works and gradually shift if your natural hair isn't happy with it.]]> Tue, 06 Nov 2012 09:21:49 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9905808.html#9905808 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : I think the ladies have given...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9899209.html#9899209 Author: NJoy
Subject: 335873
Posted: Nov 02 2012 at 10:04pm

I think the ladies have given some excellent advice and I don't really have anything to add.  Just want to show my support and go on record saying that there will come a time when you will say it's the best thing you could've done for your hair. " Congrats on your BC."  Hang on to that til you can fully receive it.  In the meantime, let me lay one of these on ya. Hug]]> Fri, 02 Nov 2012 22:04:26 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9899209.html#9899209 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : mskraizy wrote:A big chop...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9898924.html#9898924 Author: jasmineheaven
Subject: 335873
Posted: Nov 02 2012 at 7:12pm

Originally posted by mskraizy mskraizy wrote:

A big chop is such a dramatic change, it shocks everyone. I felt the same way you did when I first cut off all my hair. And to make it worse, my mother yelled at me for a good day and then the following morning silent treatment so that didn't help. I seriously thought about perming it again and starting over with straight hair.

Give it time to settle on you. My curls didn't really start showing up until maybe 3 weeks of co-washes and deep conditioning. For 6-8 months I fought with trying to be comfortable with my newbie fro, all the while side eyeing perms for my default. It'll be 3.5 years come April and I have enjoyed my journey of being natural.

Chin up girl, it's not an easy change. Actually, I think many people feel how you do after a big chop. I know I did. Everything will be okay and when you hit your first nappyversary and are able to look back and see how far you've come and how much you've learned, you'll appreciate it even more. Your husband will grow to love it (if it's really what you want, he'll have to). It'll get easier, just got to weather the storm. You'll appreciate your hair more once it really starts flourishing.

Just you wait.

Hope everything gets better for ya!


Same happened to me today. I cbc my hair two days ago and my mother found out today, I'm not hearing the end of it :( Its just hair!
]]> Fri, 02 Nov 2012 19:12:56 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9898924.html#9898924 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : Curl enhancers:Be sure to use...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9328746.html#9328746 Author: Veemack
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 24 2012 at 7:34am

Curl enhancers:

Be sure to use a sulfate free PH balanced shampoo.

A good moisturizing conditioner

ACV rinse: 1/4 acv to 2 cups water

Most important step: Rinse your hair in the coldest water you can stand for at least 3 to5 minutes. (unless you like cold showers, I recommend doing this in the sink)

Your curls will POP! (unless some relaxer is still left on your ends)

First time I rinsed in cold water (by accident, the city had the hot water turned off) I rinsed extra long,because I was feeling that the cold water was not getting my hair as clean as hot/warm water. As I rinsed with the COLD water, my hair started to feel unusual and weird. When I looked in the mirror, I realized those were coils I was feeling! Blessings to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
]]> Sat, 24 Mar 2012 07:34:19 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9328746.html#9328746 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : ((BIG HUG))That&#039;s right...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9327728.html#9327728 Author: Swift
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 5:32pm

((BIG HUG))
 
That's right girl, figure out how to rock it!!  Go to YT and find some vids on styling TWAs.  Go to the Natural Section and look for TWA threads (I know I just bumped some last week).  Once you rock it like it's sexy, others will buy into it as well. 
 
If you can't do it, wigs are a great option. 
 
Hubby may not like that it's so short. Many guys tend to like length. Once you figure out how you wanna rock it, that might make things easier.  GL!
]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 17:32:08 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9327728.html#9327728 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : Thanks ladies, I&#039;m feeling...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326899.html#9326899 Author: tvlady
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 1:07pm

Thanks ladies, I'm feeling a bit better today.  I have to figure out how to rock this hair, because there is no going back now. ]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 13:07:56 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326899.html#9326899 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : no advice just hugs ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326505.html#9326505 Author: tatee
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 10:57am

no advice just hugs ]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 10:57:02 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326505.html#9326505 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : i can&#039;t imagine the humility....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326485.html#9326485 Author: honniecake
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 10:48am

i can't imagine the humility. i am sorry you experienced that hun...when you knew it was beneficial to you but everyone else can't seem to swallow. it hurts now but i bet you it'll get better. hair is hair. you can always style it and manipulate the curls how you want. a twist out or a braid out. maybe even wear braids for a while. that would help.

HTH. please update us.
]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 10:48:42 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326485.html#9326485 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : (((((hugs)))))i can&#039;t imagine...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326208.html#9326208 Author: havilland
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 7:13am

(((((hugs)))))

i can't imagine how you feel.  but i do send you support.

(not the same as a big chop, but i will tell you my experience all the times i went to a salon and they chopped without my consent)  i would cry about it for a day.  then pick my chin up and remind myself that no matter how bad it was on that day, every singe day from that moment forward, my hair was GROWING.  it will GROW.  it won't stay that short forever.   (one time i called my mom and had her bring a scarf to the salon because i refused to walk outside with my hair that short....sigh.......)

i would encourage you to deep condition and take care of your hair so that your hair is in it's best condition.  then see what "she" can do.  be creative.  look for new options. 

keep your head up. you are beautiful no matter what. 

also, try not to be mad at hubby.  you don't like and neither does he, so you two agree.  that makes you simpatico!  remember you are a team.  as you progress through this journey, you both will find a happy place. 

good luck!
]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 07:13:21 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326208.html#9326208 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : all these ladies have said it...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326089.html#9326089 Author: Choongy
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 3:08am

all these ladies have said it all its only been some hours, you have to just try a few things before you get whats right and looks good, i cut my hair off 18months ago best choice i ever made im now almost at APL its been a low and high journey but a fun one at that figuring out what my hair loves and hates keep your head up babe!]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 03:08:41 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326089.html#9326089 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : I bet it looks georgous... I&#039;m...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326048.html#9326048 Author: Miss Jones
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 1:24am

I bet it looks georgous... I'm sure in time you will find a way to make your hair work for you, until then just know you have a one up on tons of women who are tired of perms but to scared to BC, including me! Just like the other ladies said, keep it healthy and I'm sure you will love it!!! ]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 01:24:14 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326048.html#9326048 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : Give it some time My hair felt...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326046.html#9326046 Author: carolina cutie
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 23 2012 at 1:22am

Give it some time Hug

My hair felt a dry mess for quite some time after I BC'd because I did not know how to really care for it. I would:
DC weekly
Co-wash everyday if you want, then seal with oil
Wear a hair cap at night.

You can wear it in a cute twa/fro for now. You can use your fingers to shape your hair and gently pick apart any curls to get a uniformed fro look. I see so many cute fros now that spring is here, you'll look great!
]]> Fri, 23 Mar 2012 01:22:08 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9326046.html#9326046 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : MsKraizy maybe you are right,...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325594.html#9325594 Author: tvlady
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 22 2012 at 9:22pm

MsKraizy maybe you are right, I will get used to it.  I have like a lopsided fro now because it curled tightly on the right side and then I don't know what its doing on the left.  Then there are some straight parts in the back on the right side. I'm like WTH.  My mother has done this many times and her hair just curls automatically.  But usually when she did it her hair was shorter than mine.  I did transition for 6 months so my hair is almost as long as my pinky when stretched.  I hope I feel okay with it in time. ]]> Thu, 22 Mar 2012 21:22:47 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325594.html#9325594 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : A big chop is such a dramatic...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325579.html#9325579 Author: mskraizy
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 22 2012 at 9:16pm

A big chop is such a dramatic change, it shocks everyone. I felt the same way you did when I first cut off all my hair. And to make it worse, my mother yelled at me for a good day and then the following morning silent treatment so that didn't help. I seriously thought about perming it again and starting over with straight hair.

Give it time to settle on you. My curls didn't really start showing up until maybe 3 weeks of co-washes and deep conditioning. For 6-8 months I fought with trying to be comfortable with my newbie fro, all the while side eyeing perms for my default. It'll be 3.5 years come April and I have enjoyed my journey of being natural.

Chin up girl, it's not an easy change. Actually, I think many people feel how you do after a big chop. I know I did. Everything will be okay and when you hit your first nappyversary and are able to look back and see how far you've come and how much you've learned, you'll appreciate it even more. Your husband will grow to love it (if it's really what you want, he'll have to). It'll get easier, just got to weather the storm. You'll appreciate your hair more once it really starts flourishing.

Just you wait.

Hope everything gets better for ya!]]> Thu, 22 Mar 2012 21:16:05 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325579.html#9325579 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : *your*worriesUgh.. stupid replacement...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325564.html#9325564 Author: NataleeC
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 22 2012 at 9:08pm

*your
*worries




Ugh.. stupid replacement phone!! ]]> Thu, 22 Mar 2012 21:08:26 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325564.html#9325564 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : Wigs are always an option.. braids,...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325562.html#9325562 Author: NataleeC
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 22 2012 at 9:07pm

Wigs are always an option..
braids, weaves (if you have enough hair tp do it) can be great "in between" styles until you have adjusted to your natural hair. It may seem as if you've made the worst mistake of youe life, but once you've fully gotten used to your hair, the options will seem overwhelming and endless.
Also, once it grows out, you'll be amazed...
Just keep it healthy, and it will reward you.
Cheer up, the BC isn't for everyone, but now that you've done it, you can only move forward.
Your husband will get used to it too. No woreies. :)

Hakuna Matata :D]]> Thu, 22 Mar 2012 21:07:23 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325562.html#9325562 <![CDATA[I BC and I think I Regret It : My last relaxer was 6 months ago....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325534.html#9325534 Author: tvlady
Subject: 335873
Posted: Mar 22 2012 at 9:01pm

My last relaxer was 6 months ago.  I didn't intend to transition but it kind of happened.  Eventually my relaxed ends started to break off so I decided wth.  I went to a hair salon today, the barber reluctantly did my chop.  When he made the first cut, I thought wow I can't believe I'm doing this.  I rode the subway home and I just felt like everyone was looking at me.  I tried to beat my husband home so I would have a chance to wash it and put some product on it to bring out the curl, but he was home and the look on his face said it all.  He hated it.  I did wash it and used aveda be curl and qp mango butter and it still looks crazy. Its curly in some spots, straight in others. I'm thinking this might be a mistake, but there is no going back from a big chop Confused]]> Thu, 22 Mar 2012 21:01:07 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/i-bc-and-i-think-i-regret-it_topic335873_post9325534.html#9325534