Black Hair Media Forum : How to end a friendship

Black Hair Media Forum : How to end a friendship http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ Sun, 19 May 2013 15:21:14 +0000 Sun, 03 Mar 2013 19:21:49 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 10.15 360 Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=354908 <![CDATA[Black Hair Media Forum]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com//forum_images/BHM_Logo_v5_Forum.jpg http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : AwesomeAries wrote:update I...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180784.html#10180784 Author: Midna
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 7:21pm

AwesomeAries wrote:

update I went to her mother's house to tell her mother and try to help her, her mother called her to come over so everyone could talk

this bish showed up, slashed my tires and left

Her mother paid for me to get new tires

and begged me not to whip her ass

don't care what is wrong with that heifer

this friendship is null and void

SHE IS THE WEAKEST LINK.

G'BYE!!]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 19:21:49 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180784.html#10180784 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : AwesomeAries wrote:I just feel...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180757.html#10180757 Author: Midna
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 7:16pm

AwesomeAries wrote:

I just feel so bad for this person. I don't know if they had a nervous break down or what but they literally held me hostage, and even after all the mess they caused they can't see the problem. This person already has abandonment issues. Idk I was taught to try to talk your problems out but I can't deal with crazy.

Sounds like you're dealing with a person who has Borderline Personality.

Cold of me to say this, but I don't blame you for cutting them off. But I suggest you run far away because their pain is MAGNIFIED and can cause irrational action worse than keeping one hostage in their own car.

]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 19:16:07 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180757.html#10180757 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : AwesomeAries wrote:Lmfao Hell...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180486.html#10180486 Author: ShadyLady
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 4:59pm

AwesomeAries wrote:

Lmfao Hell no.
She slashed my tires because I told her mother, like Bhm told me to do

Nope, not all of BHM

.

But at least you got her nutty ass outta your life. Gotta take the bad with the good sometimes.]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 16:59:33 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180486.html#10180486 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : from what she did b4 i wouldn't...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180480.html#10180480 Author: rell85
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 4:58pm

from what she did b4 i wouldn't go near lol her family can't control her guess you know to stay away now.]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 16:58:15 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180480.html#10180480 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : Lmfao Hell no.She slashed my tires...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180466.html#10180466 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 4:51pm

Lmfao Hell no.
She slashed my tires because I told her mother, like Bhm told me to do

]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 16:51:29 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10180466.html#10180466 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : SamoneLenior wrote:wow she...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179800.html#10179800 Author: ModelessDiva
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 9:26am

SamoneLenior wrote:

wow she is really off

This

khivey wrote:

So were you guys lovers?

And this.
Because homegirl is doing a little too much.

This sounds like something a ex did. I wish one of my friends would.
]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 09:26:32 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179800.html#10179800 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : she slashed your tires?!?!? this...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179797.html#10179797 Author: keepgrowing
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 9:23am

she slashed your tires?!?!? this girl is crazzzzzy. Leave her alone. ]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 09:23:08 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179797.html#10179797 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : rofl ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179789.html#10179789 Author: Bunnyahh
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 9:17am

rofl LOL

]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 09:17:03 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179789.html#10179789 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : So were you guys lovers? ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179775.html#10179775 Author: khivey
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 9:07am

So were you guys lovers?

]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 09:07:17 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179775.html#10179775 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : wow she is really off ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179743.html#10179743 Author: SamoneLenior
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 8:26am

wow she is really off

]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 08:26:44 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179743.html#10179743 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : I never wanted to hurt my friendI...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179724.html#10179724 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 7:50am

I never wanted to hurt my friend

I don't understand why she wants to hurt me

I really just don't Cry

]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 07:50:41 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179724.html#10179724 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : AwesomeAries wrote: update...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179713.html#10179713 Author: beautiful_hair
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 7:11am

AwesomeAries wrote:

update I went to her mother's house to tell her mother and try to help her, her mother called her to come over so everyone could talk

this bish showed up, slashed my tires and left

Her mother paid for me to get new tires

and begged me not to whip her ass

don't care what is wrong with that heifer

this friendship is null and void

OMG!!! Yeah I would be too through with her. I would really want to punch her in the throat for slashing my tires. She better be glad you respect her mother.

]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 07:11:32 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179713.html#10179713 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : update I went to her mother's...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179708.html#10179708 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Mar 03 2013 at 7:01am

update I went to her mother's house to tell her mother and try to help her, her mother called her to come over so everyone could talk

this bish showed up, slashed my tires and left

Her mother paid for me to get new tires

and begged me not to whip her ass

don't care what is wrong with that heifer

this friendship is null and void

Edited by AwesomeAries - Mar 03 2013 at 7:02am]]> Sun, 03 Mar 2013 07:01:57 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10179708.html#10179708 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : I have no problem ignoring calls...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156680.html#10156680 Author: BBpants
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 7:28pm

I have no problem ignoring calls or text.

One time a guy didn't get the hint so I played loud music into the phone until he hung up Lmao ]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 19:28:06 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156680.html#10156680 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : teendiva wrote:Ignore their...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156666.html#10156666 Author: EPITOME
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 7:18pm

teendiva wrote:

Ignore their calls and when they text you say, "who is this?"

]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 19:18:45 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156666.html#10156666 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : maysay1 wrote: AwesomeAries...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156638.html#10156638 Author: ShadyLady
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 7:01pm

maysay1 wrote:

AwesomeAries wrote:

Nita that's what I am thinking maybe I should tell her mother/ grandmother.

From personal experience, that can go really bad.

I told a former friend's mother some questionable stuff her daughter was doing cuz I was really concerned. Next thing you know, she accused me off trying to "leave her" and turn her family against her.

It turned the situation from creepy/clingy bad to angry/violent bad.

]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 19:01:08 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156638.html#10156638 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : AwesomeAries wrote:If one...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156624.html#10156624 Author: OrriannaRose
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 6:55pm

AwesomeAries wrote:

If one of your friends does something to you to really betray your trust. You talk to them about it and they just don't seem to get it. You have been friends with this person 7 years +
Is it wrong just to stop talking to them?
Don't answer calls or text messages?
Just a note the last time I tried to stop talking to this person they had an emotional fit, took my keys out my car and pretty much held me hostage.
I'm just trying to go about this in an adult way.

AwesomeAries wrote:

Thankfully she hasn't been to my new place. I am serious she took my keys and retreated into her house. It took me 20+ minutes to get them back.

I've been in the same situation before. She took my keys so I couldn't leave. I cut her unstable a$$ off.

]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 18:55:31 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156624.html#10156624 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : email her or write a letter...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156312.html#10156312 Author: rell85
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:53pm

email her or write a letter saying it's over and maybe a restraining order]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 16:53:53 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10156312.html#10156312 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : Ignore their calls and when they...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155553.html#10155553 Author: teendiva
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 1:04pm

Ignore their calls and when they text you say, "who is this?"]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 13:04:37 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155553.html#10155553 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : AwesomeAries wrote:Nita that's...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155345.html#10155345 Author: maysay1
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 11:14am

AwesomeAries wrote:

Nita that's what I am thinking maybe I should tell her mother/ grandmother.

I think this is the best idea.

Call them, let them know something odd is going on with her (describe the hostage situation), and then keep it moving from there.

The fact is she betrayed your friendship so you're not obligated to stay friends. But since you have been friends so long, it would definitely be nice of you to let her family know that she is having some serious issues.
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 11:14:51 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155345.html#10155345 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : ShadyLady wrote:Ignoring a...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155247.html#10155247 Author: Naturalchick30
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 10:28am

ShadyLady wrote:

Ignoring a person is not bad if you know for a fact that they'll be irrational if you try to cut them off verbally.

I have no problem ignoring people when I don't wanna be bothered with them anymore. I can show em better than I can tell em.

I've done this before. It works.

]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 10:28:56 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155247.html#10155247 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : Which is Why I won't be going...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155240.html#10155240 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 10:25am

Which is Why I won't be going near her]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 10:25:55 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155240.html#10155240 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : That might be a good idea. I don't...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155070.html#10155070 Author: nitabug
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:51am

That might be a good idea. I don't know her family dynamic but emotional/psychological issues should be addressed in any way that will help her and not harm you.
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:51:53 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155070.html#10155070 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : Nita that's what I am thinking...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155055.html#10155055 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:43am

Nita that's what I am thinking maybe I should tell her mother/ grandmother. ]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:43:21 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155055.html#10155055 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : You need to stay away from her...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155053.html#10155053 Author: nitabug
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:41am

You need to stay away from her and consider your safety/personal well being.

She may inadvertently hurt you.
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:41:43 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155053.html#10155053 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : I can't deal with being held...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155052.html#10155052 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:39am

I can't deal with being held hostage. I don't think that's normal. I just don't know. ]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:39:25 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155052.html#10155052 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : well she needs you nore more than...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155050.html#10155050 Author: James Avery
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:36am

well she needs you nore more than ever. she's probably going through something and she hasn't told you or anyone else about it. she may need professional help at this juncture. ]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:36:39 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155050.html#10155050 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : James she had a breakdown she...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155047.html#10155047 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:33am

James she had a breakdown she got in her bed. Said she wanted to fix it but she would not hear me out. She shoke her head no for like 10 minutes straight. I have never been held hostage before.

Edited by AwesomeAries - Feb 20 2013 at 8:34am]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:33:12 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155047.html#10155047 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : Eanaj we are about an hour awayWe...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155044.html#10155044 Author: AwesomeAries
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:30am

Eanaj we are about an hour away
We are both busy so not really the same circle of friends
I don't really think I could call the police on her tbh. I would hate to do that to a friend. ]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:30:22 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155044.html#10155044 <![CDATA[How to end a friendship : I would just tell her that you...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155043.html#10155043 Author: beebeexx
Subject: 354908
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:29am

I would just tell her that you guys need a break. especially if it's just over one incident...
now if she has a 7 year history of being toxic that's another thing

but I've learned some people don't get things overnight. I cut a friend off once and in a conversation we had with him trying to "win" me back (so to speak) he brought up something I said to him moooooonths ago. something I thought was basic and felt I shouldn't have had to essentially beg for. but it took him that long to get it.

so IMO take a step back, let her know you need some space and in the meanwhile she should really take some time to think about the situation (whatever that may be) and work on herself as well. ]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 08:29:16 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/how-to-end-a-friendship_topic354908_post10155043.html#10155043