Black Hair Media Forum : Bad family perceptions. http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ Tue, 21 May 2013 14:55:43 +0000 Wed, 20 Feb 2013 20:36:38 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 10.15 360 Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=354885 <![CDATA[Black Hair Media Forum]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com//forum_images/BHM_Logo_v5_Forum.jpg http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Prazol60 wrote:If the things...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10156847.html#10156847 Author: miana79
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:36pm

Originally posted by Prazol60 Prazol60 wrote:

If the things they said are true of your past, then you just have to face up to them and roll with it. People change of course but it is difficult for people to know the new improved you. If they are lies then talk to the people you want  to get closer to and tell them they can ask you anything and lay it all out on the table. The good, the bad and horrible. Meanwhile, keep away from those you feel are hurting your reputation. Saying anything to them will just make them more interested. Don't feed those trolls.
 
she aint gotta explain sh*t to them.Confused 
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 20:36:38 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10156847.html#10156847 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Thanx all! ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10156834.html#10156834 Author: sbrownie84
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 8:32pm

Thanx all!]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 20:32:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10156834.html#10156834 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Write a letter to the eldest member...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154931.html#10154931 Author: soarlikecruz
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 6:46am

Write a letter to the eldest member of your family in the carribean, people should believe that over anything else]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 06:46:34 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154931.html#10154931 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Cut her off, I&#039;m cruel but...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154930.html#10154930 Author: soarlikecruz
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 6:45am

Cut her off, I'm cruel but her having children wouldn't mean anything to me. No offense but if your fam was smart they would be wondering where she got her info from and coming to you to see of the mess is true. If they choose to believe her over what you have to say then what can you really do? You live in the US though, your cousin needs a life
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 06:45:45 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154930.html#10154930 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : FarraFace wrote: any voices...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154915.html#10154915 Author: Naturalchick30
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 6:25am

Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

Quote any voices of reason here?


No. Confused
LOL
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 06:25:58 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154915.html#10154915 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : If the things they said are true...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154847.html#10154847 Author: Prazol60
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 4:21am

If the things they said are true of your past, then you just have to face up to them and roll with it. People change of course but it is difficult for people to know the new improved you. If they are lies then talk to the people you want  to get closer to and tell them they can ask you anything and lay it all out on the table. The good, the bad and horrible. Meanwhile, keep away from those you feel are hurting your reputation. Saying anything to them will just make them more interested. Don't feed those trolls.
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 04:21:23 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154847.html#10154847 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : FarraFace wrote: any voices...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154839.html#10154839 Author: BBpants
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 20 2013 at 3:59am

Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

Quote any voices of reason here?


No. Confused


LOL
]]> Wed, 20 Feb 2013 03:59:41 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154839.html#10154839 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : update your family b4 she...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154520.html#10154520 Author: rell85
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 11:33pm

update your family b4 she start spreading that way they'll get to know you.]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 23:33:43 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154520.html#10154520 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : People are gonna talk dirt all...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154313.html#10154313 Author: miana79
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 10:36pm

People are gonna talk dirt all the time that is just life! When they meet and see you in person they can form a real opinion of you and get to know you-and they will see that the rumors were bull sh**t! honestly if a set of people will judge me based on hear say then I honestly am not missing a damn thing!]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 22:36:06 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10154313.html#10154313 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : One of my cousins did something...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153955.html#10153955 Author: nitabug
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:44pm

One of my cousins did something similar. I didn't talk to her for 12 years, and it would have been longer if I didn't run into her at the mall last month. I just didn't want to be petty, so I let it go. But I wont be talking to that bish no mo if I can help it.


Edited by nitabug - Feb 19 2013 at 8:44pm]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:44:35 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153955.html#10153955 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : If I were you, I&#039;d cut...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153925.html#10153925 Author: OrriannaRose
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:33pm

If I were you, I'd cut her off. People like her are toxic. There's really not much you can do about the lies she's spread. If it was my cousin though, I'd beat her a$$ like she stole something. Stern Smile

Edited by OrriannaRose - Feb 19 2013 at 8:34pm]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:33:43 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153925.html#10153925 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : don&#039;t worry about whatever...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153909.html#10153909 Author: rickysrose
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:27pm

don't worry about whatever perception she's crafted

just be yourself, spend time with who you want to and live

the truth will settle to the top


]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:27:02 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153909.html#10153909 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Stop allowing anyone to upset...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153900.html#10153900 Author: india100
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:24pm

Stop allowing anyone to upset you !! You know what type of person you are . If people choose to believe lies , nothing you can do to change that . Fake , Evil people thrive on Negativity .  ]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:24:11 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153900.html#10153900 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : FarraFace wrote: any voices...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153899.html#10153899 Author: rickysrose
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:23pm

Originally posted by FarraFace FarraFace wrote:

Quote any voices of reason here?


No. Confused

Farra!  LOL
]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:23:48 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153899.html#10153899 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : ^^^I tried to tell her. ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153897.html#10153897 Author: FarraFace
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:23pm

^^^I tried to tell her. ]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:23:01 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153897.html#10153897 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : this advice ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153894.html#10153894 Author: Princess_S
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:21pm

this advice Dead]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:21:11 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153894.html#10153894 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : nitabug wrote:Stop fcking...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153885.html#10153885 Author: SamoneLenior
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:17pm

Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Stop fcking with your cousin and rebrand yourself.


and beat her ass if need be

make sure she hits you first


Edited by SamoneLenior - Feb 19 2013 at 8:23pm]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:17:51 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153885.html#10153885 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Stop fcking with your cousin and...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153880.html#10153880 Author: nitabug
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:15pm

Stop fcking with your cousin and rebrand yourself.]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:15:39 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153880.html#10153880 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : miana79 wrote:more background...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153878.html#10153878 Author: FarraFace
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:14pm

Originally posted by miana79 miana79 wrote:

more background info needed!


OP, gurrrlllll............

]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:14:22 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153878.html#10153878 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : more background info needed! ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153864.html#10153864 Author: miana79
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 8:03pm

more background info needed!]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:03:54 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153864.html#10153864 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : she need her azz beat ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153815.html#10153815 Author: HaitianLuv
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:42pm

she need her azz beat ]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:42:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153815.html#10153815 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Why do you feel you have to undo...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153812.html#10153812 Author: maysay1
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:41pm

Why do you feel you have to undo anything? People are going to think what they want to, regardless of what you say or do. Just let them keep thinking it while you continue to be a lovely person to them.

And if it's affecting your livelihood in any way, just make sure to keep family and business separate (as in, don't ever do business with them).
]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:41:53 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153812.html#10153812 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : I think you have mentioned her...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153811.html#10153811 Author: CamiK
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:41pm

I think you have mentioned her before on here right?  Stay away from her...]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:41:07 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153811.html#10153811 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : i&#039;m just trying to find out...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153809.html#10153809 Author: ThoughtCouture
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:39pm

i'm just trying to find out if this is the same cousin still messing with the op...lol]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:39:58 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153809.html#10153809 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : TC, when did you get so damn messy?! ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153804.html#10153804 Author: FarraFace
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:38pm

TC, when did you get so damn messy?! Dead]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:38:02 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153804.html#10153804 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Flowing-Ice wrote:bhm is...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153801.html#10153801 Author: FarraFace
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:37pm

Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

bhm is tired. LOL

We have nothing left to give. Not even a baby spoon worth.
]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:37:18 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153801.html#10153801 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : are you the poster that like the...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153800.html#10153800 Author: ThoughtCouture
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:37pm

are you the poster that like the guy in ja but your cousin and aunts were all in your bizness telling you to be beware because he had a woman or something like that?

]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:37:02 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153800.html#10153800 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : bhm is tired. ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153793.html#10153793 Author: Flowing-Ice
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:34pm

bhm is tired. LOL]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:34:03 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153793.html#10153793 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : any voices of reason here?No....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153790.html#10153790 Author: FarraFace
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:32pm

Quote any voices of reason here?


No. Confused
]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:32:37 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153790.html#10153790 <![CDATA[Bad family perceptions. : Have you ever been in a situation...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153784.html#10153784 Author: sbrownie84
Subject: 354885
Posted: Feb 19 2013 at 7:31pm

Have you ever been in a situation where there is one manipulative family who constantly spreads dirt about you behind your back? I am sort of in a situation like this. Is it really hard to outdo an entire family perception of you.

 
It is kind of hard for me b/c as I mentioned in a previous thread, my fathers side of the family lives in the Caribbean. My cousin Sade seems to have major pull on the family with her opinions and it does not help since i live in the US. So for years she would continue to lie and exaggerate all of my inadequacies to her friends and family and my family would believe it all. My cousin is the biggest busbody and seems very obessed with detail in my life. Throughout the years that i distanced myself from her she always seemed to reach out to me in hopes of us to clear the air and have a good relationship, but I never relented b/c I never trusted her. She had a baby 2 years ago and I decided to let bygones be bygones and feed her with a long spoon. Only for me to realize that she fished to find out a particularly personal yet embarrssing situation I was in. She decided to spread all of the news like wildfire to my family in the Caribbean. 
 
It is just so much damage I have to undo b/c these people seem to have a set perception of me given by her. It's hard b/c I want my family to get to know the real me. not the person she has portrayed me to be...... any voices of reason here?


Edited by sbrownie84 - Feb 19 2013 at 7:42pm]]> Tue, 19 Feb 2013 19:31:24 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/bad-family-perceptions_topic354885_post10153784.html#10153784