Black Hair Media Forum : At what age will you "panic" http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ Fri, 24 May 2013 09:50:52 +0000 Sun, 18 Nov 2012 02:29:19 +0000 http://blogs.law.harvard.edu/tech/rss Web Wiz Forums 10.15 360 Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/RSS_post_feed.asp?TID=350871 <![CDATA[Black Hair Media Forum]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com//forum_images/BHM_Logo_v5_Forum.jpg http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/ <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Veemack wrote:Have a good...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932294.html#9932294 Author: khivey
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 2:29am

Originally posted by Veemack Veemack wrote:

Have a good attitude, work on your life purpose and career.
Learn how to manage your finances, because if you cannot do it as a single woman you cannot manage the finances for a husband and children. While you are single work on being the best woman you can be. A good catch is more than just a woman with a pretty face, you must have a good attitude and some substance to your life. Do not look for a man he will find you, they always do, those that are interested see you, trust me. If you desire a husband do not date a man for a long time 3 years is max, if he is the one, and he feels you are the one then it should not take him 10 years to propose marriage. If he is not the one then be friends and move one. Ladies do not allow a man to use up your precious years, while he figures things out. Always be willing to walk away if you are not married. And do not have sex with men so quickly, this is the huge mistake women make while dating. Value your body enough to save yourself for someone who is worthy. If you do not follow bible principles of waiting until marriage to give yourself to a man, still have enough respect for yourself to get to know the man longer. You may find out something 2 months down the line you do not like about him, and it is easier to walk away if that man does not have a piece of you. Once you open your body to a man that is a soul tie, whether you stay together or not. Use wisdom and know your value behind close doors. Many women fake to the world that they are tough and have it together, but behind closed doors some man is running them over. Use wisdom, you are precious and valuable.


Word!Star
]]> Sun, 18 Nov 2012 02:29:19 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932294.html#9932294 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : EPITOME wrote:there is a difference...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932227.html#9932227 Author: uppitynegroid
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 18 2012 at 12:44am

Originally posted by EPITOME EPITOME wrote:

there is a difference between settling and compromising

Its important to know the difference so you don't play yourself.  I refuse to settle, as in I won't marry someone with a character flaw that makes staying married to them almost impossible.  Immaturity, dishonesty, abuse, disrespect are all a no-no.  

Now if he has everything going for him but he's not physically my ideal, not yet settled in his career the way he'd like to be, then yeah, no harm in compromising.

I don't think I could ever manage to be in a relationship with someone I wasn't attracted to.  People seem to do it though, and make it work.  Not sure how...
]]> Sun, 18 Nov 2012 00:44:45 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932227.html#9932227 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : carolina cutie wrote: ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932174.html#9932174 Author: carolina cutie
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:53pm

Originally posted by carolina cutie carolina cutie wrote:

Originally posted by bg bg wrote:

Wow.

i don't know if this thread is funny or depressing...
A little of both.Dead
I take it back. Minus a few posts, it's depressing and kind of explains some things about some RL folk's actions.
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 23:53:33 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932174.html#9932174 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Have a good attitude, work on...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932133.html#9932133 Author: Veemack
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 11:28pm

Have a good attitude, work on your life purpose and career.
Learn how to manage your finances, because if you cannot do it as a single woman you cannot manage the finances for a husband and children. While you are single work on being the best woman you can be. A good catch is more than just a woman with a pretty face, you must have a good attitude and some substance to your life. Do not look for a man he will find you, they always do, those that are interested see you, trust me. If you desire a husband do not date a man for a long time 3 years is max, if he is the one, and he feels you are the one then it should not take him 10 years to propose marriage. If he is not the one then be friends and move one. Ladies do not allow a man to use up your precious years, while he figures things out. Always be willing to walk away if you are not married. And do not have sex with men so quickly, this is the huge mistake women make while dating. Value your body enough to save yourself for someone who is worthy. If you do not follow bible principles of waiting until marriage to give yourself to a man, still have enough respect for yourself to get to know the man longer. You may find out something 2 months down the line you do not like about him, and it is easier to walk away if that man does not have a piece of you. Once you open your body to a man that is a soul tie, whether you stay together or not. Use wisdom and know your value behind close doors. Many women fake to the world that they are tough and have it together, but behind closed doors some man is running them over. Use wisdom, you are precious and valuable.
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 23:28:43 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9932133.html#9932133 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : i never went into panic mode because...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931784.html#9931784 Author: petiteone29
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:59pm

i never went into panic mode because i didnt really care about getting married or having kids. i liked being single. me and my friends always said i would be the last one to get married and i was ok with that. 4 years later i got married and they are in panic mode now in their early 30s. they think life starts when they get married. i tell them to enjoy being single and enjoy life. i know they relly want kids soon though. im the only one with kids right now.]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 19:59:27 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931784.html#9931784 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : *phew* So I have 9 years before...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931717.html#9931717 Author: Gumdrop92
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:28pm

*phew* So I have 9 years before I'm considered pathetic...lol]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 19:28:05 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931717.html#9931717 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : there is a difference between...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931679.html#9931679 Author: EPITOME
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:11pm

there is a difference between settling and compromising]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 19:11:28 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931679.html#9931679 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : I&#039;d prefer to be alone than...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931663.html#9931663 Author: AmyAmyAmy
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 7:04pm

I'd prefer to be alone than settle.]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 19:04:30 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931663.html#9931663 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : ms_wonderland wrote:i do...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931564.html#9931564 Author: zolloh
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 6:18pm

Originally posted by ms_wonderland ms_wonderland wrote:

i do think that there is an age when you need to realize that your standards may not be up to what you can get.  time to turn the microscope on yourself.  if it's that important to you, you need to just settle for something else b/c that guy/girl is not coming alongyou need to just settle for something else b/c that guy/girl is not coming along.  you've convinced yourself of something unobtainable for way too long.

I disagree.

My ideal waltzed into my life after I hit 30. By then I had come into my own, got sick of the idiots i was dating and was single for 4-5yrs, the panic had come and gone and for my 29th birthday i decided to start my phd. What I knew was that I was prepared (and still am) to be alone than settle with less than, just to be with somebody *shrugs*.

]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 18:18:55 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931564.html#9931564 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : i do think that there is an age...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931333.html#9931333 Author: ms_wonderland
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 4:19pm

i do think that there is an age when you need to realize that your standards may not be up to what you can get.  time to turn the microscope on yourself.  if it's that important to you, you need to just settle for something else b/c that guy/girl is not coming along.  you've convinced yourself of something unobtainable for way too long.]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 16:19:41 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931333.html#9931333 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : I&#039;m hoping that all of these...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931179.html#9931179 Author: rickysrose
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 2:46pm

I'm hoping that all of these outlandish opinions are because y'all are looking at this hypothetically



]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 14:46:57 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931179.html#9931179 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : I want to be done having kids...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931178.html#9931178 Author: **Sk!TtLeS B**
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 2:44pm

I want to be done having kids by 32-33 (that is, if I have them), so I guess I'd want to get married sometime between 27-30. If it doesnt happen that way, I'll be fine.]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 14:44:27 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931178.html#9931178 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Marriage is dependant upon another...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931171.html#9931171 Author: EPITOME
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 2:37pm

Marriage is dependant upon another person. You cannot compare it to losing weight which is a solitary effort and is a solitary endeavor. There seems to be an air of superiority amongst those who have ” found someone” ]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 14:37:16 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931171.html#9931171 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : I hope I&#039;m settled down by...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931148.html#9931148 Author: nala52808
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 2:24pm

I hope I'm settled down by age 27. My mama's been askin for grandkids since I was 17Dead, so I will panic if I ain't murried wit kids by then.]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 14:24:12 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931148.html#9931148 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Interesting thread.... ]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931115.html#9931115 Author: FarraFace
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 2:08pm

Interesting thread....]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 14:08:01 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931115.html#9931115 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Well then Nita, I&#039;d have...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931078.html#9931078 Author: uppitynegroid
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:44pm

Well then Nita, I'd have to agree with you.  If you set out to do something from an early age and never accomplish it, then that makes you a failure.  Like I said though, that makes you human.  We all will fail at something or at least we're not all a complete success at everything we set out to do.  Marriage, parenting, career, finances, the list goes on.  ]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:44:54 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931078.html#9931078 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Positive K wrote:Some women...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931050.html#9931050 Author: Flowing-Ice
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:28pm

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

Some women have unrealistic standards until they get older, then those preferences start coming down. Like that chick on that ABC special talking bout "At first he had to be 6'5, then it came down to 6'3, then 6'0...."

lol. 
i think thats why many older women find "love at first sight" 
they don't have much left to cling to.
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:28:07 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931050.html#9931050 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Bunnyahh wrote: Flowing-Ice...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931041.html#9931041 Author: Flowing-Ice
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:23pm

Originally posted by Bunnyahh Bunnyahh wrote:

Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

I won't say every woman that makes it to 30 without marriage is sad or unrealistic...but a lot of women are trying to wait for something that doesn't exist...they won't ever get married until they figure out what is it inside of them that is stopping them from meeting and connecting with a decent dude

i don't think thats true.
a lot of women have very realistic standards. 

they just ... have bad decision making and judgement. 
the stats prove otherwise

that people have unrealistic standards? 
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:23:10 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931041.html#9931041 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : uppitynegroid wrote: ...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931038.html#9931038 Author: SoutherNtellect
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:21pm

Originally posted by uppitynegroid uppitynegroid wrote:

Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Let me be clear. I am not talking about ALL women. I am talking about a population of women.
those that want to be married early, early twenties or so....will panic around 27-29 and are like 30+...lets just say 35ish AND STILL UNWED.

It's sad that you thought about wedding bells since childhood/teens, became an adult and it never happened. You've been wanting it to happen but it just. never. did. Sad...AF.

Just like someone who is fat, and dieting for 10 plus years and never has lost weight.

Just like someone who has bad credit/finances and after 10+ years is still broke after trying...for all that time.

Someone is going about reaching their destination in the wrong way. It's like watching a dementia patient trying to find his/her way home. Disapprove

LOL


Confused]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:21:47 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931038.html#9931038 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : nitabug wrote:Let me be clear....]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931026.html#9931026 Author: uppitynegroid
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:18pm

Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

Let me be clear. I am not talking about ALL women. I am talking about a population of women.
those that want to be married early, early twenties or so....will panic around 27-29 and are like 30+...lets just say 35ish AND STILL UNWED.

It's sad that you thought about wedding bells since childhood/teens, became an adult and it never happened. You've been wanting it to happen but it just. never. did. Sad...AF.

Just like someone who is fat, and dieting for 10 plus years and never has lost weight.

Just like someone who has bad credit/finances and after 10+ years is still broke after trying...for all that time.

Someone is going about reaching their destination in the wrong way. It's like watching a dementia patient trying to find his/her way home. Disapprove

LOL


]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:18:18 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931026.html#9931026 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Sang Froid wrote: Positive...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931023.html#9931023 Author: Bunnyahh
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:17pm

Originally posted by Sang Froid Sang Froid wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

I won't say every woman that makes it to 30 without marriage is sad or unrealistic...but a lot of women are trying to wait for something that doesn't exist...they won't ever get married until they figure out what is it inside of them that is stopping them from meeting and connecting with a decent dude

Black men end up staying with a nigguh that ain't never gone marry their asses.
We see this more often.
blk women & yes I see it all the time. on bhm & irl.  Ruining the natural order & stunting the growth of progress]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:17:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931023.html#9931023 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : And I know there are many other...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931020.html#9931020 Author: nitabug
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:15pm

And I know there are many other factors...because there are millions of ways/combinations to fail.

& no...the person who just married anybody isnt better, just like the person who starved themselves isn't any better, nor is the person who robbed the poor...

but that is a different conversation, and just puts the light else where...which might be the reason why it's taking some people 10+ years
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:15:57 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931020.html#9931020 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Flowing-Ice wrote: Positive...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931018.html#9931018 Author: Bunnyahh
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:14pm

Originally posted by Flowing-Ice Flowing-Ice wrote:

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

I won't say every woman that makes it to 30 without marriage is sad or unrealistic...but a lot of women are trying to wait for something that doesn't exist...they won't ever get married until they figure out what is it inside of them that is stopping them from meeting and connecting with a decent dude

i don't think thats true.
a lot of women have very realistic standards. 

they just ... have bad decision making and judgement. 
the stats prove otherwise]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:14:09 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931018.html#9931018 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Let me be clear. I am not talking...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931014.html#9931014 Author: nitabug
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:13pm

Let me be clear. I am not talking about ALL women. I am talking about a population of women.
those that want to be married early, early twenties or so....will panic around 27-29 and are like 30+...lets just say 35ish AND STILL UNWED.

It's sad that you thought about wedding bells since childhood/teens, became an adult and it never happened. You've been wanting it to happen but it just. never. did. Sad...AF.

Just like someone who is fat, and dieting for 10 plus years and never has lost weight.

Just like someone who has bad credit/finances and after 10+ years is still broke after trying...for all that time.

Someone is going about reaching their destination in the wrong way. It's like watching a dementia patient trying to find his/her way home. Disapprove
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:13:04 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931014.html#9931014 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Positive K wrote:I won&#039;t...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931012.html#9931012 Author: Flowing-Ice
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:11pm

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

I won't say every woman that makes it to 30 without marriage is sad or unrealistic...but a lot of women are trying to wait for something that doesn't exist...they won't ever get married until they figure out what is it inside of them that is stopping them from meeting and connecting with a decent dude

i don't think thats true.
a lot of women have very realistic standards. 

they just ... have bad decision making and judgement. 
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:11:13 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931012.html#9931012 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Positive K wrote:I won&#039;t...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931008.html#9931008 Author: Sang Froid
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:09pm

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

I won't say every woman that makes it to 30 without marriage is sad or unrealistic...but a lot of women are trying to wait for something that doesn't exist...they won't ever get married until they figure out what is it inside of them that is stopping them from meeting and connecting with a decent dude

Black men end up staying with a nigguh that ain't never gone marry their asses.
We see this more often.
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:09:07 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931008.html#9931008 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Positive K wrote:I won&#039;t...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931007.html#9931007 Author: Bunnyahh
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:08pm

Originally posted by Positive K Positive K wrote:

I won't say every woman that makes it to 30 without marriage is sad or unrealistic...but a lot of women are trying to wait for something that doesn't exist...they won't ever get married until they figure out what is it inside of them that is stopping them from meeting and connecting with a decent dude
ClapLamp this is what I was saying about my other thread & compromising their list of requirements.  Some are too bullheaded to see it tho]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:08:52 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9931007.html#9931007 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : Hmm, not sure. I don&#039;t think...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9930995.html#9930995 Author: nimkola
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:05pm

Hmm, not sure. I don't think I want kids (doubtful I can have them anyway) and I've never really been fussed with relationships.
Eh...maybe I'll panic at 35.
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:05:18 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9930995.html#9930995 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : nitabug wrote:after 10+ years,...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9930984.html#9930984 Author: uppitynegroid
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:02pm

Originally posted by nitabug nitabug wrote:

after 10+ years, sh*t, you should have a better algorithm than pandora by then.

I get it, but I don't buy it. It's still sad. Certain goals unaccomplished are just sad to me after a decade has past.

I've been dating since 19 (8 years) and i would be lying if I said I have never dated someone who was marriage material.  I would say in those 8 years there is definitely 1 boyfriend that I could have had a healthy, normal marriage with.  I wasn't in love with him and had no physical attraction to him whatsoever.  I'll tell you in a few years if I regret my decision...

Anyway, its human to make mistakes and mess up relationships.  I know maybe two people who married their 1st or 2nd boyfriend.  Most people date several men, make mistakes, waste time in ending relationships that obviously won't work, get their heart broken, etc.  I don't think that makes you a failure unless you never learn your lesson from it.  

There are a ton of factors (some being out of your control) that can lead you to be over 30 an unmarried.  I don't know if I would make a character assessment based on the age a woman marries. People who marry in their twenties don't necessarily have it all figured out either, since that is the median marrying age and based on statistics about half of them don't stay married.


]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:02:26 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9930984.html#9930984 <![CDATA[At what age will you "panic" : If you feel it&#039;s sad then...]]> http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9930980.html#9930980 Author: Babydoll9163
Subject: 350871
Posted: Nov 17 2012 at 1:01pm

If you feel it's sad then that's your opinion. I'm just differentiating between the so called "goal" and the reality. If it was just a "goal" most could check it off in a certain time limit. I just wouldn't label people as "sad" for holding out for something real.
]]> Sat, 17 Nov 2012 13:01:27 +0000 http://Forum.BlackHairMedia.com/at-what-age-will-you-panic_topic350871_post9930980.html#9930980