Regardless of how you see yourself ....How your family sees you.. and how your friends see you... most of the world will only see you as a by product of what you can do for them. 

"What have you done for me lately?" 

"What have you done for me lately!!!?" -Janet Jackson

If the world didn't work this way then we would all fester in our own vacuum accomplishing nothing and moving know where.

There's a reason why major cities are hubs for grand idea's, new philosophies , innovative design and technology with the goal of utilizing the resources already in place / established by others to build your own set of amenities or initiatives

thats why The Wire was so brilliant BHM ( Im just ranting now). Its like.. people are good..yes.. people are bad...(Depending on what side you stand on) but people will utilize institutional systems to benefit themselves and others... or just themselves .. The beneficiaries on the outside will say "that person is great"... Those who don't benefit will say " That person is terrible"

And these systems are not linear. They're overlapping and complicated driving some to become hermits and smolder in their own misery rather than confront the complexities of establishment. Its insane. Its life